Dear coaches, At the moment I am 8 weeks pregnant with my second child. I am happy with the pregnancy and was longing for it for a long time, but the last three weeks I am really struggling. I am tired, I have nauseas and the most difficult thing is that I don’t enjoy anything. …
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my sister in law is pregnant and I feel really jealous and resentful. at first i allowed myself to just feel everything i was feeling and let it out and cry a lot and complain and give myself some grace. but now more time has lapsed and it no longer feels appropriate for me to …
I’m currently going through IVF to try and have a second child, and am at the start of the dreaded two week wait. This is my fourth attempt, and I’ve had a number of early stage miscarriages. I’m older, and aware my chances of success are very slim. The issue I keep struggling with, every …
Hi, Thanks for your coaching here! This was v helpful, and I can see that this is all part of a wider approach to how I approach dating now that I’m looking for a relationship. Where I’m having fun with it and believing that it can be easy – not something hard and impossible and …
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Hi dear coaching team, as I am typing this I am still a little unsure what I really want … and this migh be the answer to my question. Nonetheless I want to share the following and am greateful to your suggestions on where or how I might start the self coaching. I just watched …
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Hi there, I am struggling with some guilt around announcing my pregnancy at work. Here some context: for the past 2.5 years I have been working very hard to get a project I wanted to work on that also allowed me to grow in my function and my salary. I am happy with this result …
I’m planning a homebirth and need somebody here in case my daughter is up and about: I’d like her to be there but want her to have somebody with all their attention on her and also the option of her leaving the room/house if she’s not comfortable being there. If we have to transfer into …
Hi Coaches, I am pregnant and celebrating that I am now in my 13th week of pregnancy. I had a check up today and I am so grateful that both my baby and me are fine. It has been a challenging time, partly because I had a previous loss. So I want to take this …
I have a situation around Mom Guilt (for once with the signs reversed) that I would like to look at. I am very ashamed of it and I would like to change it. My sister recently had her first child, it came way too early. The first day after discharge from the hospital, when the …
Good evening, my partner and I decided 3 months ago to start trying for a baby. When I make a decision like this, I am the type of person who spends months to a year researching the topic. This is also what I did in this case, I carry no judgement about it, this is …
I want to feel supported, by myself and by him. I want to support my own decision-making. Knowing that I cannot change him, I want to lean into trusting that I have a deep knowing that this is what I want. That I want him, that I want children. And won’t it be so much …
I just finished watching the replay of the autumn workshop and here’s what came up for me: Goal: Prepare my mind and body for pregnancy with my rocks being: – Changing my story – Nourishment – Movement The doubt that I’m having is that my goal for this year was to start trying to conceive. …
The past year it was a ’figure it out’ year for me and my partner. If we stay together and have a family or we go our separate ways. We decided to stay together and start trying for a baby. It was not an easy process and far from my fantasy my brain and movies …
I have a 2 year old son, who’s amazing. I find parenting tiring and sometimes stressful but also wonderful and joyous. My partner, who I love deeply, has said that he doesn’t want another child, he thinks it would break him. He is someone who really needs his own space, finds socialising tiring, finds chaos …
I am trying to re model my acceptance in change of body since having my son as I know that deep down it is because of the way I have been wired. As a professional dancer, I constantly had people (and myself) comment on the way I looked and now I look back, my power …
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Good Morning Coaches! I’ve posted this in the community as well but would love your thoughts. I posted a couple of weeks ago very excitedly celebrating myself for putting an offer in on a commercial space. I’m yet to hear anything on that space but I am now considering another space which is more expensive …
I’ve been suffering with what I thought was burnout. I’m now thinking it might be post natal depression following an abortion. It was really traumatic and I don’t think I’ve processed it well. But I’m not really sure how to? Similarly, my body has changed a lot during the process. And I’m struggling to feel …
