Body Image/Eating/Movement

Exercise goal in a loving way

Hi coaches! I’ve been thinking a lot about my spring goal and it’s all a muddle for me. I’m creating results in lots of areas I’ve quit one job so I’ve more time and space for me/studying/my business. So I feel things are falling in to place and will even more so when I’ll work …

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Body tempature

Dear coaches, I have a short question about my BBT. I’m measering my tempature now for a while. And the last 2,5 months I’ve tempatures under the 36 celcius. To be exact 9 days from the 2.5 months was under the 36 celcius and the lowest was 35.45 celcius. Maisie is writing in her book …

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Self-worth and habits

I’ve been noticing a big connection more and more with how low I feel and how hard I am on myself when I feel like I’m in a period of low energy and “bad habits”. I go through stages of really low energy (not connected to health – all blood tests etc are normal), don’t …

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Uncertainty about diet

Dear coaches My word for 2023 is self-love which I’ve been using as monthly goals to prioritise my physical, emotional and mental health. As part of that, I gave up Slimming World which although had previously helped me lose 1 stone, I had slowly put back on and was increasing my feelings of guilt and …

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Overwhelm and comparison

Hi, I am feeling particularly overwhelmed at the moment and I’m noticing its affecting many areas of my life. I am working on my business and feel like I’m making little progress as I see what others are doing in a similar field and worry I’m not up to it…then that my website isn’t good …

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Losing Weight Part 3

I’ve been on a journey with my weight since joining the Flow Collective six months ago and I believe I’ve made some progress in unlearning much of the body hatred I’ve carried around (as shown in my two previous Ask a Coach queries). I still am not able to make enough time for yoga as …

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Unhealthy Eating Habits

I am struggling with motivation and will power when choosing what snacks to eat. One of my rocks to work towards a larger goal of HEALTH for myself is to change my relationship with sugar. I am addicted to sugar. I am successfully changing the main meals that I eat and have had a successful …

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Body image

I have been taking steps to become an intuitive eater as I want to not feel rubbish about how I look. It’s been going well and all in all I have felt okay. However I cannot help look at myself in photos and feel terrible about the way I look, ive cleansed my social media …

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Creating Safety vs Buffering

The previous week, I took several massive, imperfect actions to get closer toward my goal for 2023 – to move to a new country and to find a job in a new industry. This is a special goal for me because the reason behind it is simply that I want to do this. It’s entirely …

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Underlying model

Hi coaches, I am focusing on resting more and taking life at a slower pace as my body and mind need to heal. I am finding it very difficult not to go at my usual speed and level because both the speed and the level as well as a certain efficiency are very baked into …

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2023 Goal feedback

Hi coaches, I look part in the recalibrate and activate workshop which was so eye opening and helpful. As a new member, I wanted to run through my goal for this year to get your feedback and check I’m on the right path. The 3 results I’d like to create in 2023 are: 1. to …

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2023 Goal Help

Hello! I am having trouble finalizing my goal and rocks for the year. I was diagnosed with autism about a year and a half ago and have been working on unmasking and figuring out who I am. I want this year to be about really knowing myself and loving that person. I am stuck on …

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Goal setting

I’m getting stuck on which goal I should choose. I got to a place last year where I began to make decisions more clearly and knew what I wanted. But after having some time away from TFC I now feel like I’ve gone back to square one and feel scattered again. I don’t know whether …

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Possible neurodivergence Pt 3

Wow, well the coaching felt very eye-opening when you asked which part of me I am believing is real – the part with stage fright or the part that is delivering the class. It really got me thinking about what ‘real’ actually is. Objectively the more ‘real’ me is the one teaching. After all that’s …

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Binge Eating

I have an on going problem with binge eating. I go through phases of it being manageable and being more out of control. Before the binge eating started I lost weight using a book by Dr Beck, which used CBT to help you change your eating habits rather than dieting and I ‘took it too …

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Hello, I’m a new member and really excited to be here. This year has been one of major shifts for me. Earlier this year I went through some difficult friendship conflicts that led me to seriously reconsider my relationship with myself, I started therapy, and have been committed to building self-trust and resiliency as I …

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Stuck at home. Stuck inside.

It’s been difficult for me to get myself out of the house, I used to do it before the pandemic because of work, meeting with friends and going to yoga classes even though it was really hard, but I’d do it because I was struggling with depression and I knew I had to do it …

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Can’t relax during sex

Hi coaches, this is quite a vulnerable one for me to write to you about, but I have a feeling it’s going to be helpful so here goes nothing O.O I struggle to relax and let go during sex, alone or with a partner, and I have never had an orgasm. There is still a …

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Getting braces

I had braces as a teenager, but never wore my retainer (so much regret here!) and my teeth have become wonky. I am very self conscious about this. Last week I took action and went to the dentist to find out how much it would cost to get them sorted, they quoted me £4000 for …

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Thoughts around movement

My relationship to movement has improved a lot, I now exercise in ways that I enjoy, to make myself feel good and care for my health. This year I have been trying to sustainably build up the amount of aerobic exercise I do to meet the weekly guidelines but I have had some setbacks with …

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Losing weight

I have so many emotions around this topic and it’s taken me weeks to build up the courage to ask a coach about it. I mainly feel embarrassment at the topic because it seems so obviously not ok to ask a coach about my weight. I have had a complicated journey with my weight. I …

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Anorexia-induced osteoporosis

Hello coaches I’m finding it very emotional to deal with the fact that I have osteoporosis as a result of a severe eating disorder. I’ve been in recovery for about six years now and had several bone scans over the last nearly 10 years. Although my bone density has improved it’s still in the osteoporosis …

