I am about to defend my dissertation for my doctorate. I’m excited and looking forward to celebrating so many years of hard work. But I’ve spent a lot of the last two days in tears and completely spiraling because of what happens next. Yesterday, a few horrible things happened including a sudden $1000 in expenses, …
One of my spring goals is to get a promotion at work. It’s something I’ve spoken to my boss about and he wants it for me, too. Since I started in my job I’ve tripled annual revenue but last year fell 50% short of the goal for the year. The thought is that I don’t …
Hello! So I have been dealing with quit a lot indecision within my job roles. There are many factors affecting what I chose and I have been finding it difficult. I moved away from 9-5 as my partner works Tuesday to Sunday with a day off in the week and we try to both have …
I come from a middle class family and I a few years ago I inherited enough money from my grandma to put down a sizeable deposit on a house at the age of 33. I am incredibly grateful for this privilege but it is also a source of guilt. I’m a committed socialist and due …
The people in my immediate friend network are great folks, but I often feel like the most ambitious person among them and I want to move in circles of people with ambitions way beyond where we are now. I want to run with people who make me raise my game. I’m looking for ambitious, no-limits …
I want to meet people with ambitions equal to and beyond my own, but how? Read More »
I’ve just ended another day at a high payed pubic health job, where I am really feeling the pressure. I’m putting in extra hours to try and produce something that I think they want from me, but I’m also not sure what they want from me – and I am very intentional about being direct …
Maisie spoke about dreams in her goal setting call today. My dream is about resting and pleasure. I see myself wearing beautiful clothing, going to the opera, waking up in a beautiful hotel room with crisp white cotton sheets, drinking tea in bed and then reading the paper at a table outside a cafe with …
Hello! I wondered if you might be able to help me with my main goal that I have this year, which is to change my relationship with success / my career. As I have realised recently that I’ve had quite unhealthy relationships with success, which have been quite extreme, either /or, at different ends of …
I have read back my notes from the end of Dec beginning of Jan after listening to Maisie talk about making decisions. I would like some help on making my decision. I want to change my work. I like my workplace (school) but it is 6 days a week , long days and I am …
Hi, I am feeling particularly overwhelmed at the moment and I’m noticing its affecting many areas of my life. I am working on my business and feel like I’m making little progress as I see what others are doing in a similar field and worry I’m not up to it…then that my website isn’t good …
Hi, seven years ago, my husband started on a journey to create our own start-up. I joined him in 2018 full time (-ish, as I had to freelance to make a living). We have launched in the mass-market twice, so on paper, we are successful and others envy us. We have a way to go …
Thank you for your last answer. It has helped to think that his actions have nothing to do with me and that he is being himself and showing up in the world in a way that is congruent with his perception of reality. IT is slightly harder for me to be deliberate about what I …
I’m an Art teacher and working toward qualifying by September as a child counsellor using the arts, it’s been years of part time work and free client hours to get to this point. I’ve been contacted by a headmistress who likes the idea of the counselling using the arts and wants to think about working …
Potential new role asking for money in an underpaid profession Read More »
Hello lovely coaches! I’d love some guidance on a model I’m working with around my urge to buy things when I’m feeling stressed, particularly knitting and sewing supplies. I’ve gleaned some good stuff from the previous post “shopping out of control” but I’m still a bit stuck. My UM C: new project supplies shopping T: …
what do you think it means about you if you think that your husband is unkind? – this is hard as I think it means I am an idiot and have no boundaries and am being taken for a ride. I think I am a poor role model for my children and I am weak. …
I have been uncomfortable with my target audience for my business for a while now. So much so that I actually changed my whole business model to avoid them, only to have now come full circle in understanding that I cannot avoid them. It’s such a strange thing, and I’m also very scared to do …
I have tried to be explicit setting a boundary with my sister asking her not to ask me to lend her money. She asked me can she put money on my credit card for the space of 6 days. I think this is the part the makes it feel harder to say no, because it’s …
Hello dear coach, I have been feeling some pressure in my chest and throat when sitting to finally write this here. I have been considering stepping out of TFC. I realize there are two thoughts behind this circumstance: I do not have enough money to pay for it AND I haven’t engaged with TFC in …