Hi coaches, thanks for your response. With a bit of time I’ve already moved from the panicky state I was in when I reached out and gained some perspective which includes remembering some factual things like the fact my cycle is nearly always longer than 28 days so I’m unlikely to be ovulating within 5 …
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Hi coaches, are you able to help me find some clarity in the thoughts and feelings I’ve got in relation to a situation? My partner and I had unprotected sex on day 10 of my cycle, so with my understanding of my cycle there is a small chance this could lead to pregnancy. We do …
Could you please recommend best place, books, sites to help with educating and guiding myself as I grow the baby inside me ❤️ thank you lots It’s early days and I really appreciate some direction Answer: Congratulations on your pregnancy! We are here to coach you on anything that is coming up for …
Hi AAC, My partner and I have been trying for a second child for about 2 years now. In that time we have had 3 early miscarriages. I followed my intuition on a health issue that may have been affecting my ability to remain pregnant, and found out a few weeks ago that I am …
I’ve been out of work ‘mumming’ full time for coming up to 3 years. I left my last job around the time my eldest received an autism diagnosis and I’d not long given birth to my second. Last weekend I made a huge step toward finding some work/purpose for myself outside of my role of …
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Hello, I’m reaching out for some coaching to help me clarify my spring goal and rocks, as I’m getting stuck in thought loops around what is the ‘right’ goal, which is actually quite funny when my goal is (probably) to ground into self-trust. The context is that I am about to move cities for three …
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I just found out I’m pregnant and I’m over the moon about it but also perpetually exhausted. Before getting pregnant, I had made huge strides tackling my feelings of overwhelm and anxiety at work. Now, with the combination of exhaustion, having to leave early when I feel too ill to continue, and more doctor’s appointments, …
Hi there, I’ve been holding off posting this in here because I’ve been thinking that I can self coach and work my way through this dilemma but I’ve realised I’m actually getting very stuck. I joined the Flow Collective after a break up which took me by surprise. I met my ex partner after some …
Hi there I’m 13 weeks pregnant and due early October. I’ve just finished my level 3 counselling course with plans to start my level 4 in September which lasts 2 years. I can’t wait to be a new parent but to also continue my learning but I keep hearing from others it’s just not achievable …
I recently found out that a colleague is pregnant. My partner and I are several months into trying. I have polycystic ovaries, which has added a layer of pressure and uncertainty to the process since we know it could take us longer and require more interventions. This colleague isn’t in a relationship and has a …
Thank you so much for the coaching. I realised that in fact both were going – I was simultaneously expecting too much of myself, and also not managing my mind very well because somewhere my brain felt overwhelmed by all the changes in my body and all the plans I had made for this time …
Hi, I had a baby 21 months ago and I breastfed for 13 months and didn’t have a period during this time. In August 22 when I stopped breastfeeding my periods returned and instead of being 28-30 days as before they are now 21-22 days apart. I turned 41 in January and am unsure as …
Dear coaches, I noticed a thought for the first time today, which I’ve had for over 2 years (I remember thinking it and forget all about it, because of the stress it causes me each time). So I tried to express it as clearly as possible in the following two models: Circumstance: my family T: …
I am pregnant for the first time, and really struggling with the first trimester pregnancy nausea. I don’t quite throw up every day, more often I just end up running to the bathroom and retching but then not actually vomiting. I talked to my healthcare provider about this, they didn’t seem concerned and told me …
I’m recently back to work following maternity leave and I’m feeling a bit stuck with what to do with my job / career in both the short and long term! I’m currently working in marketing in a job that pays ok, offers lots of flexibility in an industry I have experience in, which I can …
Hi, Thank you so much for the reply which gave me food for thought. I had a think about what was suggested..what’s holding me back from taking action to build self confidence. The things that came up included.. Getting it wrong Looking stupid Not being good enough And being bothered about what others may think …
