Neurodiversity/Autism/ADHD

Feeling overwhelmed

I often feel I’m overwhelmed with making big life plans but also by daily things. My partner wants to apply for the green card in the US, travel, learn, experiment, develop, or simply make weekend plans or meet people. And I often reject all of those Ideas, not because I don’t want to do them, …

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Autumn Goal

Hello, I’d like to get some advice in relation to my autumn goal. Weirdly I’ve chosen my rocks, but I’m stuck with the wording for my goal (I usually get stuck the other way around!) For context, I’ve just purchased my first house and I’ll be moving in the next two weeks. I’m moving closer …

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Children arguing

My eldest daughter is autistic and my youngest has ADHD. My eldest has a desire to control everything whilst my youngest is a whirlwind – my thought is that it’s a very tricky dynamic to navigate. I am an empath and absorb the emotions of others around me. If one of my children is upset …

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Working less hours Part 3

I had a huge insight this week and after the coaching I got back from AAC. The reason I want to work less also has to do with me not believing I am capable of changing in my behaviours: taking more breaks, saying no more often, setting strong boundaries in work-time. When I imagine myself …

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Working less hours

Hi! I am thinking of working less hours a week. From 32 hours to 24 hours. I work as a psychologist in a very extraverted and social job with lots of responsibilites. I am neurodivergent en highly sensitive and introvert. Therefore my job costs me lots of energy and I am often tired. The job …

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Being passive and avoidant

Hey Coaches, I started a new job recently and my probation period has been extended due to my performance not being up to standard, according to my manager. I thought that things had been going well and as far as I could see there was no reason for concern, because no concerns had been addressed …

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Feeling so flat after holiday

Hello, I’m struggling with some kind of burn-out/ shutdown feeling since I came back from my holiday and I’ve been struggling to understand or accept what is going on. I’ve returned from a really lovely holiday with a friend and a wider group – but it was also quite a busy time – lots of …

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unmasked vs. mindless

I am just beginning to work with the idea of unmasking and what it might mean for me. I know that my attention moves in different ways than what is considered normative. I don’t have an adhd diagnosis or anything but that’s the sort of idea I’m working with. I understand unmasking to a be …

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Taking care of my niece

Hi Coaches! My sister has asked me if I can take care of my niece in a couple of weeks, so that she and her husband can go to a friend’s birthday party in the evening. Apart from not fitting into my schedule, there is something else that comes up: I feel kind of scared …

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ADHD and Oestrogen

I’ve just listened to the Oestrogen Detoxification conversation with Carrie Jones and also the Q&A with Masie. They offer that the poor processing of oestrogen potentially via the 4-OH and 16-OH routes can lead to its reabsorption of oestrogen leading to symptoms such as brain fog, heavy periods and bloating. These are three of the …

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Being perceived as bossy

Over the course of the last two days, I have shared knowledge with people (a friend and my boyfriend, on topics completely unrelated: how to cook ramen; and about people-pleasing/fawning, I just watched the webinar) and they reacted negatively to it. They said I came across as bossy, “teaching” them when they didn’t want to …

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Help –

I’ve just ended another day at a high payed pubic health job, where I am really feeling the pressure. I’m putting in extra hours to try and produce something that I think they want from me, but I’m also not sure what they want from me – and I am very intentional about being direct …

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Doubt about Autism Diagnosis

A few months ago I was diagnosed with autism. I instigated getting an assessment, and I really wanted the diagnosis as it allowed me to make sense of things. And yet, my mind has not accepted the diagnosis. It says that I have been misdiagnosed. I feel a lot of shame about the possibility of …

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Possible neurodivergence Pt 3

Wow, well the coaching felt very eye-opening when you asked which part of me I am believing is real – the part with stage fright or the part that is delivering the class. It really got me thinking about what ‘real’ actually is. Objectively the more ‘real’ me is the one teaching. After all that’s …

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Possible neurodivergence Part 2

Thank you for the coaching. If I’ve interpreted this correctly, I think I’m being asked to consider how noticing my differences and going through this stage, where I feel somewhat lost, is an important part of developing self confidence. I did a thought download to explore this, and came up with this – Because being …

