I have thought a lot about sexuality lately and was really honest with myself. This was a bit painful because I realized I never have been really attracted to my husband the way I can be attracted to some other males. I have been in love with my husband for sure, but this has been …
Hello coaches, So I have recently been diagnosed as perimenopausal at 40 and started HRT a week ago. I am really struggling with my mindset during all of this, being obsessed with whether it’s working and feeling low about whether it’s going to work. Generally negativity. Low motivation but wanting to get back to the …
Through cycle tracking, I’ve noticed I’m often feeling especially anxious and struggling to focus on days 13-14 of my cycle (presumably ovulation time). I’m unsure if this is an indication of a hormonal imbalance (which I think is mentioned in Period Power) and whether there’s anything I can do. How can I find out more? …
Hi Coaches, I am pregnant and celebrating that I am now in my 13th week of pregnancy. I had a check up today and I am so grateful that both my baby and me are fine. It has been a challenging time, partly because I had a previous loss. So I want to take this …
Dear coach, I joined a little late and missed the call about goals and goalsetting. I made a model from what i saw on the fb page. Now I had a thought and had quite a few things that i could pick a goal on. Like growing my own breathwork buisnis. Working towards giving autism …
Hi coaches. I want to get coaching on something that happened today/yesterday and sometimes happens to me. Maybe it’s cycle related and I don’t feel its a major issue because I know it always passes. But I’d like some help with it. Yesterday I woke up a bit sad and decided that was ok and …
I’m 42 and had the coil fitted recently after 6 years without any hormonal contraception because of increasingly heavy periods. Short cycles, with crazy flooding just made life (& iron levels) really hard. I think perimenopause is the reason (early days) but having just joined the Flow Collective I’d love to hear your thoughts on …
Hi Coaches, I’m unsure if this is the correct place to post this but I’ve tried looking online and keep coming up short! I’ve recently gone through a termination and I’m expecting to start bleeding any time from now. Do you know what the first period after a termination is generally like? I know the …
Hi, I’ve been recovering from burn-out/ long-covid and also have a very light (looks almost like disappearing) period. I have gotten the advice from a health care proffesional (chinese medicine) to combine the herbs with some light exercise. I can’t put myself to doing it. I feel very tired since I’m now also working fulltime …
Hi, I have a group swimming lesson every week on a Tuesday evening. I often finish work much earlier than the lesson – and my brain does not like hanging around at work for the lesson. Whenever I go to the lesson I am always so pleased I have gone and feel great. The coach …
I’m a 38 year old mother of one beautiful 5 year old boy. Being adopted, I have long struggled with issues around self identity and body image. This was often compounded by the symptoms associated with terrible endometriosis and hormonal imbalance. Despite a VERY happy pregnancy, after my son was born I endured severe, life …
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I have recently started HRT (Jan 23) taking both oestrogel & progesterone (was bio indentical until the UK ran out of stocks!) as I went through a period of being unable to sleep for about 7 weeks straight. I am 45 yrs old with a history of long standing history of chronic insomnia and generalised …
Hi coaches! In winter in my last cycle I had a lot of feelings of anger and frustration. It’s like a feel trapped sometimes or fed up of my roles as teacher or girlfriend or daughter. Which makes me a bit sad, because the people in my life are awesome and nobody puts expectations on …
I’m 32, F, and always considered my cycle to be healthy. What’s normal for me is that I bleed every 30-34 days, my winter is short (4 days max) and it’s a medium to light flow. Usually painful cramps on day 1 but nothing unbearable or unusual. However during the last 6 months on a …
Hi wonderful coaches! This has a couple of models + a brain dump of my general processing! I’d love any feedback and guidance 🙂 I intermitted last xmas for PMDD + endo-ish reasons, with the goal of getting myself to “the best possible place” in terms of physical and mental health, to be able to …
I am a view weeks in seed cycling and it is going quite well. I like the feeling of taking care of myself hereby. I also got a view good tips from the community on how to eat the seeds e.g. by using pastes (tahini etc.) or powders/flours (shredding the seeds). But one question still …
I’m experiencing a lot of doubt—and fear about the doubt and what it means—in my relationship I worry that these thoughts mean something is wrong, that it can’t be repaired and it is going to end I get these thoughts too regularly for this to be normal. how much doubt is normal? not this much, …