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Diet culture comments

Hi – for a long time I’ve found other people’s comments about diet culture very activating to my (in recovery) eating disorder neural pathways. I know lots of useful thoughts to use in these situations such as ‘most people know very little about nutrition’; ‘this doesn’t apply to me’; ‘I know what I need’ etc. …

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Learning to trust my body even when it ‘isn’t working’/breaking the cycle of “self-fulfilling prophecy” thoughts

Hey 🙂 I’d like help creating a model for my thoughts/beliefs about my body/health, and this (un-true) idea that I have about myself as someone who subconsciously self-sabotages and therefore feeds into this idea of self-fulfilling prophecies — ie. I worry that something is inherently wrong with my body and that I have some underlying …

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Identity questions

I am hoping to get some help with some difficulties I am having. I feel that I am finding my mid 40s a difficult time. I have always enjoyed being active – mainly running and had ankle surgery 1 year ago which has stopped me being able to run like I used to. I’m still …

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Reset without Restriction

I really enjoyed the reset replay and the Autumn workshop and am wanting support with the following which is something I find so tricky.. In the past 2 years I have followed a ‘diet’ that took 8 months to get me to lose 4 stone of excess weight and get to a healthier place. Since …

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Taking the pill again

I started taking the contraceptive pill in my teens, took it for ten years and then swapped it for a copper coil about ten years ago. My intention was to live more “naturally” and the hope was that my migraine would improve. Now I’ve had two children and the coil put back in after both …

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Befriend inner critic

Hi coaches, I’d love some help on my autumn goal. It’s “befriend my inner critic”. I’ve lately started to become more aware of how much my inner critic runs / ruins my life. This part of me divides any activities I do in my free time into worthwhile (exercise; practising my musical instruments; even socialising, …

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Overeating and body image

Since moving abroad two years ago, my body has changed a lot and I am struggling to accept my weight gain as a neutral fact about me. I also tend to overeat when I am dealing with difficult feelings which there are a lot of, as both of my parents are very ill and I …

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In the wrong body pt. 2

Thanks for all the help so far! Here I go with the new model:) C: Looking at pictures of myself T: I want to come home to myself E: compassion/softness A: view myself through the lense of looking at someone I love, look for smiles in the pictures, am I having a good time, saying …

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Feeling overwhelmed

Feeling a bit all over the place – constantly tired, anxious, seem to spend my days sorting the kids out/looking after puppy/doing washings/making meals- but so bored of it all, feel sick, cook healthy meals but eat loads of junk food too, very distant from husband and probably kids too, brain fog, headaches, muscles always …

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Healthy Boundaries

Hi there! I just answered a survey question and wanted to pop it in here too. I have a set of changes I want to make that, when I’ve made them in the past, have a profound impact on my life. Simple health habits I’m strict on with my kids: no sugar before bed, early …

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I don’t like myself

I joined the Flow Collective to take better care of myself and to change some of my harmful beliefs. For the last couple of weeks, I’ve been trying really hard to speak kindly to myself. I thought I was doing well until last night (post ovulation dip?) – I saw a video with me in …

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Accepting my body/size

Hi, I’ve just found a new UM that has been rearing its head and is pushing me off track, it’s a bit jumbled in my head at the moment. C Being clothes size X T I don’t want people to see me this size F Ashamed/Embarrassed A Avoid social situations A Default to laying on …

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Self Image

Hello! I am looking for some support with a thought and behaviour which I have had ever since childhood, but had never consciously picked up on until now. I am very long-sighted and so since I was a toddler have always had to wear very strong prescription glasses which in my mind make my eyes …

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Follow up from last ask a coach on massive action week and my goal of feeling comfortable in my body and building a better relationship with myself

Hello, Thanks for your response to my last ask a coach submission. I have answered your questions but still a bit stuck as to how to move forward… Here are my answers. 1. What does feeling comfortable in my body mean? – feeling less sensitive and super-charged about my body – feeling neutral/light-hearted towards it …

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Breast reduction and body image

I’d like feedback on the following. The unintentional models came out with very similar actions and I’m not sure if I need to come up with three re-framed/intentional models or if one (which I think covers all) is enough. Thanks in advance!   Unintentional models C: I had a breast reduction operation 3 weeks ago: …

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Massive action week

Massive action week is looming and I am feeling a bit stuck with how to go about it. My goal that I set was to build a better relationship with myself and to feel comfortable in my body. My rocks are: 1. Find something to love about myself everyday that I can agree with. 2. …

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Food goals in autumn/winter

Hello, Reaching out in the depths of winter, as can’t see the wood for the trees at the moment… my goal is to build a better relationship with food, it’s a big vice of mine and something I’ve always struggled with. Since the spring forward workshop I’ve been completely on it, been feeling really positive, …

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Body acceptance ladder thoughts

My goal is to accept my body shape whatever it is. I love and accept many aspects of myself like my skills, brain, personality, humour etc., but I have always struggled with my body shape, sometimes more and sometimes less. During the pandemic I have gained weight and now feel quite low sometimes, overly concerned …

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Setting my goal

TW: weight loss Hello, I was part of the people who hadn’t managed to set a goal and after watching the model replay with Maisie – I think I have figured out why… I don’t have a cycle and have been told that if I lose a bit of weight (3 kilos) I might get …

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Accepting body shape

Hi there, I have a history of disordered eating in my teens and twenties but got over it eventually. 10 years ago I decided to no longer obsess over food, and that has worked for me. I now eat well and regularly, and I exercise moderately. (Yay!) However, I can’t seem to let go of this life-long and …

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