Hello lovely coaches! I am going to negotiate a raise for the next year and the meeting I expect will take place within the next two weeks. I work as a sales Manager and I have been with my company from the start of my career (over 10 years.) I am actually quite happy with …
Thank you so much for your answer. In the past, when I’ve had the thought “it’s unfair” it made be depressed. I often thought “what’s the point anyway because my brother will always get more praise / attention (from my parents) no matter what I do”. So I think I want to avoid the thought …
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Hi, My work told us that they’ll be announcing redundancies next week. This was pretty shocking, but also what shocked me more was that part of me wants it to be me. I have wanted to leave for a while, and am currently setting myself up to go freelance – and there is part of …
I’m working on the following model and would really appreciate some feedback and guidance as I feel rather stuck with it. I have so many thoughts around the Circumstance, but they all create the same or very similar Sensations, Actions and Results. I also can’t find a Thought that resonates in the intentional model C …
Thanks so much for your answer to my first question and for confirming what I had started to feel when writing out the question: that I didn’t like my reasons for moving into a smaller flat. The idea came up out of fear/uncertainty and wanting to safe but when I asked myself what I was …
Hello coaches 🙂 I have been thinking about my career/work life a lot recently. Having done lots of learning/self-reflection/becoming a mum over the last few years, I have started to understand myself better and know that the work I do at the moment doesn’t fulfil me in some ways. It’s hard to show up in …
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Today I used the journal prompt: If you could wave a magic wand and instil some new thoughts and beliefs about yourself, what would you go with? Why? At first, I was met with resistance. But then I came up with these 2: 1. I am ready to receive financial success. 2. I am ready …
Hi coaches, I currently live in a really nice, spacious flat that I absolutely love and that has got everything that I ever wanted in a flat. It’s airy, I can dance around in it, the light is gorgeous, it has a little terrace and garden. I really, really love it. It is, however, very …
Hi, I’ve been thinking about my relationship with money. I started a project recently which is to empower a specific group of underrepresented identities within the LGBTQ+ community. It’s a weekly newsletter, plus I plan to organise events soon, too – and my aim is to build an identity specific community in the long term. …
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Dear coaches, thanks for your help on part one of this question! Here’s something of a follow-up. Through writing, I’ve discovered that I’ve been getting more easily frustrated at work because it’s unsatisfying and unstable. There isn’t much for me to do since the structure of the company changed a few months ago, and I, …
Hi, (This might seem like a random one, but I think I’m making it mean more than it is – so would appreciate any guidance!) A few months ago, a friend of a friend got in touch to ask if I’d be up for dog sitting their dog once a week, as they had a …
Hey there, I´m new to the membership. This is my first model. Any suggestions appreciated! C: Wanting to start an online health coaching business T: I don´t know where and how to start F: Overwhelmed S: Tightness in chest and upper back A: Procrastinate R: Don´t ever get to work as an online health coach. …
Hi Coaches, Im practising my first few models here on a situation that I find very tough. I have been not working for a year now due to Burnout. At the end of the year my benefits will run out and as I have been feeling a little better I am craving some routine, normality …
Hi, I’d love some guidance on a model please. The thought randomly came up for me this morning and it feels like a big realisation, I’d be grateful for recommendations on how I can improve this model☺️ C – Meditating T – I’m less important as I earn less now F – Insignificant S – …
What happens if the circumstance is affecting another circumstance? Let me give an example of something I’m working on using The Model. I’m new to the collective. So not sure if this is for here. I have a client who takes up a lot of mental real estate (read this this morning in the new …
I would love feedback on the model about making a decision involving house, renovations, and a lot of money. The circumstance is that we’ve got new neighbors and they want to do renovations on the attic which links to our house. The facts are if we do it together it will be much cheaper in …
I have been working as a freelancer for 2 years. Recently it has become a bit more clear how exactly my clients benefit from working with me (I knew it was useful but couldn’t quite put my finger on it). I decided to build a website and asked for some help with it. I would …
I’ve just joined the flow collective and watched the replay from today, so here’s me taking action and sharing as Maisie suggested. C: I’m overdrawn and don’t have enough income to meet future costs T: I’m terrible with money F: anxious S: racing heart, racing brain as my head tries to solve the problem A: …
Hi coaches, I’ve been feeling really, really down for over three months now and I’m wondering what tools I can use to shake up my mood and start to feel a little more positive again. I’m feeling so negative, sad and like I’ve lost all my faith that things will work out. (I do see …
Hello wonderful coaches! I am struggling at the moment, as a project I thought i had lined up doesn’t start til the end of October, and I’m not even sure I want to take it anyway, as it’s doing something similar to what I’m doing now (at least at first) – and I find it …