I have a friend and its name is anger. It has been with me since as long as I can remember. My anger consumes me, particularly during my Autumn, and when it does I am incredibly unkind to myself and to others. When it’s gone, I am left with all the damage it has done. …
Thanks for the questions. They were helpful to explore. What came up is that it’s a problem for me when I’m in my summer because I think it shouldn’t be like that then – so, something has gone wrong, it’s going to be like this more and more through perimenopause, and life will be rubbish! …
Hello! I am 27 and I have been been tracking my cycle for almost 16 Months now. The results have helped me understand my mind and body in a whole new light. 🙌🏼 In my spring, summer I’m high on life! My thoughts are positive, I’m focused oestrogen is on my side. Im on top …
I’ve been having a couple of days of every little thing getting to me. Generally just feeling really irritable and aggravated. This is unusual for this part of my cycle (summer-ish) and I think I’d be feeling more accepting of it if I was in autumn, so I’m recognising that and the thought that I …
Hi! I have been tracking my cycle for a while and have noticed what a prickly beast I can be on day 13. Where will I find info on the explanation for that? I’m sure I remember hearing or reading something about it. But I didn’t take notes becasue I always thought it was day …
Hi there, I woke up in January with a strong sense that my family (husband and two children, 10 & 13) wasn’t thriving and that it was finally time to move our of our small house in London and back to Oxfordshire where a lot of combined family members live. It would give us more …
Hello, I’m reaching out for some coaching to help me clarify my spring goal and rocks, as I’m getting stuck in thought loops around what is the ‘right’ goal, which is actually quite funny when my goal is (probably) to ground into self-trust. The context is that I am about to move cities for three …
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I’ve just listened to the Oestrogen Detoxification conversation with Carrie Jones and also the Q&A with Masie. They offer that the poor processing of oestrogen potentially via the 4-OH and 16-OH routes can lead to its reabsorption of oestrogen leading to symptoms such as brain fog, heavy periods and bloating. These are three of the …
I have a long-term goal of acheiving no premenstrual spotting. I have just attended the Goal Setters call with Maisie, and it has left me wondering if it’s a good goal or not! I thought about why I want to achieve it – its annoying, it’s a sign that my cycle isn’t happy. Here are …
Hello lovelies, Been working with the creating safety resources and enjoying a lot of great results. It’s led to some inner-child breakthroughs and I’ve noticed that I’ve been showing up for myself in some really cool ways. Currently working with Victoria’s somatics exercises, and having a scrunchy time with it today. This week I’m in …
I suffer from extreme PMS (or undiagnosed PMDD) and often experience low mood / confidence / sensitivity and heightened social anxiety in the Autumn phase of my cycle. I’ve been like this for so many years that I’ve learnt how to manage it with diet, exercise, leaning into feelings and organising my social life with …
Hi, I had a baby 21 months ago and I breastfed for 13 months and didn’t have a period during this time. In August 22 when I stopped breastfeeding my periods returned and instead of being 28-30 days as before they are now 21-22 days apart. I turned 41 in January and am unsure as …
I know that it is normal for human brains to have a negativity bias. And I think years’ of anxiety and depression in adolescence has made my bias quite strong without me recognising things can be any different – thinking of this in a neutral way without passing judgment on myself. I know that there …
I work in a primary school where the children can work individually, which involves much more spontaneity and individual support/help. Today school started again after the holidays. At noon when we’ve eaten all together I’ve got really emotional and asked, if it’s okey, that I take a bit of time for myself and have eaten …
I have listened to the evaluate webinar today and have thought about January on the basis of connection. Can you give me any feedback? Thanks Currently on day 26 so feeling a bit heavy hearted and depleted as I write this… What went well Connection with Charlie (husband) -Curry night once in month -Amazing sex …
Hi Coaches Needs & Desires – I’ve been tracking my cycle now since November & realised that when it came to writing down my needs & desires I really struggled to write something down, I’ve recently had a breakthrough & have been able to add words like Care & Love , it felt nice to …
I’d like some guidance on how to understand my cycle more. After reading Period Power, I decided to stop taking the hormonal pill 6 months ago, and it has been a genuinely life changing experience getting to know my cycle. The first few months after the withdrawal month were great, and quite regular, but more …