I took a January offer to sign up with a boutique gym class place near me. It was a good deal as the place is v. expensive. I’ve really enjoyed the month and was thinking when it ran out I am gonna try another place (which is doing a Feb offer) before returning to the …
My brain is telling me “I can’t do this. This is too hard.” After 4 years in the liminal space of career change, I still don’t know what I really want. I’ve been trying to experiment and evolve myself into something new, focusing on freelance but also considering going back into employment. I have had …
I’m struggling to sort through this decision- My partner and I need to rebuild our savings after some financial challenges at the end of 2022. I have two options now to support him in this 1. Get an agency job as a care worker/waitress/bar staff/cleaner etc 2. Take on more paid research work/tutoring. I feel …
Decision making- chasing short or long term work goals Read More »
I have been feeling anxious about my financial situation for a while and so have finally taken the plunge and made these thought models… Unintentional model C – I have X amount of debt, I also have X amount of savings T – My dad will be so disappointed in me for not having managed …
Some context- Before joining the TFC I was in a position to take a professional opportunity that I felt could’ve enhanced my career but I declined to be considered due to the financial cost ( we were at the beginning all the cost of living stuff coming out in the media and I was spooked). …
Missed opportunities/borrowing tomorrow’s trouble for to day Read More »
I recently posted in the community the following: Been here several months and felt so much growth, but today is a test. The feelings of shame around leaving my self assessment tax return to the last minute are real. I know I have the tools to avoid a full on shame spiral, but a lot …
Last summer, after ruminating about this for quite a while, I asked my boss for more responsibilities in order to use my full potential and to keep growing. And I also asked for a promotion. My boss was very surprised by me requesting a promotion as before I had just quietly been doing my thing …
Sometimes I feel like I’m going around in circles with the same thing regarding my career, and each week I seem to go through the same worries. I really want to start making some changes in my mindset because in most other areas of my life I am feeling pretty good and work feels like …
Hello! I just noticed that I was buffering to avoid certain thoughts and feelings that I have about money. I’m going to charge a client $6,000 for a trip he wants to purchase from me and while I was preparing the link for the payment my brain went in the direction of ” they also …
Since I joined The Flow Collective and set my goals and word for the year, I’ve been on such a high. Full of energy, ready to do the work necessary to reach my goals, and willing to invest money in myself for the first time in a long while. For many years I struggled to …
I have just had an interview for a job. It is for an organisation that supports the sector that I have worked in for 9 years. My previous experience has been very much on the ground, in very practical roles, mostly based in nature. It has also been mostly casual work. This role is office …
I’ve recently set up my own coaching business (thanks to the work done in the Flow Collective!) which I’m doing on the side of my full-time day job. I have just got my first paying client, but they want to pay me with their work development funds — my coaching niche is my day job …
Hi coaches, I recently watched the money mindset video and found it really interesting. However I did find that I seem to have the opposite problem to some of what was talked about. I don’t have any issues with not knowing my money or avoiding dealing with it, I do the opposite…every day I check …
I think I’m trying to decide whether to look for a new job, but I’m open to the possibility that there’s another question buried in the murky middle. Background: I am an immigrant in Iceland and the job market is tough for non-Icelanders. A year ago, through a lucky connection, I got a very well-paying …
To quit or not to quit (is that really the question?) Read More »
Hello! I am a new member to the Flow Collective. Firstly, I wanted to thank you for providing this wonderful, calm and creative space for me to explore. I have been moved in many ways during the last week and related to so many topics on the podcasts, workshops and replays. I was really torn …
I worked through the Money Mindset workshop and uncovered a lot of shame/guilt I’d like coaching to work through. -My parents built wealth from little family resources, and are able to help buy property for me. It will give me ease in life and freedom from mortgage but I feel guilt around not building the …
Hi coaches, Your post in the facebook page got me thinking. The recalibrate workshops and the winter workshop made me feel SO inspired. I have a lot of big ideas. And the winter workshop put me into a model that made me think okay what if this were possible, what if this were simple, what …