Hi! My goal for autumn is going to be the same as the one I had in summer, because I didn’t make it happen. This was partly due to some external changing factors (such as moving house, which took up over a month, and holidays) that I hadn’t planned for. As well as some recurrent …
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Hi dear coaches, I am trying to establish a UM that comes up when I feel what I call “frenzy to buy” new things. I will typically feel a deep desire and sense of urgency to buy new items (usually clothing/ accessories/shoes) that I don’t necessariliy need. These impulse buys sometimes end up not being …
Hi coaches, last December I accidentally caused a water stain on the wooden floor in my rented apartment which I then tried to fix myself until March when I finally gave up and notified my liability insurance and landlord. I had put the two in touch and had not heard from them since and therefore …
I’d like some coaching on this thought I have that my results are not congruent with the image I have of myself. I’m a type of coach (alongside my paid employment), and I have done a massive amount of work on myself to think about myself as a coach. I struggled with feeling ‘not enough’ …
Hi coaches, I need some coaching on a situation which has been recurring for more than a year plus now. It’s on feature pieces that I have to write, an editor who makes many changes and me needing to pay attention late on a Friday night when the pages are sent for print. This happens …
Tiredness, recognising limits and dealing with annoying editor. Read More »
Hi! I had a situation come up the other day, where a friend told me how she steals a lot from stores. It is not just food and essential items, but expensive luxury items and art supplies. She is fully capable of working, but chooses not to most of the time. She has totally justified …
Hello wonderful coaches! I was coached by Maisie last week in the VIP call regarding my money mindset. I haven’t brought myself to rewatch the coaching yet — I’ve been feeling some shame about it and I keep thinking of things I wish I had said instead of what I actually said. But! I know …
When I look at my reasons to cut back hours I see emotions such as: overwhelm. When I look at my reasons to not cut back hours I see emotions such as: fear of rejection/fear of financial loss. You said ‘you know what you want, trust yourself.’ That is true. I want to work less …
Hello! I spotted a thought pattern while doing pilates this morning that has had an impact on me for a very long time. I’m working on building my business and when I wake up in the morning my automatic thought is “this isn’t going anywhere”. Then my brain goes in the direction of ” I …
I have started working as an independent midwife. I’ve had one client so far – it was magical. I have had some other enquiries but currently have no further clients booked. To continue earning money – I work agency (flexible) shifts at the local maternity unit. I struggle with the maternity system and think I …
My husband and I have let a property for approx. 6 years to current. I’ve raised a discussion about declaring tax, multiple times, my husband shared resistance. Two of more of these discussions have taken place with the presence of family members, agreeing we should do our tax return. Over the years, I’ve let his …
Hi, I’m a creative and last year I struggled for money so I managed to get some work with my dads (small) software company after sending a message to the boss and proposing things I could do to improve their social media and overall marketing presence. We did a video/ photo shoot with them, and …
I have 4 children aged 13 to 5 and love them very very much – they are my heart! I am a working mum and the main earner in my family, with my husband working part time up until recently. He has just got redundancy and will be retraining, whilst working less. So that means …
Hi, Thanks for your response. I decided since after doing the summer workshop to start producing music myself, and focused on making one song sound great, rather than the quantity. There’s been a lot of thoughts come up around me doing this, one of which is “my management don’t want me to do this, and …
Dear Coach, unfortunately my boyfriend has lost his job, so we are dependent on my income until he finds another one. My hope is this will hapen within the next 2 months, but meanwhile it is not possible for me to keep up the payments for the membership. I’m planning on joining TFC in Autumn …
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When I listen to massive action and honouring your yeses, and goals podcasts I keep replaying a current idea of setting up a small business venture to take me away from my 9-5. What stops me is spending money to set it up (as well as fear of failure, other people’s opinions,time etc). Am I …
Hey coaches, hey TFC! Due to an upcoming semester abroad with payments to be made I’m about to decide to leave TFC. I want to make this decision from an empowered place. I’d love to stay, but I’ve also recognized that I pay too much for the fact that I don’t use the content as …
Hi, I’.m currently navigating a new step in my career, to go freelancer as a writer and workshop facilitator. I have vast experience in both of these areas from the last 7 years in my career, as well as many of the necessary contacts. However, I feel like I’m still experiencing some fears around putting …
Dear Coaches, I am looking for support for a decision that I have taken, that I still feel a little uncomfortable with. How can I look after my needs? Situation: My brother invited me and my partner to be on a pride truck with him and his company in his city in 3 weeks time. …
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Hi coaches, I have a hard time being able to relax and enjoy the moment, especially when I am in situations which I have been looking forward to for a while. My mind seems to always wander, or I come home feeling like something is missing. I am always expecting more from people I think, …