Hi I’m in very early pregnancy and feeling really anxious. I’ve tried sitting with my emotions and feeling how they come up. Also doing some thought downloads and using intentional thoughts like ‘this is possible for me’ ‘I trust my body knows what it’s doing’ but keep having thoughts that this won’t work for me …
So Im nearly 41, Ive been through quite a few years of what I would describe as torment in trying to figure out if I want to have a child or not. In my mid 30s I decided I really did and to slow down on a very stressful career and job (av 12 hours …
C: Mum talks about grandchildren T: She will take over as soon as I am pregnant F: Suffocating/panic A: retreat from her/reduce contact, delay having children though I actually want to and so now I am trying for a baby I don’t tell her, try and research everything so I know enough that her ‘advice’ …
I am still breastfeeding and therefore am still experiencing postpartum amenorrhea (my daughter is 1 year and my periods didn’t return with my son until he was 13 months). I’ve just watched Harness your Hormones module one and I really want to get going with tracking my cycle and don’t want to wait! My question …
I suspect I have PMDD. I’ve been trying to log my cycles on and off for years. I have two children 1 & 4 year old, with a pregnancy loss in-between. For the past 5 years, I’ve been pregnant, postpartum or breastfeeding. Therefore very few bleeds, making it more tricky to track. I have started …
I am currently on mat leave and supposed to be returning to work in Feb. I really struggled after returning to work when I had my first kid, and found it triggered PND and a lot of anxiety. I have been feeling a lot more grounded this time around and have put a lot of …
I’ve just finished the Recalibrate and Activate workshop and one of the goals that first came to mind was to conceive a healthy baby in 2023. At first, I steered away from that as I had a thought that conceiving a baby is not something I have control over – the story that supports this …
I have a 10 month old son and am exclusively breastfeeding, so haven’t gotten my period back yet. Do I still have a cycle, and is there a way to track it in the absence of a bleed? Answer: We can answer your coaching questions here in AAC but cannot give medical advice. …
I had my baby unexpectedly early at 34 weeks due to placenta insufficiency. We had a difficult start to her life as she spent 16 days in NICU. While pregnant I knew I wanted to give breast feeding a go, but felt very open to other options and ways of feeding my baby. When baby …
I am in the 2nd Trimester of my first pregnancy and I have a chronic illness, the most debilitating symptoms being migraine. The first trimester everything flared up. Now I am in the 2nd Trimester and my symptoms are in remission. Which sounds great on paper, but I have a lot of thoughts and feelings …
Hello, I am a mother of a 10 month baby (my first) and I’m struggling to secure more time for myself and to begin working more. I have been breastfeeding and unfortunately the baby will not take the bottle, so I have ended up remaining the main carer although this had not been the plan. …
Hello lovely coaches, I am going into my next try at ICSI in my next cycle and am finding myself feeling a lot of pressure. My thoughts revolve around: This has to work. This is our last chance. I need to get out of my head. I want to be pregnant and want it to …
Thank you for your response. It’s helpful to see the effect of shame and that the result is that I’m punishing myself. I can also see that having a medical explanation, supported by my identifying a possible source of infection, has provided some clarity and comfort for my brain. Before the post mortem results I …
Following the recent unexpected and premature delivery of my baby, I have developed high blood pressure, was put on medication for this and monitored in hospital a a result. Following my discharge I am required to monitor my blood pressure daily at home. I am under lots of daily pressure as my baby is on …
Thanks for such a helpful response. I’ve reflected on the questions you asked and felt a positive shift. I’m working on these two intentional models and would appreciate any further thoughts. C: My thought “What about Anna?” T: Of course I’m thinking that F: Acceptance A: Acknowledge that I’m checking in on our relationship; accept …
Listening to the podcast episode this morning about a sense of completion (and in the end of summer review) I had something come up that I’d like some coaching on. When I think about what feels complete for me, it’s the time I’ve spent with a focus on conception, pregnancy, breastfeeding etc. – and my …
I’ve needed time to reflect on your brilliant coaching. And when talking to my partner, we decided that we would continue for the rest of the year actively ttc, and then if it doesn’t happen by January we’ll re-assess. This way I get out of the decision limbo rut and force myself to see what …
