Body Image/Eating/Movement

Alcohol

Hi coaches I’m struggling with my relationship with alcohol. I seem to use it to calm my nervous system and regulate myself, but I have wanted to reduce my intake for a while – and it doesn’t seem to be going well. My levels are not what would be considered problematic as I only have …

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Obsessing about differences

Hi coaches, thank you for the wonderful work you do! I think my brain has been focussing on ways in which me and my partner are different and making this a problem. This pattern has been exacerbated since having a child. Here are some examples: One of the things I focus on is that he is …

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Food issues and anxiety

I’m looking for some ideas for how I can coach myself through some issues surrounding food that I have become aware of in recent years, particularly since becoming a mum. I don’t consider myself to he someone that has issues around food because I love to eat, I don’t limit or restrict myself and certainly …

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Perimenopause rockiness!

Hello coaches, So I have recently been diagnosed as perimenopausal at 40 and started HRT a week ago. I am really struggling with my mindset during all of this, being obsessed with whether it’s working and feeling low about whether it’s going to work. Generally negativity. Low motivation but wanting to get back to the …

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#First model

Hello team, I did not want to trigger anyone in the Flow community via Facebook, with this model, as I am trying to find a way through an eating disorder. I haven’t engaged with the Flow Collective wholeheartedly as I haven’t felt ready but I want to try but I am so scared of getting …

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Exercise Pt. III

Coming back for coaching on this again many months later… Reading back to the previous two coaching responses on this, you’re absolutely right that my reasons for exercising are like a mum trying to get a child to eat vegetables because they’re “good for you”! I don’t feel motivated or committed to doing more exercise …

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Getting botox or fillers

I am curious to know how what the coaches from The Flow Collective think about botox and fillers. I know that you don’t give (medical) advice. I am not looking for advice, but for helpful thoughts around this. I have done a thought download around the idea of taking botox: Getting botox or fillers is …

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Weight Gain & Clothes Shopping

I have been shopping for new clothes since moving here which I haven’t been able to do in years. Living in China, there weren’t many options. The brands available were limited and the clothes were often too young or trendy for my taste. I was often faced with changing my style and feeling ‘not me’ …

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Autumn goals

Dear coach, I joined a little late and missed the call about goals and goalsetting. I made a model from what i saw on the fb page. Now I had a thought and had quite a few things that i could pick a goal on. Like growing my own breathwork buisnis. Working towards giving autism …

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Getting to bed earlier

Hello, I am trying to shift both thought and action patterns around sleep. I am in a pattern of eating quite late and then correspondingly going to bed quite late (e.g. typically in bed around 11 pm) and then getting up just after 7 am. This leaves me with not quite enough sleep – not …

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Autumn Goal

Hi Coaches, Its my first time setting a goal for a season and I would appreciate some feedback and pointers on it and also maybe how I can simplify. Setting an autumn goal comes after 12 months of being unemployed, going into a deep burnout and a slow recovery process carrying the uncertainty and trying …

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Relationship with my body

Hi, I have noticed that I’ve put weight on recently. I have steadily gained weight since the pandemic really, and the change to wfh lifestyle but it’s probably also to do with my age, being about to turn 30 etc. My relationship with my body is a complex one. In my family, some members have …

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Nervous system during the night

Hi coaches! I’ve been working with my nervous system for about two weeks and I can see that a shift is happening during the days. I notice when I leave ventral-vagal and can actively try to slowly get back. This works by breathing deeper, touchingy hands, telling myself that I am safe and – if …

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Start exercising

Hi, I’ve been recovering from burn-out/ long-covid and also have a very light (looks almost like disappearing) period. I have gotten the advice from a health care proffesional (chinese medicine) to combine the herbs with some light exercise. I can’t put myself to doing it. I feel very tired since I’m now also working fulltime …

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Treat my body better part 2

“Where do you think your relationship is with them now?” separate, clinical, mistrusting “Where do you want it to be?” kind, caring, trusting, appreciative, integrated I want to move from tolerating to liking it, to give my body nice things too.,not just functional things like medication. To see it in a loving integrated way. To …

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treat my body better

I have noticed that I am not treating my body the way I want to treat it or feel like I should treat it. I take care of what’s necessary like minimal movement, nourishment, medication, basic hygiene, etc. but I don’t do it lovingly and if it’s not a problem, meaning it doesn’t hurt too …

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Intrusive thoughts about food

