Boundaries

Friendships and Hosting

C – My friend suggested I spend an unpaid day off work with her and her three kids. I explained due to the tube strike it would be difficult for me to meet her to which she responded she would come over to a location close to me. T – She is bringing her kids …

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Finding joy in my work

Hi, seven years ago, my husband started on a journey to create our own start-up. I joined him in 2018 full time (-ish, as I had to freelance to make a living). We have launched in the mass-market twice, so on paper, we are successful and others envy us. We have a way to go …

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Management Challenges

This is probably going to need to be a series because there’s a lot to unpack in this one… I hired someone into my team three years ago and have had a lot of challenges with them ever since – they have difficulty meeting deadlines, trouble prioritizing, work needs a lot of revisions when it’s …

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overwhelm at work

I work in a primary school where the children can work individually, which involves much more spontaneity and individual support/help. Today school started again after the holidays. At noon when we’ve eaten all together I’ve got really emotional and asked, if it’s okey, that I take a bit of time for myself and have eaten …

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Boundaries with family

I have tried to be explicit setting a boundary with my sister asking her not to ask me to lend her money. She asked me can she put money on my credit card for the space of 6 days. I think this is the part the makes it feel harder to say no, because it’s …

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Friendship: resolve or let go

Hi AAC, This is something that has been whizzing around my brain for months but am yet to take any action. I thought I was more or less certain in the direction I was waiting for the ‘right time’, however the relationship coachings have shifted this. This friend I have known for 8 years and …

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Overwhelmed by Thought Work

For the past 6 weeks or so, I have felt quite overwhelmed by the Flow Collective and the process of thought work. I have felt that my capacity is limited, and what time I have to dedicate to my wellbeing needs to be spent doing things that calm and nourish me, like walking or meditating. …

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Recovering from burnout

I’m recovering from a burnout from work . There are many reasons for the burnout , the work environment , my people pleasing tendencies, challenging projects, and tricky individuals and tricky projects. Im much stronger now , and slowly working towards going back to work . However there are certain individuals who were part of …

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Emotional Fallout Post Affair 2

Thankyou for your previous guidance. I’ve been working on regulating my emotions and I’ve realised i’m struggling with accepting what is – I’ve realised ultimately I am still wishing it hadn’t happened. He was wrong to do it. She was wrong to behave the way she did. Everything I did was wrong. It wasn’t supposed …

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Possible neurodivergence Pt 3

Wow, well the coaching felt very eye-opening when you asked which part of me I am believing is real – the part with stage fright or the part that is delivering the class. It really got me thinking about what ‘real’ actually is. Objectively the more ‘real’ me is the one teaching. After all that’s …

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Sibling’s concern

My brother’s social media and algorithm has shifted his world view. (Andrew Tate has come up far too many times) He is on a drive to make millions as quick as he can, disregarding everything in his way… including family. He has also started expressing misogynistic views but refuses to see them that way. I …

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Feeling unlucky

My partner whenever something bad happens to her has a tendency to say they’re unlucky. Doing work in this collective I feel like I can see there is thought work to be done here for her but I’m also wondering about my tendency to want to advise or help people fix their unhappiness. Is it …

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Break up and Break away

I recently broke up with my boyfriend after almost 2 years of dating, and living together for almost one. It was his idea as he felt I lacked independence. I waver (ALOT!) but do think this is the right decision long term, I think I was so ‘him-centered’ I lost a lot of my own …

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Mum talks about grandchildren

C: Mum talks about grandchildren T: She will take over as soon as I am pregnant F: Suffocating/panic A: retreat from her/reduce contact, delay having children though I actually want to and so now I am trying for a baby I don’t tell her, try and research everything so I know enough that her ‘advice’ …

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Plans for New Year’s Eve

Hello, some old school friends asked me if I wanted to do something with them on New Year’s Eve. I immediately agreed thinking that we would go to a party as we had done in previous years. However, it turns out they want to spend a cozy evening at home and chose the house of …

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Morning Routines

Hi coaches! I would like to have a consistent morning routine. I think that it would serve me well. Right now, I wake up most days with a vague (and long) list of things I’d like to do every morning. Inevitably, I sleep in later than I planned, I drop the “nice to have” items …

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Frictions in Friendship pt 3

Thanks again for your feedback, and I went back and relistened to the whole 3 part series of responsibility on the podcast. I have been thinking about this, and whilst I do find the metaphor helpful, I still feel a bit stuck on this. I don’t actually feel like I’ve been ‘dragging my friend over …

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Inadequacy and rage.

It’s day one of my cycle and I’ve woken up full of rage. It doesn’t feel like a thought is driving the anger, it’s just THERE, in my chest, massive and the colour of a bruise, throbbing. No reason why. Every month I need to take days just to regulate myself and then feel guilty …

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Sexual Desire pt. 2

As advised, I’ve asked myself the following questions: What do you think having desire means for you and your relationship? Feeling desire for me means that when I think about or see my partner, there is an impulse to be closer and to experience their presence through my body. There is also an anticipation, imagining …

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Family boundaries

My parents have an anniversary dinner that I said no to as it was asked last minute and clashed with an art course I love attending each week. It was easy to say no as my husband was also away on a conference so neither of us could go. My husband has now cancelled his …

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Supporting someone else

I’ve been seeing someone for the last couple of months, most of the time we didn’t really have anything because I feel that I don’t want to be in anything that’s romantic with him. That being said, in both of our lives we’ve had some recent losses of family members and I feel like he …

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Feeling Stuck and Captive

I am in a circumstance, where I am living in a foreign country with my husband, and we are waiting for his green card to be approved. I am really unhappy in this country, and don’t connect with the people. I have been here on and off for five years, and have made connections, but …

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