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My partner and I have a really good relationship. We’ve been together for two years now and started living together about six months ago. A month or so after we began living together, I started feeling more insecure than I ever have before. He has never given me a reason to feel this way – …
Hello! I am a new member to the Flow Collective. Firstly, I wanted to thank you for providing this wonderful, calm and creative space for me to explore. I have been moved in many ways during the last week and related to so many topics on the podcasts, workshops and replays. I was really torn …
I am a new member and still digesting all the fantastic material .I am in my mid 40s with long term history of am under active thyroid which intake medication for .In the last year my cycle has been getting even more irregular , ranging from 11 days to 33 and now I’m on day …
Hello, So I’ve just turned 40 and over the last few months my periods have started to change. I’ve had shortening cycles for the past few years, down to 26-27 days. The new thing is very low energy before and during period, and period pain. I have been investigated, so all healthy and normal. My …
I am still breastfeeding and therefore am still experiencing postpartum amenorrhea (my daughter is 1 year and my periods didn’t return with my son until he was 13 months). I’ve just watched Harness your Hormones module one and I really want to get going with tracking my cycle and don’t want to wait! My question …
I suspect I have PMDD. I’ve been trying to log my cycles on and off for years. I have two children 1 & 4 year old, with a pregnancy loss in-between. For the past 5 years, I’ve been pregnant, postpartum or breastfeeding. Therefore very few bleeds, making it more tricky to track. I have started …
My work Christmas party is booked for either the evening when I start my period, or day 3 which can be a challenging day for me. I am really looking forward to it and want to go but am a bit worried about not being as present as I want to be or not enjoying …
I have a 10 month old son and am exclusively breastfeeding, so haven’t gotten my period back yet. Do I still have a cycle, and is there a way to track it in the absence of a bleed? Answer: We can answer your coaching questions here in AAC but cannot give medical advice. …
It’s day one of my cycle and I’ve woken up full of rage. It doesn’t feel like a thought is driving the anger, it’s just THERE, in my chest, massive and the colour of a bruise, throbbing. No reason why. Every month I need to take days just to regulate myself and then feel guilty …
I’m not sure where to start. I was able to coach myself very well during the autumn of my cycle which is when I usually have intrusive thoughts that beat me down. But then I had my period and I felt like my world was crumbling. I feel like I want to leave my husband, …
Hi there. 5 months into my TFC journey and cycle tracking, I am ready to seek professional advice to better support my health. I have been diagnosed with PCOS for ~10 years. I now see there are additional areas of my life that I would like a practitioner’s input on: – Severe low moods in …
Hi, I’ve been looking for management for the last few months, and have been reaching out to people here and there. Being in my summer, today I felt capable of taking big massive action and sent some messages and emails I’ve been holding off sending for a while. However, usually after making the massive action …
Morning. 🙂 I’m wondering about my cycle and my moods/ energy levels throughout my cycle. It seems a little off. I’ve been tracking my cycle on an app for a while but started fresh with a new app and spreadsheet in June. I’m noticing my mood is low a lot, tired a lot throughout my …
I have my first ever talk/presentation in 5 days, however it times very badly with my cycle, and my panic is rising. I previously ran a marketing business with my husband and would never have dreamed of putting myself forward for public speaking. It is something I have actively avoided because I have been known …
Hi! I would like to get coaching on a problem that’s been haunting my relationship with my partner for a long time. And specifically, because I don’t know what I truly want or need in this situation. The first piece of background I want to give you is that I experienced sexual assault when I …
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Hi there coaches, I am 37 and currently I am caring for my Mum who has terminal cancer. I also cared for my Dad who had a terminal illness in my early 30’s. I am happily married and my husband and I have both been ambivalent to having kids, leaving it to nature and allowing …
I am a dance and yoga teacher, 46 years old and perimenopausal. Last week was late autumn/ winter for me and I had a very rough time mentally and emotionally. The night before my period started, I was teaching my lovely group of advanced dance students (high school and young adult.) During a partner exercise …
