Dating/Relationships/Sex/Sexuality

Relationship Boundary

Hello, Thank you in advance for reading my submission. This is a topic that has been spoiling my relationship and I am unsure of how to coach myself on this. I have been with my partner for 4 years now. Within a month or so of me moving in with him, he began to express …

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Envy and Scarcity Mindset

Lately, I’ve been noticing a pattern that I’m trying to make sense of. when I hear about other peoples’ accomplishments or major life milestones, it brings up a lot of thoughts related to envy or resentment. The severity of the envy and whether resentment is included or not has to do with the stories I’ve …

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Honesty in my relationship

I have a question I wanted to bring to the coaching call with Maggie Reyes today but I wasn’t able to attend, so I thought I’d bring it here instead… For relationships month I set the intention of building more honesty in my relationship with my husband (honesty with myself about my thoughts about him, …

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Interacting With Men Pt. III

Thank you for your answer. It’s been a while since I read your reply and I couldn’t think of a challenge, I also had other things going on so I parked this topic for a bit. However, during the last few days, I went to two parties / concerts with different groups of people, some …

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Processing past relationship

I would like some support with processing my past relationship while being in a new one. I was in a 7-year relationship where during the last year or so, I was in constant doubt as to whether this was what I wanted or not. It was my first relationship and while I was happy for …

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Ending a relationship

I have been wanting to end my relationship for a significant amount of time, but I can’t actually bring myself to do it. And I’d like to get some help figuring out why I feel so stuck and what thoughts would help get me moving. Any helpful next steps to explore? I have been able …

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Choosing to have children

My partner and I had a frank conversation that was long overdue a few months ago regarding children; he admitted that he didn’t really want them though for my sake would try. We have known each other for almost 3 years and married for more than 2 of those years. Within two weeks of meeting …

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Interacting with men

I would like to reflect on a situation that has been going on for the last few months and my thoughts that created this situation to see what I can learn from it. I’ve already submitted a few questions related to this. There is this guy / man working at my local supermarket. At some …

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Dealing with the past (pt 2)

Dear coach, Thank you for your feedback. It felt very cathartic writing my story down – I think it’s the first time I’ve ever laid it out like that. To answer your questions – How much suffering do you think is enough to be able to forgive yourself? I think I have suffered enough.It’s been …

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Time alone

Next month my wife will be going away for just over 4 weeks with an exciting work opportunity for her. I am finding it overwhelming to think about the time she will be gone. I have a very busy work schedule myself and I am always around people; I keep going between feeling excited and …

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Self-sabotage Part 2

I’ve been thinking about what makes someone loveable and I came to the conclusion that anything at all can be a loveable trait. I am loveable because I’m compassionate, thoughtful, silly, generous, and put time into my relationships. Upon looking deeper, I realised my core issue is the thought “I’m not wanted”. My dad left …

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Projecting emotions

I am on a quest to become better acquainted with my emotions and learn to separate them from other people’s feelings. (I am now tracking how I feel twice a day through an app, and not just “I feel good/bad” but “angry, frustrated, happy, sad, etc.”) This morning I realized that for some reason, I …

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Dealing with the past

Dear coaches, I joined the collective last month and am already feeling the benefit mentally and physically. However something has been coming up in my thoughts and body that I spend a lot of time repressing and I feel a sense of wanting to let it out so I can leave it behind and move …

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Coming out

One of my visions or goals for the year is to come out to my parents. When I think about this conversation I put barriers up in my mind like I need to find a new job or sort out my possessions in case I need to move out quickly. I find it hard to …

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Emotional fallout post affair

Last year my husband of 20 years moved out. I knew our relationship wasn’t great (covid + two young children meant “us” hadn’t been a priority) however I suppose I always thought we’d just get through it and come back to each other. Turns out he cheated on me during a night out a month …

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Autistic identity

Hi, I’d like some coaching on my autistic identity. The way Maisie talks about it is so inspiring and seems simple and easy. She’s not justifying herself, which is what I like most. I have a different situation and experience. I guess I don’t have enough self-trust to just think positively about myself in general …

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Relationships

I have created an intentional model and unintentional model on my thoughts and feelings about what one of my friend says. She often says things of a similar nature and so I find myself in this unintentional model a lot. Unintentional model C: A friend said some words about the importance of marriage and relationships. …

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Relationship boundaries

My husband and I have had an on going issue and disagreement. When he goes out and has a drink, he does not come home till the early hours of the morning. It effects me deeply. Over the course of 10 years the issue still presents itself, many different factors have caused this to become …

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Decision-making – context: social gatherings – and establishing/maintaining a sense of connection

I received coaching from Maisie on how to approach spending the holidays with my husband at my parents’ place when he doesn’t speak the language and my family only speaks little English. The coaching helped me uncover that I’ve been feeling disconnected from my husband since Christmas last year, when things at my parents’ didn’t …

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Communication about sex

I want to be able to talk more openly with my partner about my desires in sex. I have discovered what I like through masturbation but I am aware that when we were first together we both didn’t believe in masturbating but giving pleasure to each other instead. The problem is I have felt I …

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when to try for a family

My partner and I keep thinking/talking about trying for a family. This has been a desire for us both since before we were married but we married young at 23 and have focused on careers/saving for a house/other fun things etc. I am turning 30 next year and aware of the biological clock. We have …

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LOW SELF WORTH

How can I build my self worth? I am getting emotionally activated a lot at the moment in relationships, my intimate partnership and in group dynamics. I feel the root of all of it is having low self worth and self confidence. For example, tonight I was sat at the dinner table with the older …

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Autistic, psychopath, or neither?

I’ve posted this in the community but thought I’d also submit it for Ask a Coach. Ever since listening to Maisie’s podcast episodes about autism, I have started wondering whether I might be somewhere on the spectrum. I have always been highly sensitive to sounds, smells, crowds (among probably a full list of other things) …

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Do I Stay or Do I Go Part 2

I must say the coaching which I received on this subject felt rather triggering to me, as it felt like I was being blamed for having made the decision to put myself first for once as wrong. I guess you need to know more of the back story to understand why I moved myself and …

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Emotional support expectations

I am struggling with knowing what the emotional boundaries and expectations should be for myself and my partner. I grew up with some pretty poor examples basically on the complete opposite of the emotional spectrum. I know that I have been someone who wants to rely on others to make me feel better or to …

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I’m crisis Pt2

Thank you for that help. I have found that resisting the emotions are what causes intense struggle inside of my body. I will try whenever it bursts forth to say “this is where… I feel heartbroken” or even “this is where… I feel hope for us”. I know you say I can handle the vibrations …

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I’ll be 50 years old this month. I’ve been with my partner for 13 years, we have one 9 year old child. Partner chose to retire 5 years ago to turn a hobby in to a new career. I have built a new career which is exciting and time consuming. We both work from home. …

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