I notice I am overfunctioning for my partner. He is struggling with a lack of purpose/income in his career and has low moods about it. He has also made some big mistakes in things like taxes which will lead to a big joint bill and I notice my trust in him has been affected. My …
I am deciding whether to enroll in a professional course. My husband has judged my most recent investments in business coaching programs as not being worth the money. We have had completely merged finances for over 11 years, through ups and downs in each of our professions, so all of our spending affects both of …
Investing in Myself and Permission from my Partner Read More »
Hi, My boyfriend proposed to my just last week. I was surprised but super happy. But more even surprises on the fact how relaxed I seemed considering we have a couple months to plan and finance the party. But my mind has started to catch up on me since I’m in my PMS (or in …
Afraid to spend money on wedding, not thrusting my ability to cope with finances Read More »
Not a so much a coachy question – but help please: As I enter the new year – still very much in Winter, having reviewed my Autumn goals and what’s left in the residual for me – I want to work on my Money Mindset – I know there are resources specific to this inside …
C: I have been working in an amazing school for 7 years, started as a support worker, then Teacher and now I am starting my journey into senior leadership. When I started it felt like my dream job and so it was for many years. Three years ago I left, looking for new adventures but …
I am becoming a self-employed tattoo artist. The result I want is financial independence, particularly from my sexual abuse denying parents. Longer-term from social welfare, and (yes I do dare to say it) even financial freedom, comfort and wealth. Whilst still working to dismantle white-colonial, patriarchal Capitalism. I recently wrote a list subconscious beliefs I’ve …
The reasons I gave myself for not booking the ferry myself are: – There are two ferry companies, and one is more convenient for the other side than the other but I’m not sure which is the one we needed to book with. – My partner knows somebody that can get us better prices, but …
Can’t Get Excited About Things When There A No/Vague Plans – Part 2 Read More »
Hi I posted in the community a few days ago about a situation and a few models to go with it, but it didn’t get any responses. So I thought it might be best to bring this one to ask a coach: *Help with creating an intentional thought* So yesterday I put myself forward for …
Why do I want to change my work circumstance. -I don’t feel in control -I feel activated as though I am trapped -I don’t think women on my team are respected including challenges of being a mother and working -I don’t feel the same sense of connection to the work or mission as I did …
I’m struggling with feelings of guilt over all 3 of my children needing expensive orthodontic work. I’m feeling guilty that they have to go through the pain and inconvenience of it (I made them so it must be my fault they all have issues) And I feel guilt about spending so much money on all …
I have made a couple of mistakes in the last 24 hours. – I fixed a shelf to the wall wrong and now can’t get it off to put it right (though my partner says he’ll fix it when he feels better from being ill) and I somehow managed to set the thermostat to being …
I caught a thought/feeling today about expecting that money isn’t always going to be there in the immediate future, like when I think about future plans I imagine I’ll have children but be skint as a parent and it will be difficult, rather than living in abundance. I know this is from my conditioning and …
I had braces as a teenager, but never wore my retainer (so much regret here!) and my teeth have become wonky. I am very self conscious about this. Last week I took action and went to the dentist to find out how much it would cost to get them sorted, they quoted me £4000 for …
8 years ago I quit my corporate job after a family bereavement changed my world view. I was anxious stressed and working in a job that fuelled these feelings. Staying in it didn’t seem worth it at all. I trained to become a yoga teacher, started my own business, worked less and rewired my nervous …
Ok, so I’ve been thinking of canceling my membership ever since I first subscribed to The Flow Collective, which sounds so weird now that I write that down and I’m laughing at myself a bit. The reasons I have in my mind are: “This is too expensive for me”, “I need to prioritize other payments” …
Money mindset / Thinking about canceling my membership Read More »
After the messy imperfect action call I phoned my boss and said “it’s about time I ask for more money”. We’re having a meeting on Thursday to discuss it. I am self employed but he runs a business so up till now he has dictated the rate he deems his company can afford to pay …
Asking for more money as a long-term subcontracted freelancer THOUGHT DOWNLOAD Read More »
I’d like some coaching on quitting, A voice is telling me to stop. This is partly from burnout, and partly because of my values: I want to embody permission to stop. I have no shadow of a doubt when working with my clients, friends and family that their worth is supremely untethered to what they …