I’m in recovery from anorexia which I was very unwell with for several years. I’ve been in recovery and stable for about five years now. In the last week I’ve noticed my mind fixating on food more than usual and having thoughts which create feelings of guilt and anxiety about what I’ve eaten. Often it’s …

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Goal – recharge

Hi, I think I’ve rather belatedly set my summer goal and rocks. I’ve not managed to actually do them before, so would really appreciate some feedback please. I’m not sure if they fall into the too vague/specific realm. Goal – rebuild my energy / recharge Rocks: 1. Get enough sleep (too subjective, maybe?). 2. Move …

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Pressure

Hello coaches, I have a question for you around pressure. I am working on a number of goals that are really important to me- one is a work goal and the other a personal goal. I feel like I want to achieve them so bad that I put a lot of pressure on myself to …

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Weight Gain

Looking for coaching on negative self-talk following recent weight gain Last year I stopped eating refined sugar for six months to try to improve a health condition I was dealing with – it didn’t really help with the health condition but I inadvertently lost quite a bit of weight. A few people made positive comments …

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Stress response to pain

Hi coaches, The past three days I have been struggling with my heavy back pain and feeling lost and out of control. I have had these back issues for two years, got it diagnosed which has been a relief knowing what it is but also a struggle because there is not one easy fix. I’ve …

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Uncertainty About Diet Pt4

Thank you. I feel like this is a good way to unpick the core beliefs rather than just looking at the actions. I’ve been thinking about my Summer goals and taking this forward. I think alcohol, food consumption and body image all play a part in this jumble. Do you think this works as a …

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Hair Loss

I’m in perimenopause and have been experiencing hair loss over the last few months. Just wondering if there are any resources in TFC to help with this? And also from the hormones 101 doc there are some supplements recommended for supporting low estrogen : Supplements to consider: Vitamin E, Pomegranate, Maca, Black Cohosh, Dong quai, …

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Seed cycling

I am a view weeks in seed cycling and it is going quite well. I like the feeling of taking care of myself hereby. I also got a view good tips from the community on how to eat the seeds e.g. by using pastes (tahini etc.) or powders/flours (shredding the seeds). But one question still …

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Uncertainty about diet pt3

I feel good about the rocks but find them hard to implement. I weight myself 2 – 3 times a day. I’m dieting sensibly during the week and often lose 2 pounds but then drink / eat ‘bad’ food at the weekend so by Monday I’ve put it back on again and then feel shame …

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Creating attraction to my husband

Hi, All through my relationship with my husband – 12 years together – I have struggled with physical attraction towards him. We got together after some previous difficult relationships where I had prioritised physical attractiveness over personality and when I met him I fell for his kind and caring nature and the sense of safety …

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Feeling Low, Tired and Negative

I am struggling with fatigue and it is slowly seeping in to other aspects of my life and really making me feel blue. I am doing all the right things regarding diet, lifestyle, sleep habits yet still I am waking feeling exhausted. I have contacted the Dr for advice, blood tests etc. In the meantime …

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Drinking Alcohol Pt.2

Thanks for your response (see below) In answer to your question ‘why do you say yes to glasses of wine when you don’t really want to?’ I think in all honesty, there is a part of me that does want to – I want the ‘escape’ that alcohol brings. I have recently found out that …

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recovering from burnout

Hi coaches! I am recovering from what I believe is a burnout, that had been building up over the past years. I now feel so much better already, but I still have to be very protective of my energy. I notice that when I put a little too much on my plate, I relapse quite …

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Goalsetting

Hello! I want to share my resent experience and exploration. And am curious in some outside thought on it. I found myself lost. (middle of autumn) all sorts of emotions etc. Big plans ahead… And I was being harsh on myself that I am lost and overwhelmed when it comes to handle more then one …

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Setting my spring goal

Hi there, I’d really appreciate some help with setting my spring goal. I’d really like to improve my level of self care and have more fun/play/lightheartedness and connection with others in my life. I think this is because over the last few months I have become much more involved and taken on a role trying …

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Inertia, anxiety and work

I am in 7th year of a very rocky health journey. Feels like I am finally coming out of the dark hole into the light. Saying that, I was not “stuck in” at any point of that, I still was challenging myself to go out, socialise, run my business, and house, taking care of my …

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My relationship with alcohol

Dear coaches, My Spring goal is to change my goal with alcohol: – To drink 3 nights and 4 nights off – To feel more in control about it rather than a flaw on my personality. I can enjoy it without it feeling like a burden on me. – To allow myself time off/periods when …

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