Health/Illness

Overresponsibility Part 2

Yes I am alone in this already.. I feel lonely because friends don’t understand it and my husband will leave me alone on this planet so I don’t feel connected to him about it. What I would like to experience in our relationship while he is alive is fun and pleasure. We tend to be …

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Overresponsiblity Part 2

Yes I can see that the burden of keeping my husband alive makes my life terrible. But my brain goes into discussion with you: ‘My life is even more terrible if I could prevented him from dying and I did nothing!!’ When I think I am in charge of his stress levels I notice my …

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#First model

Hello team, I did not want to trigger anyone in the Flow community via Facebook, with this model, as I am trying to find a way through an eating disorder. I haven’t engaged with the Flow Collective wholeheartedly as I haven’t felt ready but I want to try but I am so scared of getting …

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Autumn goals

Dear coach, I joined a little late and missed the call about goals and goalsetting. I made a model from what i saw on the fb page. Now I had a thought and had quite a few things that i could pick a goal on. Like growing my own breathwork buisnis. Working towards giving autism …

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Getting to bed earlier

Hello, I am trying to shift both thought and action patterns around sleep. I am in a pattern of eating quite late and then correspondingly going to bed quite late (e.g. typically in bed around 11 pm) and then getting up just after 7 am. This leaves me with not quite enough sleep – not …

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Autumn Goal

Hi Coaches, Its my first time setting a goal for a season and I would appreciate some feedback and pointers on it and also maybe how I can simplify. Setting an autumn goal comes after 12 months of being unemployed, going into a deep burnout and a slow recovery process carrying the uncertainty and trying …

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change my relationship with noise

I have always been quite sensitive to noise because I hear very well and I am prone to headaches and migraines. But after a year of insomnia recovery, noise has unintentionally become my enemy number one. Which I suspect makes me even more sensitive and irritable. Maisie talking about changing her relationship with the wind …

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Relationship with my body

Hi, I have noticed that I’ve put weight on recently. I have steadily gained weight since the pandemic really, and the change to wfh lifestyle but it’s probably also to do with my age, being about to turn 30 etc. My relationship with my body is a complex one. In my family, some members have …

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judgement for needing time off

From the end-of-season call, I have realized that there is this thought/belief that I have had over the summer. And I have been pushing it away, only writing about it now. One of the things I wanted this summer was rest and breading space because the last semester last study year was an intense one. …

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Nervous system during the night

Hi coaches! I’ve been working with my nervous system for about two weeks and I can see that a shift is happening during the days. I notice when I leave ventral-vagal and can actively try to slowly get back. This works by breathing deeper, touchingy hands, telling myself that I am safe and – if …

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Start exercising

Hi, I’ve been recovering from burn-out/ long-covid and also have a very light (looks almost like disappearing) period. I have gotten the advice from a health care proffesional (chinese medicine) to combine the herbs with some light exercise. I can’t put myself to doing it. I feel very tired since I’m now also working fulltime …

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Working less hours

Hi! I am thinking of working less hours a week. From 32 hours to 24 hours. I work as a psychologist in a very extraverted and social job with lots of responsibilites. I am neurodivergent en highly sensitive and introvert. Therefore my job costs me lots of energy and I am often tired. The job …

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Treat my body better part 2

“Where do you think your relationship is with them now?” separate, clinical, mistrusting “Where do you want it to be?” kind, caring, trusting, appreciative, integrated I want to move from tolerating to liking it, to give my body nice things too.,not just functional things like medication. To see it in a loving integrated way. To …

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treat my body better

I have noticed that I am not treating my body the way I want to treat it or feel like I should treat it. I take care of what’s necessary like minimal movement, nourishment, medication, basic hygiene, etc. but I don’t do it lovingly and if it’s not a problem, meaning it doesn’t hurt too …

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Perfectionism

Hello! I’m new to TFC and this is the first Ask A Coach question I’ve submitted. My question is around perfectionism and the mental and physical toll it takes on me. I was diagnosed with chronic fatigue syndrome six years ago when I was 20, and I’ve had multiple interventions (CBT, counselling, a CFS clinic) …

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Sexual Desire

I’m in a relationship for 7 years, and just as we got serious I had a hormonal IUD fitted, at the begining we were having sex every day all the time and I really felt sexual but after I while things started to dial down and when we hit the pandemic I was on my …

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Stuck in liminality

Hi! I’ve been a Flow Collective member for nearly a year now, but I rarely engage/log on despite listening to Maisie’s podcast every week. I don’t know why – it’s like I am “afraid” of logging on and digging into more content. And I’m not on Facebook… wish there were Flow Collective forums on the …

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Work /life balance

Hello, I’d really love some advice/support re work life balance. For the first time in my life I LOVE my job. I went self employed last year and teach yoga as my job and I am loving it so much. However I feel like I have become obsessed with my work. If I am not …

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Returning to Uni

Hi wonderful coaches! This has a couple of models + a brain dump of my general processing! I’d love any feedback and guidance 🙂 I intermitted last xmas for PMDD + endo-ish reasons, with the goal of getting myself to “the best possible place” in terms of physical and mental health, to be able to …