Hello dear coach, I got coached on this little bit over one of the calls but it has many layers to it so would like to continue my coaching over here 🙂 I moved to a French city (M) 1 month before the pandemic hit and have had serious health sruggles since I moved here. …
moving to my very own place, financial burden of it and transitional time in my life Read More »
I’m leaving the realm of raising money through friends and family and entering into the raising money from strangers and investment companies. I am thinking about this with drive but absolute terror and feelings of impending doom. With friends and family it was so vomity. After every no I had to go to bed and …
I have been in the flow collective since the summer and this is my first time using ask a coach and I did consider asking this in the community but it doesn’t feel properly formulated. I feel like I should be grateful for my relationship with husband. We have been together over 20 years and …
Uncertainty whether relationship needs to change or mindset Read More »
Hello, I am currently doing thought work around money, and I came across the thought that I don’t really know who I am if I wouldn’t worry about money. I grew up quite poor and have been able to earn a steady income the past years, but my nervous system is still worrying and very …
Hey! So I’ve been in TFC just a month now and am struggling a little with using the Self coaching model. Please can i get some help with it? So i am going to try it on this situation: Circumstance – Had an argument with my husband about paying for our house renovations Thought – …
I resigned from my job two weeks ago. I do not have anything lined up next but I will be paid until the start of January. I have been there for nearly five years. I resigned because the dynamic with my manager was detrimental to my health; I realised there were elements of psychological abuse …
Dear coaches, I recently learned I was pregnant, and me and my boyfriend are totally happy about it. But we still live in different cities (ca 1,5 hours by train or 2,5 by car apart), me in a small studio flat, he in a flat share, which means we have to move in together soon …
Dear Coach, Hope you are well and having a good day 🙂 I have been wanting from a far (as Maisie puts it) to turn my creative hobbies into a fantastic business for a year and a half but I find when I go to do the work I stall, get stuck, feel nervous and …
I work three days a week as a manager in the public sector and have worked where I work for 20 plus years. There are lots of changes happening in what feels like a very short period of time and I am finding it difficult to navigate this and not let it consume me. In …
I am in a position at work where I feel that my salary doesn’t match up to the value that I create for the company. I have grown my role over 5 years and during that time have had a few pay rises but I now feel frustrated and resentful that my position has undoubtedly …
With the increases in the cost I’d living I’m afraid I can no longer justify the cost of membership. My intention was to cancel and as I did was prompted to reach out to the Ask A Coach Answer: If your intention was to cancel, what was the thought and feeling that inspired you …
Hi, For my spring goals I set myself the goal of finishing my novel and get the ball rolling on moving house. Both of these things I have achieved – my agent is sending my book out on submission to publishers tomorrow and we have had an offer accepted on my ‘dream’ house. I feel …
“” What else can or could money be energetically used for (i.e. besides buying things) in your mind? What comes up for you when you see this list?”” The list I’ve been able to come up with so far: – provide resources – empower people – create a sense of security (or paranoia) – serve …
I am currently living under my parents roof, but dreading every moment of it. They are both retired and are home 24/7 like I am as I work remotely from home. I do not get any alone time at the house and I leave the house if things are too much for me. It’s been …
Dear coaches, I have an issue about money and the space I‘m taking up. I‘m living in a 3room apartment on my own (before it’s been a shared flat and I took it over a year ago to have my studio here). The rent is – for my feeling and like in every other capital …
Hello! I hope this question finds you well <3 All of this money mindset work couldn’t have come at a better time. It feels like such a tangled web to me, that I really don’t know where to start to unpick what my family money story is and how its holding me back. Even just …
Money Mindset and Family of Origin Issues, Finances tied up in family Read More »
Hello wonderful TFC coaches. So I have a lot going on in my head when it comes to the next steps of my professional life in the future. A bit of context: I am a yoga teacher. I am 31 years old, been working as a yoga teacher for the last 7 years and it …
Hello, the money theme has been well timed for me as I’m currently trying to work through some inner conflicts around it, and return to a place of sufficiency and safety. I have been lucky enough to have grown up in family where money was not an issue and for most of my life, it …