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Career and self esteem, stuck

Hi, Over the last 10+ years since I started my career at 22 I have always (and continue to) struggled with confidence to be myself in the workplace and to find a job with a sense of fulfilment/satisfaction. I’ve spent most of my career working in support roles which I find under-stimulating and to be …

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Possible neurodivergence

I’m struggling with wondering if I’m neurodivergent/ autistic, and what that means for me. Ever since listening to Maisie’s podcast episodes about discovering that she’s autistic, I’ve felt like I might be too. So much of what she said felt like she was talking about me and my experience. Since then I’m becoming more and …

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Shoulding Vs. Self-Care Pt. 2

That sounds amazing! I’ve been re-watching the self-love webinar and still have some questions: how can I create as much love and connection as I want wihtin myself? Is it ‘just’ that I decide to do it? Is it about entertaining the thought that love and connection are abundant everywhere? How do I do it? …

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Autistic identity

Hi, I’d like some coaching on my autistic identity. The way Maisie talks about it is so inspiring and seems simple and easy. She’s not justifying herself, which is what I like most. I have a different situation and experience. I guess I don’t have enough self-trust to just think positively about myself in general …

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Son with ADHD

Am really struggling with my son today and decided to lean onto the collective. For some reason, this is quite hard for me to talk about and I don’t openly discuss it with anyone. My son is 9 and he has ADHD. He has very poor emotional regulation and gets angry/rageful very easily. When things …

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Shoulding vs. self-care

Hi coaches, I’d like to get some coaching around a topic that occurred yesterday. I have Borderline personality disorder, and one symptom is that my brain anticipates rejection in specific situations very strongly. The specific situation yesterday was: I’m an assistant at university (I quit- my last day will be in February), and my students …

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Freelance burnout pt. 2

“feelings that bring you a sense of calm and joy” What a beautiful notion! This sparked something inside of me and made me realise that while I have always been striving towards joy, I am missing the calm. The sense of urgency was and is still very present. I have been trying to be very …

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How to say no respectfully

Hi maisy and team! Firstly a deep thanks and gratitude for all that you do! Have gotten so much out of the podcast over the last year 💗 A current life dilemma was hoping to get some coaching on My best friend of 20 + years her husband’s 40th is coming up. Our families are …

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Autistic, psychopath, or neither?

I’ve posted this in the community but thought I’d also submit it for Ask a Coach. Ever since listening to Maisie’s podcast episodes about autism, I have started wondering whether I might be somewhere on the spectrum. I have always been highly sensitive to sounds, smells, crowds (among probably a full list of other things) …

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Confusion about Autism Pt.2

Thank you so much for such a understanding reply. I have written my Why’s for persuing an autism assessment. They are as follows: 1. If I am autistic then I definitely want to know about it. 2. It would provide an explanation for certain struggles I experience that are making life quite difficult. It would …

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Confusion about Autism

A few years ago I heard a woman talking about her autism diagnosis. When I heard her talk, it blew my mind that someone like her could have autism. I began to wonder if I also could be autistic. I think this wondering stemmed from feeling different, from struggling with black and white thinking, and …

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ADHD and focus struggles

I was diagnosed earlier this year with ADHD. I am in my mid-twenties and I have really struggled with focusing on work or study since I was 14. I have lost a job before due to focus-related issues and my grades at university were also affected by my inability to submit assignments on time. My …

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Sensory Issues

Hi coaches! I have always had some sensory issues (hyper sensitive to certain sounds such as chewing, cutlery on plates, flicking fingernails) and I am just starting to connect these with my cycle. My coping strategies for when these sensations are happening are: trying to distract myself, telling myself it is the noise that is …

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Barrier to goal setting

Hi, I have a couple of really workable and exciting goals, connected to my business. However, I am trying to overcome a barrier I have created, to move forward with a goal. It may well be a goal itself. In a bid to be open and myself, before I aim to expand my business, I …

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Dealing with the past

I joined TFC recently, finished reading Period Power and am now reading Perimenopause Power. I have known for a while I was perimenopausal and have since reading these come to realise I may have had ADHD and possibly Autism all my life, and PMDD since I was 11 – I am now 51. I have …

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