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Hello, I’ve been coached on this goal a few times now. Here’s what’s coming up now. My goal has changed (thanks coaches) to include my business goal and build in an internal goal) G- Taking steps towards setting my business up online with self trust and without urgency Rocks 1) Film some online classes or …
Hi, I know you can’t give out medical advice, so I am asking for pointers in the right direction to get help. I am 31, I have very heavy periods and short cycles (22-24 days) and my cycle experience is contradictory to how it is often describes for other people that bleed. I have been …
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Hi there For the past 2 years I have had brown blood 2 or 3 days before my period (only spotting), and from about day 1-3 of my period. By day 3 it starts to have a red tinge to it but it’s still very dark. My period is also very light until about day …
Hi there, I would really appreciate some input and coaching… My boyfriend and I are trying to conceive for almost a year now, I feel like I’m getting impatient and frustrated in the process and it’s affecting too much of my life. I have PCOS with long & irregular cycles, therefore ovulation is rare and …
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I have been ttc for 3 years. I have had many tests, tried everything from acupuncture, reflexology, therapy, investigations with laparoscopy, finally seeing a nutritionist who has also prescribed herbs etc. It is a hard road, i have turned a corner with being aware of my thoughts however feel like i am in a constant …
I started taking the contraceptive pill in my teens, took it for ten years and then swapped it for a copper coil about ten years ago. My intention was to live more “naturally” and the hope was that my migraine would improve. Now I’ve had two children and the coil put back in after both …
Hello, Im struggling with feeling the authenticity behind my charting because I have just started taking Sertraline a week or ten days before my period to try to treat pmdd. I have just started and im in the part of my cycle when I would usually be feeling all the horrid pmdd symptoms and Im …
My daughter is 8 months old and I was able to exclusively breastfeed her from birth. She is now on solid food and loves it – so much so she’s cut down her breastfeeds during the day substantially but still feeds throughout the night as we cosleep. As a result, I still have not had …
Hello I’m feeling like there is so much that I need direction and help with I don’t know where to begin. I suppose I’ve spent all my life struggling with what now I see as effects of Pms or PmDD. Im generally a highly sensitive person anyway and my mood definitely get affected Id probably …
Hi, I’m new to TFC and I’ve just completed Modules 4 & 5 and I’m keen to practice the IM & UM. I’m trying to use the models for a thought I had this morning and I’d appreciate some advice and another perspective on my action and result lines… UM: C: Husband worked late last …
I have always had very heavy periods that wipe me out for a few days. I am currently taking mefenamic acid (prescribed by the doc) as this is the only way I can function on the first day or two of my period. I have been looking back at the inflammation and oestrogen videos and …
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Hi 🙂 I have very recently joined the community and I have just down the first session of Harness your Hormones. However, I thought I would use the opportunity to ask straight away something that has been on my mind for quite some time. I have been struggling for some years now with really low-mood …
Hello coaches, Here we go… I feel very stuck, in that I have constrained my desire to have a healthy relationship with my cycle by implementing the use of hormonal birth control methods that I truly do not want. I would like to give some background info on my history with these contraceptives and what …
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Hello, I am four weeks post termination. I have had lots of support around me and I have been able to look after myself lots. I was sure of my decision but had quite a tough time physically and have been a little drained and low on energy. As such, I am taking magnesium, B …
Thank you for the coaching in my previous question. I’ve done a model like you suggested and it already feels like I’m working with this now in a way that feels good. Would love some thoughts on the model: C: Others perception about me T: What if I just be myself fully F: Free A: …
Hi, I’ve noticed I spend a lot of energy, particularly in the last half of my cycle going over my social interactions with people. Mostly related to work that is. It is as if my brain is trying to make sure I didn’t screw up, said something wrong, was misunderstood, accidentally offended someone, was being …