So after listening to the self trust and investing podcast’s I am massively regretting not signing up to Maisie’s business coaching after the HUGE privilege of being offered a space. I will include models & TD below! C – Didn’t sign up to Maisie’s business coaching T – I’ve made the wrong decision F – …
Regret for not signing up to Maisie’s Business Coaching Read More »
Hello, and thanks in advanced to the incredible coaches. Even before Maisie announced this month’s theme, I’ve been on a kick empowering myself with better money mindset and money habits, so the timing has been incredible, but there is still one thing that keeps crazy triggering my nervous system…. I’m currently in the early stages …
Investing in yourself and your business while also wanting to conceive Read More »
Thoughts download: Im not reliable throughout my entire menstrual cycle. I can become sick again. Health insurance is too expensive. I dont want to loose my free health insurance. I either need to be poor with free health insurance or very rich, but not in the middle, if not i will have to work too …
Hi coaches. Just watched the money mindset workshop, loved it, thank you. I feel like I could do a whole deep dive into money stuff and I am so ready to change my attitude toward money. I noticed a question in the worksheet really stood out for me: what is blocking you from creating/having more …
Just before my first Money Date 🙂 I would like to describe a problem that is bothering me regarding money. I think I have a shopping addiction. It’s not that my house is full of junk, much more I like to buy expensive, sustainably produced clothes, which I then also wear very gladly, or furnishings, …
I’d like some coaching around these models. I’m realising I’m a bit stuck in these Unintentional models when I change my mind about something I’ve bought online. Unless I can take the items back immediately (which isn’t always possible for me) I get into a stress response. Unintentional Model C: taking refunds to post office …
Hello team, after the money mindset workshop, I have set up my module (actually several) to my unintentional thoughts on why I avoid knowing my finances/ why I avoid to take responsibility in this area of my life. So here it goes: C: financial situation is unclear T: I can’t do this, it’s too much. …
Context: My boyfriend and I met 7 years ago at Uni when we both studied theatre studies. I wanted to be a journalist, he wanted to be a director. We both went on other career paths and found something that we both even liked better than what we thought we would do. I am working …
Money Mindset: Not feeling worthy of living a ‘luxurious’ lifestyle Read More »
So this is my first Model and i am looking forward to get some help / advice to this. I am a performance artist and i do the production and booking for my company. Recently i offered a show package, which got booked. After i recieved the confirmation i panicked the i offered the package …
Hi there, I’d love some business coaching advice. I’ve reached a point where I know i need to tweak some things in my business and am ready to make some changes. I really want to make this something I can feel proud of and successful. I teach yoga and it’s all still pretty new to …
Dear Coach, thank you for your answer! I have been thinking about what you wrote, and I really like your suggestions. To the first R: R: I do not see the value in the choices that I have made This is definitely the result I am getting. I worked back on the model so I …
My goal has to do with my business and therefore has an affect on my family’s finances. My husband wants to know more about what I am aiming for, what I see myself earning financially and on what timeline. I have not felt empowered by past conversations about goals with him, and failure to reach …
Hello There, I’d like to get an external perspective and advice on how to approach a business related issue. I have delivered a series of workshops for a private university. Due to their internal issue (I don’t know what it is) they only paid me 60% of the promised rate per hour. I flagged this …
Dear coach! I would love to get some of your thoughts on these models on money. I have written down others with the same C-line, and different thoughts and feelings. I decided to share these since I think they are really on the basis of what is going on. I am quite unsure about my …
Hi Coaches , so im bringing back and model to continue working on as i seem to have come back to my unintentional model again , this was my cleaned up model and advice i received. C: HV job 4 days/week, Coaching business T: I do not have enough time or money (Is this the …
Hello lovelies, just wanting to check in with my first self-coaching model to see if this is right… C: I joined the Flow Collective T: I am irresponsible and selfish for spending so much money on myself F: Guilt A: I don’t tell anyone about joining. I spend time worrying about money. I don’t …
I’m feeling stuck in model and I can’t get out. The same thoughts keep going round my head. I want to quit my full time job and teach yoga full time (self employed). I’m all set up and ready to go (already have busy classes and more lined up) I just need to hand my …