Self Image/Self Esteem/Self Worth

Social Anxiety

For many years i’ve been trying to work through my social anxiety, I am very self conscious and awkward, and am always worried I won’t say the right thing or that I’ll accidentally offend someone and that I don’t have enough to say that I am too quiet. These thoughts mean I’m not present I …

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Promotion

One of my spring goals is to get a promotion at work. It’s something I’ve spoken to my boss about and he wants it for me, too. Since I started in my job I’ve tripled annual revenue but last year fell 50% short of the goal for the year. The thought is that I don’t …

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Indecision

Hello! So I have been dealing with quit a lot indecision within my job roles. There are many factors affecting what I chose and I have been finding it difficult. I moved away from 9-5 as my partner works Tuesday to Sunday with a day off in the week and we try to both have …

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Life is 50/50 – part 2

Trigger warning: suicide. Part 2 (I have had great coaching on my first question, now I come back with my answers and new questions): You asked: why it feels so desperate when you think about 50/50? I think my answer to that is: 1. It feels so desperate because that means I will suffer a …

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Exercise goal in a loving way

Hi coaches! I’ve been thinking a lot about my spring goal and it’s all a muddle for me. I’m creating results in lots of areas I’ve quit one job so I’ve more time and space for me/studying/my business. So I feel things are falling in to place and will even more so when I’ll work …

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Help –

I’ve just ended another day at a high payed pubic health job, where I am really feeling the pressure. I’m putting in extra hours to try and produce something that I think they want from me, but I’m also not sure what they want from me – and I am very intentional about being direct …

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Putting pressure on myself

Hey coaches, I need some direction here 🙂 For the past month, my physical health has not been optimal, I keep catching viruses/bacteria and ending up sick every other week. I went to see my GP and she came to the conclusion that at the moment my immune system is quite weak which makes me …

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Relationship Boundary

Hello, Thank you in advance for reading my submission. This is a topic that has been spoiling my relationship and I am unsure of how to coach myself on this. I have been with my partner for 4 years now. Within a month or so of me moving in with him, he began to express …

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Imposter syndrome follow up

Thanks, that is really useful. Are there any tips to helping me get out of my head and into my body before seeing a client? I guess I could work on the thought that I’m pushing through a new level in my professional and personal life it’s a sign of growth rather than imposter syndrome …

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Restless feeling

Dear coaches <3, Somedays I have a restless feeling, like today. And I always try to figure out where this restless feeling is coming from. Mostly this ends up in a negative spiral of thoughts like ‘I feel restless’, ‘Where is this restless feeling coming from’, ‘I can’t feel where it’s coming from’, ‘I’ll never …

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Feeling stressed

Dear Ask a Coach, I would like to get some coaching on my relationship with stress/feeling stressed. I currently have a period at work that is quite busy, with multiple projects going on at the same time, all of which have similar upcoming deadlines. One project, in particular, is quite time-consuming (and it is my …

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Imposter syndrome

How can you coach yourself through imposter syndrome? I am self employed and wanting to take my business to the next level charging more money for my service, I lack confidence in myself and doubt that I am good enough, knowledgeable enough to do this. How can I prevent this lack of confidence coming across …

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Analyzing my dream

Maisie spoke about dreams in her goal setting call today. My dream is about resting and pleasure. I see myself wearing beautiful clothing, going to the opera, waking up in a beautiful hotel room with crisp white cotton sheets, drinking tea in bed and then reading the paper at a table outside a cafe with …

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I moved to where I live one year ago, with the idea to stay until 2024, or later. After one year, I am not happy living here. I have loving friends and there’s many positive things about this place, there’s things I could work on improving, but my body simply craves being somewhere else. Where …

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Self-worth and habits

I’ve been noticing a big connection more and more with how low I feel and how hard I am on myself when I feel like I’m in a period of low energy and “bad habits”. I go through stages of really low energy (not connected to health – all blood tests etc are normal), don’t …

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Uncertainty about diet

Dear coaches My word for 2023 is self-love which I’ve been using as monthly goals to prioritise my physical, emotional and mental health. As part of that, I gave up Slimming World which although had previously helped me lose 1 stone, I had slowly put back on and was increasing my feelings of guilt and …

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Craving praise and validation

Hi there, I started working as a photographer end of last year. I am very proud of the progress I have made, my bravery to putting myself out there and asking for money for my services. I enjoy being an artist (and calling myself that) immensely. I recently sent off a couple of galleries to …

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Overwhelm and comparison

Hi, I am feeling particularly overwhelmed at the moment and I’m noticing its affecting many areas of my life. I am working on my business and feel like I’m making little progress as I see what others are doing in a similar field and worry I’m not up to it…then that my website isn’t good …

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Learning to be more assertive

Hello I’d love some coaching on this one. Reecently, while sorting out my folder of flow collective and other personal development stuff I came across some information on assertive, passive and aggressive communication styles given to me by a therapist a while back, and I was surprised that to me the assertive examples seemed like …

