Goals

Analyzing my Dream – 2

Yes the feelings in my dream are relaxed, ease, still and contended being alone in a comfortable and beautiful hotel. There’s also the feelings of delight and inspiration from the art works. On the first set of feelings, I think this may be coming from perfectionist tendencies that tend to mean I have high expectations …

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Analyzing my dream

Maisie spoke about dreams in her goal setting call today. My dream is about resting and pleasure. I see myself wearing beautiful clothing, going to the opera, waking up in a beautiful hotel room with crisp white cotton sheets, drinking tea in bed and then reading the paper at a table outside a cafe with …

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Uncertainty about diet

Dear coaches My word for 2023 is self-love which I’ve been using as monthly goals to prioritise my physical, emotional and mental health. As part of that, I gave up Slimming World which although had previously helped me lose 1 stone, I had slowly put back on and was increasing my feelings of guilt and …

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Finding joy

I know that it is normal for human brains to have a negativity bias. And I think years’ of anxiety and depression in adolescence has made my bias quite strong without me recognising things can be any different – thinking of this in a neutral way without passing judgment on myself. I know that there …

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Craving praise and validation

Hi there, I started working as a photographer end of last year. I am very proud of the progress I have made, my bravery to putting myself out there and asking for money for my services. I enjoy being an artist (and calling myself that) immensely. I recently sent off a couple of galleries to …

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Making Decisions 2

My gut response is approval from others is what is standing in the way and fear that I will make a bad decision. How might I move forward on this ? Thank you     Answer: Great insights! Celebrate your win of recognizing what’s holding you back from making your decision. When you say “others” …

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Making decisions

I have read back my notes from the end of Dec beginning of Jan after listening to Maisie talk about making decisions. I would like some help on making my decision. I want to change my work. I like my workplace (school) but it is 6 days a week , long days and I am …

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Not Feeling Emotionally Safe

Hello Ask A Coach, I recently completed an unintentional model that revealed a much bigger core belief. I felt like I was able to address the thought in the model but got a little stuck with addressing the core belief. UM C: Invited to an event with new friends T: I don’t know what to …

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Management Challenges

This is probably going to need to be a series because there’s a lot to unpack in this one… I hired someone into my team three years ago and have had a lot of challenges with them ever since – they have difficulty meeting deadlines, trouble prioritizing, work needs a lot of revisions when it’s …

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overwhelm at work

I work in a primary school where the children can work individually, which involves much more spontaneity and individual support/help. Today school started again after the holidays. At noon when we’ve eaten all together I’ve got really emotional and asked, if it’s okey, that I take a bit of time for myself and have eaten …

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Getting over imposter syndrome.

Hello, 🙂 I’m struggling a little (sometimes a lot) with imposter syndrome. I think I’ve always had this. I’ve been private chef for many years then opened up a salad bar business. I’ve always had this slight feeling I’m not respected or considered a real ‘chef’. (By who, I don’t know!) I’m not classically trained, …

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In an Indecisive Model

I am in a transition where I am starting two businesses, have just moved back to the United States, am living with my parents, and do not have a stable income or specific direction. When I think about my bigger dream and vision it is very clear. I see myself as an entrepreneur or business …

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Envy and Scarcity Mindset

Lately, I’ve been noticing a pattern that I’m trying to make sense of. when I hear about other peoples’ accomplishments or major life milestones, it brings up a lot of thoughts related to envy or resentment. The severity of the envy and whether resentment is included or not has to do with the stories I’ve …

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Honesty in my relationship

I have a question I wanted to bring to the coaching call with Maggie Reyes today but I wasn’t able to attend, so I thought I’d bring it here instead… For relationships month I set the intention of building more honesty in my relationship with my husband (honesty with myself about my thoughts about him, …

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Job now that kids are in school

Hi coaches, I’m at a junction in my life and unsure about my next steps or what my real motivations are. I stopped working when I had children and now that my youngest has just started school, I’m wondering what my next move should be. My husband works very long hours and it’s important for …

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Interacting With Men Pt. III

Thank you for your answer. It’s been a while since I read your reply and I couldn’t think of a challenge, I also had other things going on so I parked this topic for a bit. However, during the last few days, I went to two parties / concerts with different groups of people, some …

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Unhealthy Eating Habits

I am struggling with motivation and will power when choosing what snacks to eat. One of my rocks to work towards a larger goal of HEALTH for myself is to change my relationship with sugar. I am addicted to sugar. I am successfully changing the main meals that I eat and have had a successful …

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Time and money

Hello coaches I have realised a lot of my overwhelming feelings recently have come from wanting to make more money but working as little as I possibly can. I think I’m stressing myself out about how I can make this happen. I have tried to plan my time in the week for set admin days …

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Goals for 2023 and Winter Part 2