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Feeling Low, Tired and Negative

I am struggling with fatigue and it is slowly seeping in to other aspects of my life and really making me feel blue. I am doing all the right things regarding diet, lifestyle, sleep habits yet still I am waking feeling exhausted. I have contacted the Dr for advice, blood tests etc. In the meantime …

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Drinking Alcohol Pt.2

Thanks for your response (see below) In answer to your question ‘why do you say yes to glasses of wine when you don’t really want to?’ I think in all honesty, there is a part of me that does want to – I want the ‘escape’ that alcohol brings. I have recently found out that …

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recovering from burnout

Hi coaches! I am recovering from what I believe is a burnout, that had been building up over the past years. I now feel so much better already, but I still have to be very protective of my energy. I notice that when I put a little too much on my plate, I relapse quite …

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Drinking alcohol

I have found myself in a funny pattern and want to get out of it. I don’t really enjoy drinking, even one glass of wine makes me feel terrible the next day – however, I’ve noticed that I keep saying yes to glasses of wine (not loads, maybe one glass a week) and I really …

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Sharing my opinion online

I want to say something on my new migraine social media account sharing my perspective as someone with migraine on how the fact that there’s no cure for migraine is not a helpful thing for the migraine community to keep repeating. However, I keep seeing migraine advocates posting about how they don’t want unsolicited advice …

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Career Change

Since I was a kid I’ve wanted to do work related to the environment. I achieved that goal pretty quickly and I’ve worked for an environmental non-profit since leaving university. Over the past few years I’ve become more and more interested in health. I also really enjoy the peer coaching I’ve been doing in the …

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ADHD and Oestrogen

I’ve just listened to the Oestrogen Detoxification conversation with Carrie Jones and also the Q&A with Masie. They offer that the poor processing of oestrogen potentially via the 4-OH and 16-OH routes can lead to its reabsorption of oestrogen leading to symptoms such as brain fog, heavy periods and bloating. These are three of the …

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Chronic health issue over years

This feels like a big one to write out. I’d like some help with the thought, “There is always something wrong with me.” I’ve had quite a few health issues over the years. Lots of chronic digestive issues, struggles with an anxiety disorder (much better now, for the most part, yay!), and more. Last summer, …

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Inertia, anxiety and work

I am in 7th year of a very rocky health journey. Feels like I am finally coming out of the dark hole into the light. Saying that, I was not “stuck in” at any point of that, I still was challenging myself to go out, socialise, run my business, and house, taking care of my …

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My relationship with alcohol

Dear coaches, My Spring goal is to change my goal with alcohol: – To drink 3 nights and 4 nights off – To feel more in control about it rather than a flaw on my personality. I can enjoy it without it feeling like a burden on me. – To allow myself time off/periods when …

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Not Resting

I’ve been working on a personal project the past few weeks. It’s something I’m really excited about and I’ve been spending most of my evenings and weekends working on it. I feel activated most of the time and I’m not really resting at all. Why is this a problem? I’m finding it harder to concentrate …

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connecting with people online

(This is my first submission, please excuse it being quite unrefined, I wanted to get it out before I talked myself out of it again.) I am chronically ill in my early twenties and have been mostly housebound for the last 5 years which has left me pretty isolated. I do have a very supportive …

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Weight and blame

Hi there, I’ve set a goal this spring to love myself unconditionally. I have been on a journey with this, and my self confidence has improved a great deal. However, I am still struggling with my weight. I really struggle with societal views of obese people and the constant blame culture. I actually feel pretty …

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Exercise goal in a loving way

Hi coaches! I’ve been thinking a lot about my spring goal and it’s all a muddle for me. I’m creating results in lots of areas I’ve quit one job so I’ve more time and space for me/studying/my business. So I feel things are falling in to place and will even more so when I’ll work …

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Exercise

In my last ‘Evaluate & Activate’ review I wrote that I wanted to do more exercise. I thought maybe I’d do a YouTube dance workout or try taking a longer route to work to get more walking in. I put some times in my calendar and then just… didn’t do it. The thing is, I …

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Putting pressure on myself

Hey coaches, I need some direction here 🙂 For the past month, my physical health has not been optimal, I keep catching viruses/bacteria and ending up sick every other week. I went to see my GP and she came to the conclusion that at the moment my immune system is quite weak which makes me …

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Body tempature

Dear coaches, I have a short question about my BBT. I’m measering my tempature now for a while. And the last 2,5 months I’ve tempatures under the 36 celcius. To be exact 9 days from the 2.5 months was under the 36 celcius and the lowest was 35.45 celcius. Maisie is writing in her book …

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I moved to where I live one year ago, with the idea to stay until 2024, or later. After one year, I am not happy living here. I have loving friends and there’s many positive things about this place, there’s things I could work on improving, but my body simply craves being somewhere else. Where …

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Finding joy

I know that it is normal for human brains to have a negativity bias. And I think years’ of anxiety and depression in adolescence has made my bias quite strong without me recognising things can be any different – thinking of this in a neutral way without passing judgment on myself. I know that there …

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