Hi, My work told us that they’ll be announcing redundancies next week. This was pretty shocking, but also what shocked me more was that part of me wants it to be me. I have wanted to leave for a while, and am currently setting myself up to go freelance – and there is part of …
I’m currently going through IVF to try and have a second child, and am at the start of the dreaded two week wait. This is my fourth attempt, and I’ve had a number of early stage miscarriages. I’m older, and aware my chances of success are very slim. The issue I keep struggling with, every …
Dear AAC. This is my first time writing to ask a coach. I have been “saving up” questions, or thinking they had to be totally clear, perfectly defined, but here I go; a lot of information and messy imperfect action! This autumn I found myself completely numbed out by decision making. I was between two …
Thank you for your coaching. Based on that I made a new model. Actually 2 models. 1 for in between and the end model I want to be in. Have you feedback on them? UM: C: People are saying things like: ‘O my god it is already november, I can’t believe this! I am shocked!’ …
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Hi there lovely coaches, I would like to have coaching on my self-coaching. I get very upset and frustrated about people commenting ‘it is already november, o my god time is passing so quick!!!’ This is a sentence I hear all the f*cking time! And I am tired of it because it activates my nervous …
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Hello coaches, I’m starting to do some model work and I’m finding it difficult to know how to use it for the thoughts I’m having in the middle of the night. At certain times in my cycle, or when I’m feeling particularly stressed about something, I’ll wake in the middle of the night in fight …
I’ve had a situation with a colleague and friend in the last six weeks. She started ignoring me at work (I think because she had some issues in the friendship – but she didn’t communicate this to me, only one message saying ‘you realise you only ever message me now when you want something’ and …
I am quite active in setting up new things at work for the community, and I’d applied to set up a new initiative. This was around a topic which some people in the workplace find controversial, but it’s not really at all. I guess some people have sensitivities about it. The initiative was rejected by …
Thank you. To try to answer the question: What do you think is the best way to take care of you when you’re in an episode of anxiety? What resources do you have that may be more appropriate than coaching to address this? calm nervous system, meditate, self care, seeking medical advice if necessary (this …
Hi coaches, thank you. To try to answer the questions: What do you think is the best way to take care of you when you’re in an episode of anxiety? What resources do you have that may be more appropriate than coaching to address this? Focus on rest, self care and being with my closest …
Thanks for your coaching. I already made some changes in my behaviour towards this app. I look only in the morning at it. It gives me rest. My thought around it is: ‘I only look in the morning.’/’The rest of the day I can let it go.’ You ask about what makes me think messages …
“I wonder if you can build a bit of space for you to experience your emotions into your missed days so you’re able to just be and feel the things that come up for you and then move into regulation and realistic planning. What do you think about that? If you like it, how would …
I’m currently on holiday in Sri Lanka on a 3 week long surf trip. The main reason I booked this trip was to improve my surfing. I have found the surfing unexpectedly really challenging. My confidence in surfing now feels like it is at an all time low. I have tried to use so many …
Hi Coaches, Im practising my first few models here on a situation that I find very tough. I have been not working for a year now due to Burnout. At the end of the year my benefits will run out and as I have been feeling a little better I am craving some routine, normality …
C: Studio Manager where I teach Yoga called, requested a meeting T: What did I do wrong? F: nervous S: out of my body, almost disconnected, frozen A: In my mind I start imagining what the meeting might be about, on the call I start talking a lot, saying things I don’t want to say, …
I recently started a new job in a completely new field of work, working with children. I brought feelings about being a newbie to Ask a coach before and that really helped prep me for being the best beginner I ever have been. I’ve been really kind to myself while sitting in the uncomfortable place …
I have always been quite sensitive to noise because I hear very well and I am prone to headaches and migraines. But after a year of insomnia recovery, noise has unintentionally become my enemy number one. Which I suspect makes me even more sensitive and irritable. Maisie talking about changing her relationship with the wind …
at work, I was talking about scheduling a meeting with colleagues and I had a sudden headache, I felt cold and slightly sick. This is totally normal for me when it comes to scheduling conversations. It stresses me out so accutely and I want to get some coaching on it. I have done some models …
Hi Coaches, I’ve been seeing someone new, and I notice that a lot of things they say trigger shame in me. I think I am already in a state of anxiety and shame about dating, but I am also feeling really unsettled by the prospect of liking someone and hoping that the feeling is mutual. …
I was watching the call replay from a couple of weeks ago recently and Maisie was talking about when our brains are being lazy when we start looking for ‘other things’. I think Maisie was saying that this can be our brains not wanting to confront how we’re feeling and what we’re doing right now …