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early pregnancy nausea

I am pregnant for the first time, and really struggling with the first trimester pregnancy nausea. I don’t quite throw up every day, more often I just end up running to the bathroom and retching but then not actually vomiting. I talked to my healthcare provider about this, they didn’t seem concerned and told me …

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Finding joy in my work

Hi, seven years ago, my husband started on a journey to create our own start-up. I joined him in 2018 full time (-ish, as I had to freelance to make a living). We have launched in the mass-market twice, so on paper, we are successful and others envy us. We have a way to go …

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aging parents pt. 2

Yes! That’s it. Thank you! Its about what could have been, and thinking that the time I have left to experience feeling loved, safe, and protected by my parents is starting to run out. I have identified many (sometimes conflicting) layers to it: 1. I want closure. I want my parents to come around. To …

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Doubt about Autism Diagnosis

A few months ago I was diagnosed with autism. I instigated getting an assessment, and I really wanted the diagnosis as it allowed me to make sense of things. And yet, my mind has not accepted the diagnosis. It says that I have been misdiagnosed. I feel a lot of shame about the possibility of …

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Not Feeling Emotionally Safe

Hello Ask A Coach, I recently completed an unintentional model that revealed a much bigger core belief. I felt like I was able to address the thought in the model but got a little stuck with addressing the core belief. UM C: Invited to an event with new friends T: I don’t know what to …

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Losing Weight Part 3

I’ve been on a journey with my weight since joining the Flow Collective six months ago and I believe I’ve made some progress in unlearning much of the body hatred I’ve carried around (as shown in my two previous Ask a Coach queries). I still am not able to make enough time for yoga as …

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Envy and Scarcity Mindset Part II

No questions here really, just wanted to follow up and thank you for the helpful response (and the immediate positive results!). The situation came up again and I thought I felt envy toward a friend’s engagement plans. Instead of talking smack about myself for feeling envy, I got curious and asked “what does this signify”? …

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Getting over imposter syndrome.

Hello, 🙂 I’m struggling a little (sometimes a lot) with imposter syndrome. I think I’ve always had this. I’ve been private chef for many years then opened up a salad bar business. I’ve always had this slight feeling I’m not respected or considered a real ‘chef’. (By who, I don’t know!) I’m not classically trained, …

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In an Indecisive Model

I am in a transition where I am starting two businesses, have just moved back to the United States, am living with my parents, and do not have a stable income or specific direction. When I think about my bigger dream and vision it is very clear. I see myself as an entrepreneur or business …

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Envy and Scarcity Mindset

Lately, I’ve been noticing a pattern that I’m trying to make sense of. when I hear about other peoples’ accomplishments or major life milestones, it brings up a lot of thoughts related to envy or resentment. The severity of the envy and whether resentment is included or not has to do with the stories I’ve …

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Moving house

Hi, Me and my partner has just moved house, and he has also just started in a new job. We are so happy with the new place, and on paper everything is great! However I have noticed in the last days since we moved I feel worried, upset, sad, anxious, unable to be productive and …

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Honesty in my relationship

I have a question I wanted to bring to the coaching call with Maggie Reyes today but I wasn’t able to attend, so I thought I’d bring it here instead… For relationships month I set the intention of building more honesty in my relationship with my husband (honesty with myself about my thoughts about him, …

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Job now that kids are in school

Hi coaches, I’m at a junction in my life and unsure about my next steps or what my real motivations are. I stopped working when I had children and now that my youngest has just started school, I’m wondering what my next move should be. My husband works very long hours and it’s important for …

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Being excluded

Hi coaches, I joined the collective in December and have been feeling so much more grounded having completed the Harness your Hormones, Nutrition and creating safety toolkits plus and used the ‘ask a coach’ tool to take a look deeper look at certain aspects of my past. I have felt stronger, more content and a …

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Interacting With Men Pt. III

Thank you for your answer. It’s been a while since I read your reply and I couldn’t think of a challenge, I also had other things going on so I parked this topic for a bit. However, during the last few days, I went to two parties / concerts with different groups of people, some …

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Boundaries with family

I have tried to be explicit setting a boundary with my sister asking her not to ask me to lend her money. She asked me can she put money on my credit card for the space of 6 days. I think this is the part the makes it feel harder to say no, because it’s …

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Unhealthy Eating Habits

I am struggling with motivation and will power when choosing what snacks to eat. One of my rocks to work towards a larger goal of HEALTH for myself is to change my relationship with sugar. I am addicted to sugar. I am successfully changing the main meals that I eat and have had a successful …

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Noticing old patterns

A design freelance job has come up with an old boss. Since leaving that job, over a year ago, I’ve been transitioning to a holistic career. Big transition, very uncomfortable at times, but I love it. I want to do the freelance job, it’s well paid, the money would give me a cushion. Also creatively …

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Grief and work

Hello team, I recently lost my dad very unexpectedly and it’s been rough. At the same time, I’m at the end of a trial period of my new job. This job currently seems rather unimportant to me, but I think that is the grief speaking. It is also very turbulent right now since there a …

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