A few months ago I was diagnosed with autism. I instigated getting an assessment, and I really wanted the diagnosis as it allowed me to make sense of things. And yet, my mind has not accepted the diagnosis. It says that I have been misdiagnosed. I feel a lot of shame about the possibility of …
I had a small breakthrough the other day after struggling to figure out the thought line in a model. I scribbled all the other lines out on the back of a receipt, but I was stuck for what thought was creating the feelings and actions. then after a little break and a bit more reflection, …
I have not been diagnosed with autism and it is not something I currently intend to pursue. However, having listened to Maisie’s podcast about autism last summer, I feel that I am probably neuro-diverse. Last night I saw an Instagram post about ways that autistic people show love and it was all the things I …
Wow, well the coaching felt very eye-opening when you asked which part of me I am believing is real – the part with stage fright or the part that is delivering the class. It really got me thinking about what ‘real’ actually is. Objectively the more ‘real’ me is the one teaching. After all that’s …
I have just revisited the 10, 3 and 1 year visioning in a self-guided meditation, trying to get some more insight. Parts of my 10 year vision are clear. Featuring heavily is a small home, somewhere with sea and hills, filled with gorgeous colours, with everything exactly where I want it. It is a nest, …
Thank you for the coaching. If I’ve interpreted this correctly, I think I’m being asked to consider how noticing my differences and going through this stage, where I feel somewhat lost, is an important part of developing self confidence. I did a thought download to explore this, and came up with this – Because being …
I think I’m trying to decide whether to look for a new job, but I’m open to the possibility that there’s another question buried in the murky middle. Background: I am an immigrant in Iceland and the job market is tough for non-Icelanders. A year ago, through a lucky connection, I got a very well-paying …
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I am struggling with feelings of “failure” for leaving a certain career path, for which I have worked hard to get to and stay in for years, and possibly pursuing a different path that fits better to me as a person. I studied medicine and I loved the first years of my studies, where the …
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Hi, Over the last 10+ years since I started my career at 22 I have always (and continue to) struggled with confidence to be myself in the workplace and to find a job with a sense of fulfilment/satisfaction. I’ve spent most of my career working in support roles which I find under-stimulating and to be …
A little background context: Around 6 months ago I self-diagnosed myself as having autism, with this learned it was the light bulb moment where (nearly) everything in the last 31 years of existence began to make some sort of sense. It began to explain so much! Why I took time practiscing facial expressions in the …
I’m struggling with wondering if I’m neurodivergent/ autistic, and what that means for me. Ever since listening to Maisie’s podcast episodes about discovering that she’s autistic, I’ve felt like I might be too. So much of what she said felt like she was talking about me and my experience. Since then I’m becoming more and …
That sounds amazing! I’ve been re-watching the self-love webinar and still have some questions: how can I create as much love and connection as I want wihtin myself? Is it ‘just’ that I decide to do it? Is it about entertaining the thought that love and connection are abundant everywhere? How do I do it? …
Hi, I’d like some coaching on my autistic identity. The way Maisie talks about it is so inspiring and seems simple and easy. She’s not justifying herself, which is what I like most. I have a different situation and experience. I guess I don’t have enough self-trust to just think positively about myself in general …
Am really struggling with my son today and decided to lean onto the collective. For some reason, this is quite hard for me to talk about and I don’t openly discuss it with anyone. My son is 9 and he has ADHD. He has very poor emotional regulation and gets angry/rageful very easily. When things …
Dear Ask A Coach, Something came up for me during the visualization on Day 2 of Recalibrate and Activate that I wanted to get your feedback on. When I pictured my 10 year vision, what came to my mind was something to do with my career. That surprised me because my career is something that …
Hi coaches, I’d like to get some coaching around a topic that occurred yesterday. I have Borderline personality disorder, and one symptom is that my brain anticipates rejection in specific situations very strongly. The specific situation yesterday was: I’m an assistant at university (I quit- my last day will be in February), and my students …
“feelings that bring you a sense of calm and joy” What a beautiful notion! This sparked something inside of me and made me realise that while I have always been striving towards joy, I am missing the calm. The sense of urgency was and is still very present. I have been trying to be very …
Hi maisy and team! Firstly a deep thanks and gratitude for all that you do! Have gotten so much out of the podcast over the last year 💗 A current life dilemma was hoping to get some coaching on My best friend of 20 + years her husband’s 40th is coming up. Our families are …
The response to pt.3 was so helpful and supportive, thank you. It feels so good for my feelings to be validated, which is what I felt when reading ” It can be very triggering and feel very scary to think that those who you love the most might not believe you.” It really is. Since …
I’ve posted this in the community but thought I’d also submit it for Ask a Coach. Ever since listening to Maisie’s podcast episodes about autism, I have started wondering whether I might be somewhere on the spectrum. I have always been highly sensitive to sounds, smells, crowds (among probably a full list of other things) …
Hi there. 5 months into my TFC journey and cycle tracking, I am ready to seek professional advice to better support my health. I have been diagnosed with PCOS for ~10 years. I now see there are additional areas of my life that I would like a practitioner’s input on: – Severe low moods in …
Thank you so much for such a understanding reply. I have written my Why’s for persuing an autism assessment. They are as follows: 1. If I am autistic then I definitely want to know about it. 2. It would provide an explanation for certain struggles I experience that are making life quite difficult. It would …
A few years ago I heard a woman talking about her autism diagnosis. When I heard her talk, it blew my mind that someone like her could have autism. I began to wonder if I also could be autistic. I think this wondering stemmed from feeling different, from struggling with black and white thinking, and …
I was diagnosed earlier this year with ADHD. I am in my mid-twenties and I have really struggled with focusing on work or study since I was 14. I have lost a job before due to focus-related issues and my grades at university were also affected by my inability to submit assignments on time. My …
Over the past few months I have realized that I am likely autistic. As I started learning more about autism in adult women it is like all of my seemly unrelated “quirks” finally made sense. It has felt great to find something that could link all of my sensory issues, obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviors, …
Hi coaches! I have always had some sensory issues (hyper sensitive to certain sounds such as chewing, cutlery on plates, flicking fingernails) and I am just starting to connect these with my cycle. My coping strategies for when these sensations are happening are: trying to distract myself, telling myself it is the noise that is …
Hi, I have a couple of really workable and exciting goals, connected to my business. However, I am trying to overcome a barrier I have created, to move forward with a goal. It may well be a goal itself. In a bid to be open and myself, before I aim to expand my business, I …
I am struggling as I wait for my autism assessment coming up in June and July. I am feeling a lot of things and having a lot of thoughts so I’ve tried to break them down into bullets. • anxiety and worry about what will happen to my mental state if I do not get …
Dearest Flow Coaches, I need some guidance around how to stay in an empathetic, peaceful, and understanding space during discussions with my husband who has ADHD. I feel to explain a bit about me for context… pardon the hot waffle that follows.. Growing up, I was an undiagnosed dyslexic child. At my London, private “high …
I joined TFC recently, finished reading Period Power and am now reading Perimenopause Power. I have known for a while I was perimenopausal and have since reading these come to realise I may have had ADHD and possibly Autism all my life, and PMDD since I was 11 – I am now 51. I have …