Hi there, I would really appreciate some input and coaching… My boyfriend and I are trying to conceive for almost a year now, I feel like I’m getting impatient and frustrated in the process and it’s affecting too much of my life. I have PCOS with long & irregular cycles, therefore ovulation is rare and …
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I’d like some help with this model and situation. My mum is doing a two week personalised health study looking at blood sugar, how the body responses to fat etc with a temporary implant. She’s been talking to me about it. I have some knowledge about this area as I had gestational diabetes in both …
I started taking the contraceptive pill in my teens, took it for ten years and then swapped it for a copper coil about ten years ago. My intention was to live more “naturally” and the hope was that my migraine would improve. Now I’ve had two children and the coil put back in after both …
My daughter is 8 months old and I was able to exclusively breastfeed her from birth. She is now on solid food and loves it – so much so she’s cut down her breastfeeds during the day substantially but still feeds throughout the night as we cosleep. As a result, I still have not had …
I’ve been reflecting on how you put this: “If that’s another baby, great. If not, that’s ok too. you said “Ultimately, my biggest problem is I cannot hear what I want.” Question that thought. You know what you want. What if you weren’t afraid and just said it?” Objectively, when I zoom out of the …
I’m new to this but I am certainly not new to what I’m writing to you about. 5 years ago I became a mother, and my entry to motherhood was brutal. I had a traumatic labor, immediate and severe postpartum depression, major physical pain postpartum that took 8 weeks to heal, and my partner was …
Hello, I am four weeks post termination. I have had lots of support around me and I have been able to look after myself lots. I was sure of my decision but had quite a tough time physically and have been a little drained and low on energy. As such, I am taking magnesium, B …
I’m not sure how to begin or ask my question, so i‘m trying a thought download. I apologise in advance, since I’m not a native speaker and am struggling with concentrating ( I suspect I have ADHD….have to have that checked) At the moment, I have the feeling I am loosing the connection to myself …
I used to work for a healthcare organisation with the tag line “Taking it personally” where the implication was to treat our patients the way we would wish our own family members to be treated. At the time, my lovely supervisor gently suggested I would do better to take things a bit less personally, as …
I’m in the early stages of pregnancy and it’s had a big impact on my mental health. Honeslty, it was something I thought was off the cards for me after years of long term illness. Even though it was something I wanted. After getting pregnant I have experienced a host of symptoms. Migraines being the …
Hi there! I just answered a survey question and wanted to pop it in here too. I have a set of changes I want to make that, when I’ve made them in the past, have a profound impact on my life. Simple health habits I’m strict on with my kids: no sugar before bed, early …
Hello coaches! It is my first time writing in after being part of the collective for several months. I am currently 16 weeks pregnant and just had an appointment with my midwife today that left me in tears. I am planning to do the hypnobirthing method and have read many books/done research about gentle, natural …
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I am on maternity leave and am loving being a new mum AND ABSOLUTELY LOVING being away from work. This past week, there was a work issue that I was required to deal with on work email (I won’t bore you with the details, but written confirmation was required only from me for something that …
Dear team, I have been struggling to get pregnant for a few years now and have seen already three years ago on and off private health practitioners to check on gut health and nutrition status. Also I went to the dentist to do all my teeth health. But then only had miscarriage and then never …
Hi there flow coaches!! I am a 36 year lady who works as a self employed gardener along side my husband. We have our own business. I am currently 23 weeks pregnant and I am struggling with the physical nature of the job on straining and energy, working in the heat and a period of …
Hello I have just found out I am pregnant (thank you to cycle tracking when my period didn’t start after 14 DPO so prompted me to take a test) but I’m not sure how I’m feeling about it. Both of my previous pregnancies were planned. If anyone ever asked me if I wanted a 3rd …