I recovered from HA in August 2021 and have had periods ever since but they are irregular. Last few months cycle lengths: 39, 39, 34, 39,50, 40, 44, 32). It’s now been over a year post-HA and I’d have hoped my periods would have become regular again by now. I have also noticed in recent …
Hi, I’d love some help please. So I finally got around to re-listening to the “Understanding Your Cycle” module. I listened to it a while back and knew I needed to listen it again and take lots more notes, as so much hit home with me. So, below is basically a summary of the notes …
Hello! I have 5 cycles’ worth of tracked data, and while overall a pattern has of course emerged, there are 5 days that are still “mystery days” for me in terms of how I’m going to feel physically and mentally, whereas almost all the others have consistent themes cropping up. Those 5 days have been …
Hello there! I am stuck on some thoughts about my relationship. So my circumstance here are our conversations. My thoughts about it are simply that they are not interesting, and I feel bored. I then go into a disconnected mode, not asking further questions and also not sharing more. I get irritated with his reactions …
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Hey coaches, I need some advice on this situation that happened today. Here is the background story: my boyfriend and I have been together for 5.5 years and living together for the past 3.5 years. We are both expats living and working abroad and in the past years our social circle got smaller and smaller …
Dear Maisie, I have been absorbing information from yourself and other functional medicine gyn’s who suggest using magnesium and DIM to help with Oestrogen dominance symptoms. I was wondering if you could advise me on if it is safe to take both alongside each other and if so at what strength. I take no other …
Hi, I am a brand new Flow Collective member. I have just searched the coaching questions and haven’t found anything to advise me about coming off the pill so I thought I would ask a question. I was put on the contraceptive pill 9 years ago as I was finding the PMT symptoms really distressing …
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Thoughts download: Im not reliable throughout my entire menstrual cycle. I can become sick again. Health insurance is too expensive. I dont want to loose my free health insurance. I either need to be poor with free health insurance or very rich, but not in the middle, if not i will have to work too …
Hi! I love how I feel in my spring. But at the same time it always is a very difficult period for me. From the moment I start bleeding, I get a rush of sexual desire through my body and I feel like I NEED to sleep with someone. This has in almost every spring …
Hi, I am in my mid twenties and a year and a half ago I underwent surgery for the removal of a cyst on my left ovary. This event triggered me to read Period Power, listen to Maisie’s podcast, and then ultimately join TFC, as I wanted to learn more so I could help myself. …
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Hi there, My period have stopped but I’m still ovulating, I know this as I’ve just had an internal scan. My question is how do I chart my cycle if my period have stopped? Answer: Here at Ask A Coach, we offer coaching and this is a question rather than a coaching submission so …
How much is the season and the weather affecting my cycle and hormones? I have spotting in the winter but now when the Summer is here the spotting is gone. I get easily cold in the winter (with cold hands and feet) and a Chinese medicine practitioner said that that contributes to my pms and …
Just joined up with you and am feeling a little confused, doesn’t take much now! I have started to work through the videos but how do I track my cycle or whatever it is called when you are in Perimenopause. I still have all the Seasons you talk about but now I am 56 they …
Dear coach, This is going to be a bit of a ramble, my apologies. I’m still fairly new to the flow collective and still haven’t managed to create any models yet. I’m all over the place. 1. On April 30 my mum committed suicide 2. Because of the above I’ve decided to move back to …
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Hi, coming back to AAC as the last one has really helped. Also stole some bits from another members coaching! I get stuck in the same unintentional models every Autumn and wondered if you could help me refine them, and the intentional one: C I’m overweight T It’s not fair I have so many issues …
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I have done quite some work on my own perfectionism, setting (too high) goals and being judging of myself. I feel like I have made great improves in this and am more self loving and self caring now. But in autumn, when I have PMS and mood swings, I recognize I am doing what I …
Hello. I’m on day 22 of my first cycle since a complicated pregnancy loss, and I’m struggling with my partner and child. I found myself shouting at them, being bossy, snappy and even thinking I’d be better of not having a family at all , but not saying it out loud and feeling guilty to …
