Emotions/Mental Health

Managing stress at work

Work is currently really stressfull with talk of cuts, closure, cutting hours and potential redundancy. It feels like theres is lot so weight and responsibility on my shoulders in terms of what i could have done to have meant the charity was in a stronger position financial. I’m beating myself a lot and feeling really …

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Feeling down

Hi coaches, I’ve been going through a challenging period for the past three months, I’m currently on a two-week leave from work. I’m returning on Friday which I’m feeling mixed emotions so I reached out to my manager regarding retuning to work. She was very supportive letting me know that she will be taking me …

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Overresponsiblity Part 2

Yes I can see that the burden of keeping my husband alive makes my life terrible. But my brain goes into discussion with you: ‘My life is even more terrible if I could prevented him from dying and I did nothing!!’ When I think I am in charge of his stress levels I notice my …

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Changes

Hi coaches, I feel completely out of sorts. We have recently moved house to a different part of the country, but my partner and I are having to travel up and down during the week to London. It feels like a life is in two places. Our friends in our life is in London, but …

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Angry at my boss

Hello coaches! Good to be here again I am going to have a crazy month at work where the load is going to be massive, and I just got a promotion that also means more responsibilities and more close work with my boss. I like her as a person but I am aware we have …

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Sitting with Anger Pt II

Dear coaches! Honestly, I don’t really know what to do with your response to my initial question. In your answer you ask me to take a view on my current situation as if I was 90 years old. And it really just makes me even more sad. I don’t want to look back at my …

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not being superhuman

Hi coaches, I was working on the prompts from the self-love workshop and noticed that I am judging myself because I can’t do all of the following things at the same time: – living off-grid (means chopping wood, carrying water, using minimal electricity, so chores take longer) – care for a very active dog (ca …

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Cringing over memories

I wrote a poem after my grandpa died that my mum read at his funeral. My mum added some of her own commentary to the poem and in a line where I wrote about his stubble, she said he would have been sorry about that because he liked to be smooth shaven. I felt bad …

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self love journey 1

starting the self love journey. doing my first prompt on: what does it feel like when you choose not to love yourself? it feels like confimration. giving in to the truth. it seems true that i am not worth being loved/deserving love, therefor not doing so is how it is supposed to be. why? because …

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Tending to my Inner child

I realised recently that I have had a strange yearning for a motherly figure in my life for a long time. In the past I looked to teachers, later even female bosses to fill something. It has been quite overwhelming and limiting but it’s only recently I have been able to identify what’s going on. …

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Moving into a smaller flat?

Hi coaches, I currently live in a really nice, spacious flat that I absolutely love and that has got everything that I ever wanted in a flat. It’s airy, I can dance around in it, the light is gorgeous, it has a little terrace and garden. I really, really love it. It is, however, very …

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Obsessing about differences

Hi coaches, thank you for the wonderful work you do! I think my brain has been focussing on ways in which me and my partner are different and making this a problem. This pattern has been exacerbated since having a child. Here are some examples: One of the things I focus on is that he is …

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Food issues and anxiety

I’m looking for some ideas for how I can coach myself through some issues surrounding food that I have become aware of in recent years, particularly since becoming a mum. I don’t consider myself to he someone that has issues around food because I love to eat, I don’t limit or restrict myself and certainly …

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Relationship with my mum

I am finding it increasingly hard to have a loving relationship with my mum. From an early age she suffered from what the doctors believed to be manic depression, but she has had many different diagnosis’ since. I believe, like me and my daughter, that my mother is autistic. Growing up, she was increasingly absent. …

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Should I go back there?

Around 4 years ago I decided to move from the countryside to London and it was an exciting move. One of my best friends had secured a job in London and I wanted to follow suit so I applied in the same place as them and also got a job. So we were all set …

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Exercise Pt. III

Coming back for coaching on this again many months later… Reading back to the previous two coaching responses on this, you’re absolutely right that my reasons for exercising are like a mum trying to get a child to eat vegetables because they’re “good for you”! I don’t feel motivated or committed to doing more exercise …

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Weight Gain & Clothes Shopping

I have been shopping for new clothes since moving here which I haven’t been able to do in years. Living in China, there weren’t many options. The brands available were limited and the clothes were often too young or trendy for my taste. I was often faced with changing my style and feeling ‘not me’ …

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[fear of burning out again]

Dear coach, I recently gifted myself a fully remote job with lots of flexibility & benefits and I quite enjoy the job after years in academia and years of burnout cycles. Thanks to the time hackers, I have been feeling much better about slowing down and taking time off, most importantly starting the work day …

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Deciding to prioritize

My goal is to become a migraine recovery coach. I’ve started a coaching training course and I’ve also registered for a certification that will take 5 weeks to complete between early October and early November and will take 5-6 hours each week. Meanwhile I have an Instagram account for sharing tips on migraine recovery that …

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Sitting with anger

Hey there! Not that long ago I was coached by Masie on a call about recurring situations regarding my partner and my feelings towards him. It turned out that my main feeling was anger and that I felt like feeling angry was “not ok” or made me a “bad mother” or a “bad person” in …

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My Upcoming Birthday Pt. II

Thank you for your birthday wishes and your answer. It was my birthday yesterday. It was a really nice day. Before the day, I decided that my birthday doesn’t have to be perfect and that the number of messages I receive doesn’t mean so much. I was a bit emotional in the morning but didn’t …

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Inner critic

Hi coaches. I want to get coaching on something that happened today/yesterday and sometimes happens to me. Maybe it’s cycle related and I don’t feel its a major issue because I know it always passes. But I’d like some help with it. Yesterday I woke up a bit sad and decided that was ok and …

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Loud brain, quiet heart

Hey coaches, My summer goal was to ‘find out what I want from life’. And I found out a lot. Mostly things I don’t want in my life anymore. So I had a good tidy up. And now with all the free space , I see constantly new opportunities where my life could take me. …

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Guilty then angry

Hello coaches! Me and my boss have very different ways of working, and this morning she put a message in the work group chat that made me feel really guilty. But the more I thought worked it, the more anger I felt about being made to feel guilty. Now, I’ve been here long enough to …

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Quitting My Job! Part 2

Exploring answering these worst case questions has definitely made them less scary and reassured me that even if the worst happens, very quickly I had an answer for each of them. Knowing that was without much time and without reaching out to close friends/family for support/discussion, also reinforced that even if I were to get …

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