Hey, I need some help around setting my goal for this season. I work as a songwriter and have for the last 6 months worked really hard. Ive had the mentality that if I throw a lot at the wall, surely something will stick. As a songwriter there is a lot of things outside my …
Hi there, I’m a new member of the collective and I am starting to work my way through the materials but I have also just returned to freelancing and all the joys (highs) and fears (lows) that brings so I feel like I do need some support ‘up front’ to try and calm my brain. …
Hello. I’m new here and one of the immediate reasons why I joined is to get support around an urgent money decision (and a common pattern of mine around big purchases). Last week, my husband and I rushedly put down a deposit to buy a (fairly unique) campervan to travel for several months as a …
Thank you for your previous coaching. I did a thought download on the fact that people are giving me money for services and this is what came up: 1. You don’t deserve to get paid because this is not ‘real’ work. 2. Other people need to decide if they want to pay you or not. …
I just spotted a sneaky thought in my mind that it’s influencing my actions. The thought is “They are doing me a favor”. This relates especially to my work and the business that I’m starting. My brain thinks that my clients are paying me ‘to do me a favor’,’to be nice with me’, instead of …
Hello! I have a very part time remote job that I have been doing for almost 3 years. Pretty early on I got a small raise (I am paid hourly) but nothing since. I want to ask for a raise because I know people doing similar work (social media, content creation, design) charge a lot …
Thank you very much for the coaching! Here are my thoughts on the questions: >> Why do you feel annoyed that you currently cannot afford the standard of living that you had in the past? I guess I reflect a lot on my values and ideally, I’d buy only organic food, comfortable clothes, sustainable furniture …
Hey! I feel like I have an issue with money. The situation, as factual as possible: – I spend a little more money when I receive my salary, usually at the beginning of each month – Towards the end of the month, I often don’t have much money left from the amount that I had …
I have noted down some results I’d like to see related to working on my garden with my parents (sharing this part in case it’s useful for other members to see, as it occurred to me today that coaching doesn’t need to just be used on the typical ‘big life changing decisions’, but can be …
Hi there, I potentially have a decision to make within my business that I could do with some coaching on. I’ve been unhappy with a venue I hire for a weekly class for a while now, various things like lack of parking, poor heating in winter. A friend teaches out of a lovely venue at …
Hello, I would please like some help with my thought models. I got into a panic and guilt/shame spiral when I saw the amount on my credit card last night, and tried to put it into models this morning. It’s further stemmed by the fact that I was told I would probably have a job …
Hi coaches! I am recovering from what I believe is a burnout, that had been building up over the past years. I now feel so much better already, but I still have to be very protective of my energy. I notice that when I put a little too much on my plate, I relapse quite …
Thank you so much for your response, I felt seen, heard and less alone, just from the response that you gave. I found the questions helpful and have taken up the invitation to see what works. Here is the work I have done so far: Your question: When you are feeling stressed, overwhelmed, panicked and …
I work in a great female team (3 of us) but we have every different work boundaries. Its a physical job, but obviously like with all jobs, there is admin, and it never gets done at work due to pressure on the other physical stuff to do. I am very reluctant to work outside of …
Hi there! I’m Anna – a 39year old mom of two, currently 6month post-partum & on work leave. I joined the Flow Collective beginning of march and since then I’ve been beating myself up about not getting started. I’m super conscious of my spendings, especially now that I’m on leave and not earning my usual …
Hello coaches, I’ve got coaching here before about my job and my boss, basically trying to make it work for me. I’ve concluded that my job has to change and not me. I’m an ESL teacher but have never felt good in the role. It’s split shifts, badly paid and short term contracts. I feel …
Hello ❤️ Last year I applied to have my art sold in a gallery and on Artsy online. My application was successful and I was given to opportunity to be respresented by the gallery. It’s probably been around six months since I’ve been accepted and I have done very little towards setting up my account, …
Hello coaches, So I am really pleased with my progress and how various unhelpful behaviours have been purged recently. I have really leaned into curiosity and learning from things, and things are going well! As a result of this, I am experiencing more success in my career in the media and am hopefully about to …
Thank you for your coaching on this – it was really helpful. I told my boss my timeline for when I’d like the team restructure/promotion to happen and that got him into gear and I followed up with him again and kept him accountable on it and yesterday he presented the proposal to the senior …
Hi wonderful coaches! I’d like some help on how to get more comfortable having and spending money. In the last 18months I’ve gone from paid full-time employment to part-time self-employment. I did some work dismantling what I believed I ‘could’ earn in 3 days a week and had the goal to match my full-time salary. …
