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Guilt in friendship

Hi dear Coaching Team! I am going for another attempt to make Ask A Coach work for me. Not because I have to, but because I suspect there is some thought work hidden in my relation to it as well as the modelling and I want to get to the bottom of it and make …

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Enoughness

I noticed I was censoring myself whilst making a new friend and colleague, feeling the opportunity to share something about myself and then choosing not to for fear of being exposing myself as bad in some way. I do this a lot I notice, with everyone. And through the self love journal prompts I realised …

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Evolving friendship pt. II

Hi dear coach, In my first submission, I was reflecting on my relationship with my childhood best friend. This was my model: C. Meeting with long time childhood friendship T. I don’t feel as close as I use to to this person. F. Sad A. Don’t share what I feel vulnerable about. Don’t look forward …

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Parenting guilt

I have two young children and work full-time. I am trying to make sense of thoughts/feelings about organising playdates and supporting my children to build strong friendships. Over the past three years, I have had periods of burnout due to full-time work and looking after my children as there was no wrap around care. I …

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Reliability as a friend

hi coaches! I’m writing this from a place of frustration and disappointment with a friend who very frequently cancels plans with me. She has endometriosis and depression, so I believe that she is often cancelling because she’s unwell (this is what she has communicated to me). I’m disappointed, but understanding in these moments. The part …

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not being superhuman

Hi coaches, I was working on the prompts from the self-love workshop and noticed that I am judging myself because I can’t do all of the following things at the same time: – living off-grid (means chopping wood, carrying water, using minimal electricity, so chores take longer) – care for a very active dog (ca …

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Fear of being alone

Hello. I have been single for about 2 years and in the past, I hadn’t constantly had a partner in my life. However, my close friends group have a good partnerships (as far as I can observe) and at times, it makes me feel like that I am alone. I have an understanding that they …

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self-love and other people

I noticed during yesterday’s call that while the work on loving and accepting myself over the past year has paid off in the way that I believe I am lovable and enough just as I am, I still don’t believe other people would see me that way. In a way, my mind turned the clean …

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Food issues and anxiety

I’m looking for some ideas for how I can coach myself through some issues surrounding food that I have become aware of in recent years, particularly since becoming a mum. I don’t consider myself to he someone that has issues around food because I love to eat, I don’t limit or restrict myself and certainly …

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Should I go back there?

Around 4 years ago I decided to move from the countryside to London and it was an exciting move. One of my best friends had secured a job in London and I wanted to follow suit so I applied in the same place as them and also got a job. So we were all set …

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2 opposite mindests for a month

Dear lovely coaches, I’m driving myself crazy with my inability to understand what I think about a relatively new friend of mine. I noticed that before and during my period, when feeling the weakest, I see this person as requesting too much of my energy, difficult, triggering. I refused to text her or call her …

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Re-connecting with a friend

Hi, Next week, I’m seeing a friend of mine one on one. This will be the first time I’ve met up with them like this in about a year and half. Since then, we’ve seen each other a fair amount in group situations. But I went travelling for 6 months last year, and since coming …

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Dog-sitting quandary

Hi, (This might seem like a random one, but I think I’m making it mean more than it is – so would appreciate any guidance!) A few months ago, a friend of a friend got in touch to ask if I’d be up for dog sitting their dog once a week, as they had a …

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Quitting My Job! Part 2

Exploring answering these worst case questions has definitely made them less scary and reassured me that even if the worst happens, very quickly I had an answer for each of them. Knowing that was without much time and without reaching out to close friends/family for support/discussion, also reinforced that even if I were to get …

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Autumn goal clarity

Hi coaches, I’d love a bit of help with my Autumn goal. Goal: build community around my family after moving neighbourhoods. What is community to me? Seeing people regularly, having them over to our house, celebrating and creating traditions. I think I am searching for a feeling of warmth/love/ease Rock 1: celebrate birthdays/special occasions with …

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Doing less (with more intention)

Hello, this submission is inspired by two submissions from other members that really resonated with me. One was about not putting your life on hold during the semester and teaching responsibilities. And the other one was about not feeling like you have to be productive 100% of the time during your working hours. With regard …

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Stealing

Hi! I had a situation come up the other day, where a friend told me how she steals a lot from stores. It is not just food and essential items, but expensive luxury items and art supplies. She is fully capable of working, but chooses not to most of the time. She has totally justified …

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Processing a conflict

Trying to figure out what coaching I need to help me process this scenario. I had a very heated and rather dramatic falling out with my sisters husband a few days ago. For context, we do not get on easily, in the past we have had very difficult and upsetting conversations usually about something that’s …

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Dating and Self-Worth Part 2

Update: I messaged him and he never responded!! I’ve officially been ghosted. I was shocked at first, but it’s been five days and I can honestly say that I am already moving on from that experience as I’m quite clear on the thought “this has everything to do with him and nothing to do with …

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Feeling dismissed by friend

Dear lovely coaches, I’d like help with some ruminating thoughts surrounding one of my best friends. We tend to send each other lots of voice messages as a way of keeping in touch. I had been quiet for a while, because I’d been going through a tough period & my mental health was low. She …

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My new neighbours

Two months ago I had new neighbours move in next door they have a dog. I’ve only met the dog a few times. They are currently renovating the house and they are living in the caravan, situated on the driveway by the house. To get to my house you have to walk in between the …

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Taking on Others’ Moods

I am very sensitive to other people’s feelings and emotions and always want to do the “right thing” by others and be considerate to how they are feeling, but it can be to my own detriment. Even potential issues of conflict between others make me anxious. For example in my housemate group Whatsapp chat, if …

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