Self Image/Self Esteem/Self Worth

Managing stress at work

Work is currently really stressfull with talk of cuts, closure, cutting hours and potential redundancy. It feels like theres is lot so weight and responsibility on my shoulders in terms of what i could have done to have meant the charity was in a stronger position financial. I’m beating myself a lot and feeling really …

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Enoughness

I noticed I was censoring myself whilst making a new friend and colleague, feeling the opportunity to share something about myself and then choosing not to for fear of being exposing myself as bad in some way. I do this a lot I notice, with everyone. And through the self love journal prompts I realised …

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Evolving friendship pt. II

Hi dear coach, In my first submission, I was reflecting on my relationship with my childhood best friend. This was my model: C. Meeting with long time childhood friendship T. I don’t feel as close as I use to to this person. F. Sad A. Don’t share what I feel vulnerable about. Don’t look forward …

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Feeling down

Hi coaches, I’ve been going through a challenging period for the past three months, I’m currently on a two-week leave from work. I’m returning on Friday which I’m feeling mixed emotions so I reached out to my manager regarding retuning to work. She was very supportive letting me know that she will be taking me …

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Parenting guilt

I have two young children and work full-time. I am trying to make sense of thoughts/feelings about organising playdates and supporting my children to build strong friendships. Over the past three years, I have had periods of burnout due to full-time work and looking after my children as there was no wrap around care. I …

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Redundancies uncertainty

Hi, My work told us that they’ll be announcing redundancies next week. This was pretty shocking, but also what shocked me more was that part of me wants it to be me. I have wanted to leave for a while, and am currently setting myself up to go freelance – and there is part of …

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Building trust in loving again

Hi, I attended the fix what’s broken workshop last week, and it bought up some interesting things for me. One theme was that I realised my trust in love is somewhat broken. I had an on off relationship which ended in march, after three years. When we were together for the first year and half, …

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Self Love

My goal is to raise my self worth and I think it’s going quite well I noticed I was coaching myself in a dream the other night and thought wow it’s really getting into my subconscious. One of my rocks is to love myself and my life as it is but I’m just struggling with …

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Balancing hope and realism

I’m currently going through IVF to try and have a second child, and am at the start of the dreaded two week wait. This is my fourth attempt, and I’ve had a number of early stage miscarriages. I’m older, and aware my chances of success are very slim. The issue I keep struggling with, every …

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Angry at my boss

Hello coaches! Good to be here again I am going to have a crazy month at work where the load is going to be massive, and I just got a promotion that also means more responsibilities and more close work with my boss. I like her as a person but I am aware we have …

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Alcohol

Hi coaches I’m struggling with my relationship with alcohol. I seem to use it to calm my nervous system and regulate myself, but I have wanted to reduce my intake for a while – and it doesn’t seem to be going well. My levels are not what would be considered problematic as I only have …

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Mom Troubles

Hey there! Lately I’ve been having recurring problems with my mom. And I can’t seem to figure out how to apply the coaching model in these situations. Pls help. It’s situations like this: We currently live in the same flat. My mom, my two sons ( 4 and 1) and I. Often my mom will …

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Running late/rushing

Hello, I’d love some coaching on my propensity to be rush and be late. I have been observing this over the last few weeks especially, as it is something I have recently been trying to address, but I still end up rushing and arrive bang on time or a few minutes late. So there are …

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not being superhuman

Hi coaches, I was working on the prompts from the self-love workshop and noticed that I am judging myself because I can’t do all of the following things at the same time: – living off-grid (means chopping wood, carrying water, using minimal electricity, so chores take longer) – care for a very active dog (ca …

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Cringing over memories

I wrote a poem after my grandpa died that my mum read at his funeral. My mum added some of her own commentary to the poem and in a line where I wrote about his stubble, she said he would have been sorry about that because he liked to be smooth shaven. I felt bad …

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self love journey 1

starting the self love journey. doing my first prompt on: what does it feel like when you choose not to love yourself? it feels like confimration. giving in to the truth. it seems true that i am not worth being loved/deserving love, therefor not doing so is how it is supposed to be. why? because …

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Fear of being alone

Hello. I have been single for about 2 years and in the past, I hadn’t constantly had a partner in my life. However, my close friends group have a good partnerships (as far as I can observe) and at times, it makes me feel like that I am alone. I have an understanding that they …

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self-love and other people

I noticed during yesterday’s call that while the work on loving and accepting myself over the past year has paid off in the way that I believe I am lovable and enough just as I am, I still don’t believe other people would see me that way. In a way, my mind turned the clean …

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celebrating the past

I recently noticed that many, if not most achievements in my life weren’t celebrated properly (or at all). This ranges from academic achievements (all the way up to a freaking PhD) and landing jobs (or even interviews) to personal events like housewarming parties, running a half-marathon (or my first 5k after giving birth), having a …

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Sex Frequency

I have a lot of “shoulds” about how frequently I have sex with my partner. I have this idea in my mind that ideally we should have sex at least once per week, and when I fall short of that expectation I beat myself up about it. I’ve been thinking like this ever since we …

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Tending to my Inner child

I realised recently that I have had a strange yearning for a motherly figure in my life for a long time. In the past I looked to teachers, later even female bosses to fill something. It has been quite overwhelming and limiting but it’s only recently I have been able to identify what’s going on. …

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Perimenopause rockiness!

Hello coaches, So I have recently been diagnosed as perimenopausal at 40 and started HRT a week ago. I am really struggling with my mindset during all of this, being obsessed with whether it’s working and feeling low about whether it’s going to work. Generally negativity. Low motivation but wanting to get back to the …

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