Dear coach, Here’s what I struggle with. My spring goal is to find a research internship to complete my master’s thesis that matches my ambition. In this process, I am taking opportunity of a rejection I got this week to evaluate how I am doing. Asking for feedback has been challenging. 1. What went well? …
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When requesting to leave the FC, it was recommended that I come to Ask A Coach before leaving. My payments for the FC have bounced 3 times due to not having funds. This is the first time in my entire life I have had a payment bounce. I’m embarrassed. I know how and why this …
My Spring goal is to live in abundance and change my relationship with money. In the money mindset workshop Maisie mentioned she uses the Profit First system. I’m reading the book and I’m feeling alittle overwhlemed by the complexity. Just wondering how does Maisie use Profit First in her coaching business? What percentage of her …
Hello, I’m having some thoughts about money and about wanting to have more of it. I inherited a lot if debt when I got married and then a hugely expensive and unforeseen circumstance in 2020 pushed us into a deeper financial hole just when we were beginning to see light. Together my husband and I …
Hi, thank you for your feedback on my first question – this has been very eye-opening! I hadn’t recognised that these two lines were just thoughts that I have about myself, because yes they do feel like facts because I’ve been thinking them for so long. But yes, it’s interesting, because when I look for …
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I am about to defend my dissertation for my doctorate. I’m excited and looking forward to celebrating so many years of hard work. But I’ve spent a lot of the last two days in tears and completely spiraling because of what happens next. Yesterday, a few horrible things happened including a sudden $1000 in expenses, …
One of my spring goals is to get a promotion at work. It’s something I’ve spoken to my boss about and he wants it for me, too. Since I started in my job I’ve tripled annual revenue but last year fell 50% short of the goal for the year. The thought is that I don’t …
Hello! So I have been dealing with quit a lot indecision within my job roles. There are many factors affecting what I chose and I have been finding it difficult. I moved away from 9-5 as my partner works Tuesday to Sunday with a day off in the week and we try to both have …
I come from a middle class family and I a few years ago I inherited enough money from my grandma to put down a sizeable deposit on a house at the age of 33. I am incredibly grateful for this privilege but it is also a source of guilt. I’m a committed socialist and due …
The people in my immediate friend network are great folks, but I often feel like the most ambitious person among them and I want to move in circles of people with ambitions way beyond where we are now. I want to run with people who make me raise my game. I’m looking for ambitious, no-limits …
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I’ve just ended another day at a high payed pubic health job, where I am really feeling the pressure. I’m putting in extra hours to try and produce something that I think they want from me, but I’m also not sure what they want from me – and I am very intentional about being direct …
Maisie spoke about dreams in her goal setting call today. My dream is about resting and pleasure. I see myself wearing beautiful clothing, going to the opera, waking up in a beautiful hotel room with crisp white cotton sheets, drinking tea in bed and then reading the paper at a table outside a cafe with …
Hello! I wondered if you might be able to help me with my main goal that I have this year, which is to change my relationship with success / my career. As I have realised recently that I’ve had quite unhealthy relationships with success, which have been quite extreme, either /or, at different ends of …
I have read back my notes from the end of Dec beginning of Jan after listening to Maisie talk about making decisions. I would like some help on making my decision. I want to change my work. I like my workplace (school) but it is 6 days a week , long days and I am …
Hi, I am feeling particularly overwhelmed at the moment and I’m noticing its affecting many areas of my life. I am working on my business and feel like I’m making little progress as I see what others are doing in a similar field and worry I’m not up to it…then that my website isn’t good …
Hi, seven years ago, my husband started on a journey to create our own start-up. I joined him in 2018 full time (-ish, as I had to freelance to make a living). We have launched in the mass-market twice, so on paper, we are successful and others envy us. We have a way to go …
Thank you for your last answer. It has helped to think that his actions have nothing to do with me and that he is being himself and showing up in the world in a way that is congruent with his perception of reality. IT is slightly harder for me to be deliberate about what I …
I’m an Art teacher and working toward qualifying by September as a child counsellor using the arts, it’s been years of part time work and free client hours to get to this point. I’ve been contacted by a headmistress who likes the idea of the counselling using the arts and wants to think about working …
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Hello lovely coaches! I’d love some guidance on a model I’m working with around my urge to buy things when I’m feeling stressed, particularly knitting and sewing supplies. I’ve gleaned some good stuff from the previous post “shopping out of control” but I’m still a bit stuck. My UM C: new project supplies shopping T: …
what do you think it means about you if you think that your husband is unkind? – this is hard as I think it means I am an idiot and have no boundaries and am being taken for a ride. I think I am a poor role model for my children and I am weak. …
