Hello! First time submitting a question here. Hope I’m doing this right. // Context: Late diagnosed autistic, in my 30s Ok, so every now and then my mum and me get into a really bad fight/misunderstandings and I end up feeling with a very activated nervous system and feel like a bad person and that …
Feeling very vulnerable sharing openly here but it’s my first weekly commitment to do so. Completing the self love assessment raised lots of questions in my mind. I’d like to share it all to give a full picture. An interesting note in contrast to these questions – I completed the 25 thing I like/love about …
I went through a very traumatic and drawn-out breakup with my ex last year (very much his decision to leave), someone who I still love deeply – we were both undiagnosed ND at the time and he’s avoidant whilst I’m more anxious, all of which played a big role. I experienced a breakdown in my …
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I often feel I’m overwhelmed with making big life plans but also by daily things. My partner wants to apply for the green card in the US, travel, learn, experiment, develop, or simply make weekend plans or meet people. And I often reject all of those Ideas, not because I don’t want to do them, …
Hello, I’d like to get some advice in relation to my autumn goal. Weirdly I’ve chosen my rocks, but I’m stuck with the wording for my goal (I usually get stuck the other way around!) For context, I’ve just purchased my first house and I’ll be moving in the next two weeks. I’m moving closer …
I’m writing this in the tail end of a meltdown. I just had a traumatic experience on the bus where an aggressive woman came on to the bus, the buggy area was full (my buggy was parked there, my daughter next to me in one of the big seats) She demanded I leave my daughter …
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My eldest daughter is autistic and my youngest has ADHD. My eldest has a desire to control everything whilst my youngest is a whirlwind – my thought is that it’s a very tricky dynamic to navigate. I am an empath and absorb the emotions of others around me. If one of my children is upset …
I had a huge insight this week and after the coaching I got back from AAC. The reason I want to work less also has to do with me not believing I am capable of changing in my behaviours: taking more breaks, saying no more often, setting strong boundaries in work-time. When I imagine myself …
Hi! I am thinking of working less hours a week. From 32 hours to 24 hours. I work as a psychologist in a very extraverted and social job with lots of responsibilites. I am neurodivergent en highly sensitive and introvert. Therefore my job costs me lots of energy and I am often tired. The job …
Hey Coaches, I started a new job recently and my probation period has been extended due to my performance not being up to standard, according to my manager. I thought that things had been going well and as far as I could see there was no reason for concern, because no concerns had been addressed …
Hello, I’m struggling with some kind of burn-out/ shutdown feeling since I came back from my holiday and I’ve been struggling to understand or accept what is going on. I’ve returned from a really lovely holiday with a friend and a wider group – but it was also quite a busy time – lots of …
I am just beginning to work with the idea of unmasking and what it might mean for me. I know that my attention moves in different ways than what is considered normative. I don’t have an adhd diagnosis or anything but that’s the sort of idea I’m working with. I understand unmasking to a be …
Hi Coaches! My sister has asked me if I can take care of my niece in a couple of weeks, so that she and her husband can go to a friend’s birthday party in the evening. Apart from not fitting into my schedule, there is something else that comes up: I feel kind of scared …
Hello! I am in my mid-twenties and am in that awkward time of trying to make friends as an adult. I have been using a friend meet-up app to meet new people and have had some fun 1-1 hangouts. I had hung out with one person a couple of times and she thought it would …
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I’ve just listened to the Oestrogen Detoxification conversation with Carrie Jones and also the Q&A with Masie. They offer that the poor processing of oestrogen potentially via the 4-OH and 16-OH routes can lead to its reabsorption of oestrogen leading to symptoms such as brain fog, heavy periods and bloating. These are three of the …
Over the course of the last two days, I have shared knowledge with people (a friend and my boyfriend, on topics completely unrelated: how to cook ramen; and about people-pleasing/fawning, I just watched the webinar) and they reacted negatively to it. They said I came across as bossy, “teaching” them when they didn’t want to …
I’ve just ended another day at a high payed pubic health job, where I am really feeling the pressure. I’m putting in extra hours to try and produce something that I think they want from me, but I’m also not sure what they want from me – and I am very intentional about being direct …
A few months ago I was diagnosed with autism. I instigated getting an assessment, and I really wanted the diagnosis as it allowed me to make sense of things. And yet, my mind has not accepted the diagnosis. It says that I have been misdiagnosed. I feel a lot of shame about the possibility of …
I had a small breakthrough the other day after struggling to figure out the thought line in a model. I scribbled all the other lines out on the back of a receipt, but I was stuck for what thought was creating the feelings and actions. then after a little break and a bit more reflection, …
I have not been diagnosed with autism and it is not something I currently intend to pursue. However, having listened to Maisie’s podcast about autism last summer, I feel that I am probably neuro-diverse. Last night I saw an Instagram post about ways that autistic people show love and it was all the things I …
Wow, well the coaching felt very eye-opening when you asked which part of me I am believing is real – the part with stage fright or the part that is delivering the class. It really got me thinking about what ‘real’ actually is. Objectively the more ‘real’ me is the one teaching. After all that’s …
I have just revisited the 10, 3 and 1 year visioning in a self-guided meditation, trying to get some more insight. Parts of my 10 year vision are clear. Featuring heavily is a small home, somewhere with sea and hills, filled with gorgeous colours, with everything exactly where I want it. It is a nest, …
Thank you for the coaching. If I’ve interpreted this correctly, I think I’m being asked to consider how noticing my differences and going through this stage, where I feel somewhat lost, is an important part of developing self confidence. I did a thought download to explore this, and came up with this – Because being …
I think I’m trying to decide whether to look for a new job, but I’m open to the possibility that there’s another question buried in the murky middle. Background: I am an immigrant in Iceland and the job market is tough for non-Icelanders. A year ago, through a lucky connection, I got a very well-paying …
