Emotions/Mental Health

Putting pressure on myself

Hey coaches, I need some direction here 🙂 For the past month, my physical health has not been optimal, I keep catching viruses/bacteria and ending up sick every other week. I went to see my GP and she came to the conclusion that at the moment my immune system is quite weak which makes me …

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Relationship Boundary

Hello, Thank you in advance for reading my submission. This is a topic that has been spoiling my relationship and I am unsure of how to coach myself on this. I have been with my partner for 4 years now. Within a month or so of me moving in with him, he began to express …

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Imposter syndrome follow up

Thanks, that is really useful. Are there any tips to helping me get out of my head and into my body before seeing a client? I guess I could work on the thought that I’m pushing through a new level in my professional and personal life it’s a sign of growth rather than imposter syndrome …

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Restless feeling

Dear coaches <3, Somedays I have a restless feeling, like today. And I always try to figure out where this restless feeling is coming from. Mostly this ends up in a negative spiral of thoughts like ‘I feel restless’, ‘Where is this restless feeling coming from’, ‘I can’t feel where it’s coming from’, ‘I’ll never …

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Feeling stressed

Dear Ask a Coach, I would like to get some coaching on my relationship with stress/feeling stressed. I currently have a period at work that is quite busy, with multiple projects going on at the same time, all of which have similar upcoming deadlines. One project, in particular, is quite time-consuming (and it is my …

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Analyzing my Dream – 2

Yes the feelings in my dream are relaxed, ease, still and contended being alone in a comfortable and beautiful hotel. There’s also the feelings of delight and inspiration from the art works. On the first set of feelings, I think this may be coming from perfectionist tendencies that tend to mean I have high expectations …

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Life is 50/50%?

I feel resistance towards the concept of life is being 50/50. The thoughts I have around this is: – What is the point of working on myself when 50procent (!! omg that is so much) is gonna suck anyway? If feel very desperate about this. – Is life really that black and white, I hope …

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Friendships and Hosting

C – My friend suggested I spend an unpaid day off work with her and her three kids. I explained due to the tube strike it would be difficult for me to meet her to which she responded she would come over to a location close to me. T – She is bringing her kids …

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Analyzing my dream

Maisie spoke about dreams in her goal setting call today. My dream is about resting and pleasure. I see myself wearing beautiful clothing, going to the opera, waking up in a beautiful hotel room with crisp white cotton sheets, drinking tea in bed and then reading the paper at a table outside a cafe with …

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I moved to where I live one year ago, with the idea to stay until 2024, or later. After one year, I am not happy living here. I have loving friends and there’s many positive things about this place, there’s things I could work on improving, but my body simply craves being somewhere else. Where …

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Uncertainty about diet

Dear coaches My word for 2023 is self-love which I’ve been using as monthly goals to prioritise my physical, emotional and mental health. As part of that, I gave up Slimming World which although had previously helped me lose 1 stone, I had slowly put back on and was increasing my feelings of guilt and …

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Finding joy

I know that it is normal for human brains to have a negativity bias. And I think years’ of anxiety and depression in adolescence has made my bias quite strong without me recognising things can be any different – thinking of this in a neutral way without passing judgment on myself. I know that there …

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Making decisions

I have read back my notes from the end of Dec beginning of Jan after listening to Maisie talk about making decisions. I would like some help on making my decision. I want to change my work. I like my workplace (school) but it is 6 days a week , long days and I am …

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aging parents pt. 2

Yes! That’s it. Thank you! Its about what could have been, and thinking that the time I have left to experience feeling loved, safe, and protected by my parents is starting to run out. I have identified many (sometimes conflicting) layers to it: 1. I want closure. I want my parents to come around. To …

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Management Challenges

This is probably going to need to be a series because there’s a lot to unpack in this one… I hired someone into my team three years ago and have had a lot of challenges with them ever since – they have difficulty meeting deadlines, trouble prioritizing, work needs a lot of revisions when it’s …

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overwhelm at work

I work in a primary school where the children can work individually, which involves much more spontaneity and individual support/help. Today school started again after the holidays. At noon when we’ve eaten all together I’ve got really emotional and asked, if it’s okey, that I take a bit of time for myself and have eaten …

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In an Indecisive Model

I am in a transition where I am starting two businesses, have just moved back to the United States, am living with my parents, and do not have a stable income or specific direction. When I think about my bigger dream and vision it is very clear. I see myself as an entrepreneur or business …