I have been uncomfortable with my target audience for my business for a while now. So much so that I actually changed my whole business model to avoid them, only to have now come full circle in understanding that I cannot avoid them. It’s such a strange thing, and I’m also very scared to do …
I have tried to be explicit setting a boundary with my sister asking her not to ask me to lend her money. She asked me can she put money on my credit card for the space of 6 days. I think this is the part the makes it feel harder to say no, because it’s …
Hello dear coach, I have been feeling some pressure in my chest and throat when sitting to finally write this here. I have been considering stepping out of TFC. I realize there are two thoughts behind this circumstance: I do not have enough money to pay for it AND I haven’t engaged with TFC in …
I took a January offer to sign up with a boutique gym class place near me. It was a good deal as the place is v. expensive. I’ve really enjoyed the month and was thinking when it ran out I am gonna try another place (which is doing a Feb offer) before returning to the …
My brain is telling me “I can’t do this. This is too hard.” After 4 years in the liminal space of career change, I still don’t know what I really want. I’ve been trying to experiment and evolve myself into something new, focusing on freelance but also considering going back into employment. I have had …
I’m struggling to sort through this decision- My partner and I need to rebuild our savings after some financial challenges at the end of 2022. I have two options now to support him in this 1. Get an agency job as a care worker/waitress/bar staff/cleaner etc 2. Take on more paid research work/tutoring. I feel …
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I have been feeling anxious about my financial situation for a while and so have finally taken the plunge and made these thought models… Unintentional model C – I have X amount of debt, I also have X amount of savings T – My dad will be so disappointed in me for not having managed …
Some context- Before joining the TFC I was in a position to take a professional opportunity that I felt could’ve enhanced my career but I declined to be considered due to the financial cost ( we were at the beginning all the cost of living stuff coming out in the media and I was spooked). …
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I recently posted in the community the following: Been here several months and felt so much growth, but today is a test. The feelings of shame around leaving my self assessment tax return to the last minute are real. I know I have the tools to avoid a full on shame spiral, but a lot …
Last summer, after ruminating about this for quite a while, I asked my boss for more responsibilities in order to use my full potential and to keep growing. And I also asked for a promotion. My boss was very surprised by me requesting a promotion as before I had just quietly been doing my thing …
Sometimes I feel like I’m going around in circles with the same thing regarding my career, and each week I seem to go through the same worries. I really want to start making some changes in my mindset because in most other areas of my life I am feeling pretty good and work feels like …
Hello! I just noticed that I was buffering to avoid certain thoughts and feelings that I have about money. I’m going to charge a client $6,000 for a trip he wants to purchase from me and while I was preparing the link for the payment my brain went in the direction of ” they also …
Since I joined The Flow Collective and set my goals and word for the year, I’ve been on such a high. Full of energy, ready to do the work necessary to reach my goals, and willing to invest money in myself for the first time in a long while. For many years I struggled to …
I have just had an interview for a job. It is for an organisation that supports the sector that I have worked in for 9 years. My previous experience has been very much on the ground, in very practical roles, mostly based in nature. It has also been mostly casual work. This role is office …
I’ve recently set up my own coaching business (thanks to the work done in the Flow Collective!) which I’m doing on the side of my full-time day job. I have just got my first paying client, but they want to pay me with their work development funds — my coaching niche is my day job …
Hi coaches, I recently watched the money mindset video and found it really interesting. However I did find that I seem to have the opposite problem to some of what was talked about. I don’t have any issues with not knowing my money or avoiding dealing with it, I do the opposite…every day I check …
I think I’m trying to decide whether to look for a new job, but I’m open to the possibility that there’s another question buried in the murky middle. Background: I am an immigrant in Iceland and the job market is tough for non-Icelanders. A year ago, through a lucky connection, I got a very well-paying …
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Hello! I am a new member to the Flow Collective. Firstly, I wanted to thank you for providing this wonderful, calm and creative space for me to explore. I have been moved in many ways during the last week and related to so many topics on the podcasts, workshops and replays. I was really torn …
I worked through the Money Mindset workshop and uncovered a lot of shame/guilt I’d like coaching to work through. -My parents built wealth from little family resources, and are able to help buy property for me. It will give me ease in life and freedom from mortgage but I feel guilt around not building the …
Hi coaches, Your post in the facebook page got me thinking. The recalibrate workshops and the winter workshop made me feel SO inspired. I have a lot of big ideas. And the winter workshop put me into a model that made me think okay what if this were possible, what if this were simple, what …