Thanks for your response. Here are my thoughts on your questions. On reflection, the first goal and set of rocks works for me. It’s the second goal in particular that is causing my squirmishness. What do I see – too much; complicating things What do I think is lacking – specific actionables and outcomes (especially …

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Goal setting / model sharing

Hello Coaches I think I’ve changed my goal, my word of the year is confidence. Although I see myself as a confident person, I have a lot of self doubt which holds me back from progressing. I’ve decided my goal is; Build authenticity, build self trust and be in touch with what I want Rocks …

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Body image

I have been taking steps to become an intuitive eater as I want to not feel rubbish about how I look. It’s been going well and all in all I have felt okay. However I cannot help look at myself in photos and feel terrible about the way I look, ive cleansed my social media …

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Ending a relationship

I have been wanting to end my relationship for a significant amount of time, but I can’t actually bring myself to do it. And I’d like to get some help figuring out why I feel so stuck and what thoughts would help get me moving. Any helpful next steps to explore? I have been able …

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Goals for 2023 and Winter

I’ve been really struggling with setting goals for myself for this year. There’s a lot of perfectionism coming up for me as I have a general sense of what this year is about and have done for some time, but I can’t seem to nail it into specific goals and rocks. I intentionally allowed myself …

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Creating Safety vs Buffering

The previous week, I took several massive, imperfect actions to get closer toward my goal for 2023 – to move to a new country and to find a job in a new industry. This is a special goal for me because the reason behind it is simply that I want to do this. It’s entirely …

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facebook group / Buffering

I have been using the FC Facebook group to share wins / selfcare Sunday and also to read other members posts and interact with the others. I use FB specifically for this group only. From using the group I had great insights so far and posting wins etc helped me a lot, however I noticed …

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2023 Goal feedback

Hi coaches, I look part in the recalibrate and activate workshop which was so eye opening and helpful. As a new member, I wanted to run through my goal for this year to get your feedback and check I’m on the right path. The 3 results I’d like to create in 2023 are: 1. to …

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Dealing With The Past (Pt 2)

Thank you – this really helps. 1. Here is a model that I’v e been exploring… C – exploring relationships in the past T – we are all human and everyone can make mistakes. It’s in the past. F – forgiveness for myself and others A – stop reuminating on the past and looking for …

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asking for a promotion

Last summer, after ruminating about this for quite a while, I asked my boss for more responsibilities in order to use my full potential and to keep growing. And I also asked for a promotion. My boss was very surprised by me requesting a promotion as before I had just quietly been doing my thing …

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2023 Goal Help

Hello! I am having trouble finalizing my goal and rocks for the year. I was diagnosed with autism about a year and a half ago and have been working on unmasking and figuring out who I am. I want this year to be about really knowing myself and loving that person. I am stuck on …

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Recognition

Hello again, I am working towards my goals that I set in January- I chose the word “Shine”. So far I’ve been really pleased with all the progress I have made regarding my goals. However, I have noticed that lots of the professional aims I have relate to being recognised- winning awards, getting featured etc …

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Choosing to have children

My partner and I had a frank conversation that was long overdue a few months ago regarding children; he admitted that he didn’t really want them though for my sake would try. We have known each other for almost 3 years and married for more than 2 of those years. Within two weeks of meeting …

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Interacting with men

I would like to reflect on a situation that has been going on for the last few months and my thoughts that created this situation to see what I can learn from it. I’ve already submitted a few questions related to this. There is this guy / man working at my local supermarket. At some …

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Desire & Shame

Hi Coaches Needs & Desires – I’ve been tracking my cycle now since November & realised that when it came to writing down my needs & desires I really struggled to write something down, I’ve recently had a breakthrough & have been able to add words like Care & Love , it felt nice to …

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Goal setting

I’m getting stuck on which goal I should choose. I got to a place last year where I began to make decisions more clearly and knew what I wanted. But after having some time away from TFC I now feel like I’ve gone back to square one and feel scattered again. I don’t know whether …

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Possible neurodivergence Pt 3

Wow, well the coaching felt very eye-opening when you asked which part of me I am believing is real – the part with stage fright or the part that is delivering the class. It really got me thinking about what ‘real’ actually is. Objectively the more ‘real’ me is the one teaching. After all that’s …

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Binge Eating

I have an on going problem with binge eating. I go through phases of it being manageable and being more out of control. Before the binge eating started I lost weight using a book by Dr Beck, which used CBT to help you change your eating habits rather than dieting and I ‘took it too …

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Help with Goal and Rocks

My winter goal is connection and lightness. Over Christmas I felt that concentrating on connection gave my days a lovely focus and much reward and I wanted to continue this. I had self love as a goal in the autumn and connection with myself can be wound in. Lightness is something I am aspiring to …

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