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Envy and Scarcity Mindset

Lately, I’ve been noticing a pattern that I’m trying to make sense of. when I hear about other peoples’ accomplishments or major life milestones, it brings up a lot of thoughts related to envy or resentment. The severity of the envy and whether resentment is included or not has to do with the stories I’ve …

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Moving house

Hi, Me and my partner has just moved house, and he has also just started in a new job. We are so happy with the new place, and on paper everything is great! However I have noticed in the last days since we moved I feel worried, upset, sad, anxious, unable to be productive and …

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Boundaries with family

I have tried to be explicit setting a boundary with my sister asking her not to ask me to lend her money. She asked me can she put money on my credit card for the space of 6 days. I think this is the part the makes it feel harder to say no, because it’s …

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Grief and work

Hello team, I recently lost my dad very unexpectedly and it’s been rough. At the same time, I’m at the end of a trial period of my new job. This job currently seems rather unimportant to me, but I think that is the grief speaking. It is also very turbulent right now since there a …

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Compartmentalisation

Dear Coach, I’ve come across the term compartmentalisation lately a lot and it seems to have either a negative or positive connotation depending on which angle you look at it from. It is usually seen as a mechanism to avoid cognitive dissonance. A friend of mine said to me the other day that she started …

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Processing past relationship

I would like some support with processing my past relationship while being in a new one. I was in a 7-year relationship where during the last year or so, I was in constant doubt as to whether this was what I wanted or not. It was my first relationship and while I was happy for …

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Friendship: resolve or let go

Hi AAC, This is something that has been whizzing around my brain for months but am yet to take any action. I thought I was more or less certain in the direction I was waiting for the ‘right time’, however the relationship coachings have shifted this. This friend I have known for 8 years and …

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Overwhelmed by Thought Work

For the past 6 weeks or so, I have felt quite overwhelmed by the Flow Collective and the process of thought work. I have felt that my capacity is limited, and what time I have to dedicate to my wellbeing needs to be spent doing things that calm and nourish me, like walking or meditating. …

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Goals for 2023 and Winter Part 2

Thanks for your response. Here are my thoughts on your questions. On reflection, the first goal and set of rocks works for me. It’s the second goal in particular that is causing my squirmishness. What do I see – too much; complicating things What do I think is lacking – specific actionables and outcomes (especially …

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Body image

I have been taking steps to become an intuitive eater as I want to not feel rubbish about how I look. It’s been going well and all in all I have felt okay. However I cannot help look at myself in photos and feel terrible about the way I look, ive cleansed my social media …

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Recovering from burnout

I’m recovering from a burnout from work . There are many reasons for the burnout , the work environment , my people pleasing tendencies, challenging projects, and tricky individuals and tricky projects. Im much stronger now , and slowly working towards going back to work . However there are certain individuals who were part of …

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Fear Of Judgement Pt. IV

Thank you for your answer. It’s been really helpful to hear that other people thought’s about me are 50/50. I’ve applied the 50/50 rule to so many areas in my life (people I meet etc.) and it really helps to put things into perspective. Interestingly, it often made me realize that the part that feels …

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Divorce

I listened to Maisie being interviewed about her divorces on Sade Curry’s podcast last night and a couple of things she said about her ex-husband resonated with how I feel about my husband. This led me to wonder if I should get a divorce, which sent me into total fight or flight – I didn’t …

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Creating Safety vs Buffering

The previous week, I took several massive, imperfect actions to get closer toward my goal for 2023 – to move to a new country and to find a job in a new industry. This is a special goal for me because the reason behind it is simply that I want to do this. It’s entirely …

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Emotional Fallout Post Affair 2

Thankyou for your previous guidance. I’ve been working on regulating my emotions and I’ve realised i’m struggling with accepting what is – I’ve realised ultimately I am still wishing it hadn’t happened. He was wrong to do it. She was wrong to behave the way she did. Everything I did was wrong. It wasn’t supposed …

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Dealing With The Past (Pt 2)

Thank you – this really helps. 1. Here is a model that I’v e been exploring… C – exploring relationships in the past T – we are all human and everyone can make mistakes. It’s in the past. F – forgiveness for myself and others A – stop reuminating on the past and looking for …

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