Hello, Reaching out in the depths of winter, as can’t see the wood for the trees at the moment… my goal is to build a better relationship with food, it’s a big vice of mine and something I’ve always struggled with. Since the spring forward workshop I’ve been completely on it, been feeling really positive, …
Dear coaches, I joined the FC recently and just worked through the harness your hormones. And this is my first Ask a Coach and english is not my mother tongue, hope I’m comprehensible. I’m doing the cycle tracking more and more regularly since half a year and my main aim is to figure out where …
Hello! I am noticing some indecision around wording of my goal for these three months. The context is that a get intense pain on day one of my cycle and a big part of being in the flow collective is to help me reduce that pain. Currently every other period I haven’t had to take …
I am deep in my autumn. moving houses coming up which is timed well with my two weeks off between jobs and with my partners promotion/increase in responsibilities, learning curve, stress, and increased demands on his time. I am trying to manage my thoughts around the move and create a feeling of confidence. One thing …
I’ve had irregular/no menstrual cycle for over 7 years. I put it down to the multiple contraceptives I was taking and a doctor who said I had PCOS (due to my lack of periods). In the last 9 months I’ve been off contraceptives and plan to stay this way, with the intention of letting my …
Hi coaches, I’m feeling frustrated and upset this week because everything I’m hearing and reading about the seasons of the cycle don’t really seem to reflect my experience of my own cycle. I was hoping to find that some of the mood swings and big emotions I feel in life were related to my cycle …
I’m in my second month of cycle tracking, and I feel so much more in tune with my cycle. I’ve noticed both months I felt detached, numb, disconnected and spacey on my transition between winter and spring. I was thrilled to be able to identify this, and it made being gentle on myself much easier. …
Hi, My goal for these next few months is to create a body of work. I already work as a creative in the music industry, but this project is going to be sole by myself for myself. I have found it challenging because my inner critic makes me doubt myself a lot, which again makes …
Hello! I’m noticing that my ability to communicate concisely changes throughout my cycle. For example, in my late Winter/Spring I feel full of ideas and can take information and make it make sense, I’m creative, I’m productive, I describe it as “I’m firing on all cylinders”. In my autumn, my brain feels jumbled, my speech …
Hi coaches! I have always had some sensory issues (hyper sensitive to certain sounds such as chewing, cutlery on plates, flicking fingernails) and I am just starting to connect these with my cycle. My coping strategies for when these sensations are happening are: trying to distract myself, telling myself it is the noise that is …
In the middle of my autumn what are tools I can use to slow the self-critical, analytical, insecure overdrive of my brain and rather harness that energy for productive positive change? Answer: If you haven’t watched Harness Your Hormones yet, I recommend starting there as there are so many tools included in there, especially …
Hi! I just joined and am very excited to be here. I’m familiarizing myself with all the content, modules, and calls, etc. But I’m having some doubts that I’m doing this “right”. Some background: Like many of us, throughout quarantine, I learned a lot about myself/my body. I learned that I am highly sensitive, and …
So I posted this up on the facebook feed but think I’d like some coaching with it. I have charted my cycle for years (more in depth in the past year) and have totally changed my lifestyle (over the past 7 years) to try and enable my cycles to become more regular, however in truth …
C: Day 6 of intense period. Felt like I was giving birth on Day 3 which was much more intense than normal. Kids both have covid and high temps and very unwell. Husband at work as normal. Went to play hockey as normal. Up all night with little one who kept hallucinating. Said I needed …
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Hi, every month in my fall I am not well. I think I have a progesterone deficiency and my gynecologist doesn’t take it seriously, saying that many women have this and it’s “normal”. However, I am really bothered by this pre-menstrual spotting that starts a week after my ovulation. Especially because it is not just …
My eldest daughter is 7 and currently in the process of receiving an autism diagnosis. She is clearly struggling at the moment – full of anger, panicked about fitting in at school and feeling she is different whilst having worrying low self esteem as she has perfectionist tendencies. She masks throughout the day and because …
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