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I am struggling with feelings of “failure” for leaving a certain career path, for which I have worked hard to get to and stay in for years, and possibly pursuing a different path that fits better to me as a person. I studied medicine and I loved the first years of my studies, where the …
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Hi, Over the last 10+ years since I started my career at 22 I have always (and continue to) struggled with confidence to be myself in the workplace and to find a job with a sense of fulfilment/satisfaction. I’ve spent most of my career working in support roles which I find under-stimulating and to be …
A little background context: Around 6 months ago I self-diagnosed myself as having autism, with this learned it was the light bulb moment where (nearly) everything in the last 31 years of existence began to make some sort of sense. It began to explain so much! Why I took time practiscing facial expressions in the …
I’m struggling with wondering if I’m neurodivergent/ autistic, and what that means for me. Ever since listening to Maisie’s podcast episodes about discovering that she’s autistic, I’ve felt like I might be too. So much of what she said felt like she was talking about me and my experience. Since then I’m becoming more and …
That sounds amazing! I’ve been re-watching the self-love webinar and still have some questions: how can I create as much love and connection as I want wihtin myself? Is it ‘just’ that I decide to do it? Is it about entertaining the thought that love and connection are abundant everywhere? How do I do it? …
Hi, I’d like some coaching on my autistic identity. The way Maisie talks about it is so inspiring and seems simple and easy. She’s not justifying herself, which is what I like most. I have a different situation and experience. I guess I don’t have enough self-trust to just think positively about myself in general …
Am really struggling with my son today and decided to lean onto the collective. For some reason, this is quite hard for me to talk about and I don’t openly discuss it with anyone. My son is 9 and he has ADHD. He has very poor emotional regulation and gets angry/rageful very easily. When things …
Dear Ask A Coach, Something came up for me during the visualization on Day 2 of Recalibrate and Activate that I wanted to get your feedback on. When I pictured my 10 year vision, what came to my mind was something to do with my career. That surprised me because my career is something that …
Hi coaches, I’d like to get some coaching around a topic that occurred yesterday. I have Borderline personality disorder, and one symptom is that my brain anticipates rejection in specific situations very strongly. The specific situation yesterday was: I’m an assistant at university (I quit- my last day will be in February), and my students …
“feelings that bring you a sense of calm and joy” What a beautiful notion! This sparked something inside of me and made me realise that while I have always been striving towards joy, I am missing the calm. The sense of urgency was and is still very present. I have been trying to be very …
Hi maisy and team! Firstly a deep thanks and gratitude for all that you do! Have gotten so much out of the podcast over the last year 💗 A current life dilemma was hoping to get some coaching on My best friend of 20 + years her husband’s 40th is coming up. Our families are …
The response to pt.3 was so helpful and supportive, thank you. It feels so good for my feelings to be validated, which is what I felt when reading ” It can be very triggering and feel very scary to think that those who you love the most might not believe you.” It really is. Since …
I’ve posted this in the community but thought I’d also submit it for Ask a Coach. Ever since listening to Maisie’s podcast episodes about autism, I have started wondering whether I might be somewhere on the spectrum. I have always been highly sensitive to sounds, smells, crowds (among probably a full list of other things) …
Hi there. 5 months into my TFC journey and cycle tracking, I am ready to seek professional advice to better support my health. I have been diagnosed with PCOS for ~10 years. I now see there are additional areas of my life that I would like a practitioner’s input on: – Severe low moods in …
Thank you so much for such a understanding reply. I have written my Why’s for persuing an autism assessment. They are as follows: 1. If I am autistic then I definitely want to know about it. 2. It would provide an explanation for certain struggles I experience that are making life quite difficult. It would …
A few years ago I heard a woman talking about her autism diagnosis. When I heard her talk, it blew my mind that someone like her could have autism. I began to wonder if I also could be autistic. I think this wondering stemmed from feeling different, from struggling with black and white thinking, and …
I was diagnosed earlier this year with ADHD. I am in my mid-twenties and I have really struggled with focusing on work or study since I was 14. I have lost a job before due to focus-related issues and my grades at university were also affected by my inability to submit assignments on time. My …
Over the past few months I have realized that I am likely autistic. As I started learning more about autism in adult women it is like all of my seemly unrelated “quirks” finally made sense. It has felt great to find something that could link all of my sensory issues, obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviors, …
Hi coaches! I have always had some sensory issues (hyper sensitive to certain sounds such as chewing, cutlery on plates, flicking fingernails) and I am just starting to connect these with my cycle. My coping strategies for when these sensations are happening are: trying to distract myself, telling myself it is the noise that is …
Hi, I have a couple of really workable and exciting goals, connected to my business. However, I am trying to overcome a barrier I have created, to move forward with a goal. It may well be a goal itself. In a bid to be open and myself, before I aim to expand my business, I …
I am struggling as I wait for my autism assessment coming up in June and July. I am feeling a lot of things and having a lot of thoughts so I’ve tried to break them down into bullets. • anxiety and worry about what will happen to my mental state if I do not get …
Dearest Flow Coaches, I need some guidance around how to stay in an empathetic, peaceful, and understanding space during discussions with my husband who has ADHD. I feel to explain a bit about me for context… pardon the hot waffle that follows.. Growing up, I was an undiagnosed dyslexic child. At my London, private “high …
I joined TFC recently, finished reading Period Power and am now reading Perimenopause Power. I have known for a while I was perimenopausal and have since reading these come to realise I may have had ADHD and possibly Autism all my life, and PMDD since I was 11 – I am now 51. I have …