Hello, I think this thought ‘I shouldn’t have to deal with this’ is underlying how i show up in life and I’m not sure why it is there. I have an immidate stress response whenever I encounter it and wonder why I’m so closed to discomfort. For example if I’ve a task at work that …
Thank you for this coaching! Very helpful (love the dominos metaphor ahah) – and in the last week, I do feel like I’m getting into the flow of things again and taking more action, which feels exciting. Something I’m noticing is that I have some fears around this loss of momentum and having it again, …
Hi coaches, last December I accidentally caused a water stain on the wooden floor in my rented apartment which I then tried to fix myself until March when I finally gave up and notified my liability insurance and landlord. I had put the two in touch and had not heard from them since and therefore …
I’m writing this in the tail end of a meltdown. I just had a traumatic experience on the bus where an aggressive woman came on to the bus, the buggy area was full (my buggy was parked there, my daughter next to me in one of the big seats) She demanded I leave my daughter …
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I am looking for ways to either harness or dissolve my anger before it erupts into rage directed at others. Twice this past week, and once last week, I engaged in screaming at, and taunting people that pissed me off while I was working. I experience road rage often and, when not working, will get …
My eldest daughter is autistic and my youngest has ADHD. My eldest has a desire to control everything whilst my youngest is a whirlwind – my thought is that it’s a very tricky dynamic to navigate. I am an empath and absorb the emotions of others around me. If one of my children is upset …
I am wondering if you can give me some advice about handling the feeling of overwhelm. Sometimes when I feel like I have so much to do, I get overwhelmed and even when I pick things off the list in a calm, orderly fashion, it seems like the list keeps getting longer. Sometimes I feel …
*trigger warning sexual assault The question was about what might come up for me, if i consider emotional check points towards feeling more empowered. I realise there is a lot of emotions bottled up for me around the topic that I have yet to fully understand and explore. My thought download for this. I rationally …
This morning, I did a thought download about fear, as I have been experiencing a flare up of my chronic pain symptoms (after an almost pain-free summer!), and I know the flare up is connected to thoughts and feelings I have about being back in my apartment where I live alone, back at work, and …
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My husband and I have let a property for approx. 6 years to current. I’ve raised a discussion about declaring tax, multiple times, my husband shared resistance. Two of more of these discussions have taken place with the presence of family members, agreeing we should do our tax return. Over the years, I’ve let his …
I’ve been practising self coaching for the last few days, and it really is incredible. Yet sometimes I find that I have some feelings, or rather a state of the nervous system perhaps, that don’t appear to be brought on by thoughts (anxiety, sadness and others). I wonder what the best way to go about …
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Two months ago I had new neighbours move in next door they have a dog. I’ve only met the dog a few times. They are currently renovating the house and they are living in the caravan, situated on the driveway by the house. To get to my house you have to walk in between the …
Hi, I set myself a 30 day challenge of not picking up after my children (aged 10, 12 and 14) in order to free up my time and my limited energy to tidy up after my self (my bedroom is not prioritised and receives all the junk in a small house so I can keep …
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I am very sensitive to other people’s feelings and emotions and always want to do the “right thing” by others and be considerate to how they are feeling, but it can be to my own detriment. Even potential issues of conflict between others make me anxious. For example in my housemate group Whatsapp chat, if …
Hi, I’m a creative and last year I struggled for money so I managed to get some work with my dads (small) software company after sending a message to the boss and proposing things I could do to improve their social media and overall marketing presence. We did a video/ photo shoot with them, and …
Thank you for the coaching. Seeing the harsh ways I’m telling the story and talking about myself was very helpful and confronting. I like the way you said the way I’m telling the story feels very true to me. You asked what do I believe about myself in friendships, and after thinking about it I …
For years I have struggled with Mondays – I have tried lots of different strategies but try as I might I very often end up in the same place of dread which then leads to me freezing and being unable to take action. I work for myself and run my own nutrition coaching business which …
Hi lovely coaches! I have recently re-homed a second dog, who we have now had just over a week. He has taken to following me absolutely everywhere and if I move or get up or speak he’s up and under my feet. I have been trying to work out why this annoys me so much, …
Hello! I’m new to TFC and this is the first Ask A Coach question I’ve submitted. My question is around perfectionism and the mental and physical toll it takes on me. I was diagnosed with chronic fatigue syndrome six years ago when I was 20, and I’ve had multiple interventions (CBT, counselling, a CFS clinic) …