Time Management/Doing Less

Feeling down

Hi coaches, I’ve been going through a challenging period for the past three months, I’m currently on a two-week leave from work. I’m returning on Friday which I’m feeling mixed emotions so I reached out to my manager regarding retuning to work. She was very supportive letting me know that she will be taking me …

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Parenting guilt

I have two young children and work full-time. I am trying to make sense of thoughts/feelings about organising playdates and supporting my children to build strong friendships. Over the past three years, I have had periods of burnout due to full-time work and looking after my children as there was no wrap around care. I …

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Redundancies uncertainty

Hi, My work told us that they’ll be announcing redundancies next week. This was pretty shocking, but also what shocked me more was that part of me wants it to be me. I have wanted to leave for a while, and am currently setting myself up to go freelance – and there is part of …

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Running late/rushing

Hello, I’d love some coaching on my propensity to be rush and be late. I have been observing this over the last few weeks especially, as it is something I have recently been trying to address, but I still end up rushing and arrive bang on time or a few minutes late. So there are …

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not being superhuman

Hi coaches, I was working on the prompts from the self-love workshop and noticed that I am judging myself because I can’t do all of the following things at the same time: – living off-grid (means chopping wood, carrying water, using minimal electricity, so chores take longer) – care for a very active dog (ca …

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Perimenopause rockiness!

Hello coaches, So I have recently been diagnosed as perimenopausal at 40 and started HRT a week ago. I am really struggling with my mindset during all of this, being obsessed with whether it’s working and feeling low about whether it’s going to work. Generally negativity. Low motivation but wanting to get back to the …

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Tell boss too much to do

Hi, I really struggle to tell my boss when he’s pushing too much onto me. I never ask for help. It never even occurs to me to ask. How do I stop this negative cycle in my life?     Answer: You could start by noticing how you are telling this story about yourself. What …

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Deciding to Prioritize Pt. II

I don’t think I’m managing this wrong necessarily. I think I could choose to post on the Instagram account or not and it wouldn’t mean anything either way. I’m just noticing the feeling of disappointment about not posting. Over the summer I took steps to make the app less addictive so I can share there …

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[fear of burning out again]

Dear coach, I recently gifted myself a fully remote job with lots of flexibility & benefits and I quite enjoy the job after years in academia and years of burnout cycles. Thanks to the time hackers, I have been feeling much better about slowing down and taking time off, most importantly starting the work day …

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My Upcoming Birthday Pt. II

Thank you for your birthday wishes and your answer. It was my birthday yesterday. It was a really nice day. Before the day, I decided that my birthday doesn’t have to be perfect and that the number of messages I receive doesn’t mean so much. I was a bit emotional in the morning but didn’t …

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Getting to bed earlier

Hello, I am trying to shift both thought and action patterns around sleep. I am in a pattern of eating quite late and then correspondingly going to bed quite late (e.g. typically in bed around 11 pm) and then getting up just after 7 am. This leaves me with not quite enough sleep – not …

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Dog-sitting quandary

Hi, (This might seem like a random one, but I think I’m making it mean more than it is – so would appreciate any guidance!) A few months ago, a friend of a friend got in touch to ask if I’d be up for dog sitting their dog once a week, as they had a …

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TFC membership

All this time I haven’t used AAC but now that I actually planned to cancel my membership, I find myself here. I always continued my membership because I told myself I’d attend to all the valuable insights in the next membership cycle. However, especially the last 3 months were the worst – I didn’t attend …

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Doing less (with more intention)

Hello, this submission is inspired by two submissions from other members that really resonated with me. One was about not putting your life on hold during the semester and teaching responsibilities. And the other one was about not feeling like you have to be productive 100% of the time during your working hours. With regard …

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judgement for needing time off

From the end-of-season call, I have realized that there is this thought/belief that I have had over the summer. And I have been pushing it away, only writing about it now. One of the things I wanted this summer was rest and breading space because the last semester last study year was an intense one. …

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Discomfort stress response

Hello, I think this thought ‘I shouldn’t have to deal with this’ is underlying how i show up in life and I’m not sure why it is there. I have an immidate stress response whenever I encounter it and wonder why I’m so closed to discomfort. For example if I’ve a task at work that …

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Relationship with work

Dear Coaches I have been thinking and working on my relationship with work a lot recently. After burning out in 2017, I identified a lot of my patterns, like how much my self worth is connected to achievements at work, hyperindependence and perfectionism. After coming out of a period of intense work stress recently this …

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Not feeling congruent

I’d like some coaching on this thought I have that my results are not congruent with the image I have of myself. I’m a type of coach (alongside my paid employment), and I have done a massive amount of work on myself to think about myself as a coach. I struggled with feeling ‘not enough’ …

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Working less hours Part 3

I had a huge insight this week and after the coaching I got back from AAC. The reason I want to work less also has to do with me not believing I am capable of changing in my behaviours: taking more breaks, saying no more often, setting strong boundaries in work-time. When I imagine myself …

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Start exercising

Hi, I’ve been recovering from burn-out/ long-covid and also have a very light (looks almost like disappearing) period. I have gotten the advice from a health care proffesional (chinese medicine) to combine the herbs with some light exercise. I can’t put myself to doing it. I feel very tired since I’m now also working fulltime …

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Working less hours

Hi! I am thinking of working less hours a week. From 32 hours to 24 hours. I work as a psychologist in a very extraverted and social job with lots of responsibilites. I am neurodivergent en highly sensitive and introvert. Therefore my job costs me lots of energy and I am often tired. The job …

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Boundaries and when to say no

In January, I agreed to participate in a 10min roundtable discussing work that I was involved in. At the time, I asked the organiser to contact me in May to discuss plans and confirm participation. Last Friday, I received an email regarding the event and found that my contribution appears to be a 90min lecture …

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Saying no

Hi, I’m just sitting with an awful feeling at the moment after having been asked if I wanted to work with someone and saying no. I take my time and energy very seriously and is quite particular about how I spend it. I was asked by my management which I’ve had for about 6 months …

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returning to uni #3

Hi 😊 The last coaching asked “In what ways is how you’re making decisions now aligned or misaligned with what you truly value and want for yourself long term?”. Most of my actions are aligned (yey!), but in the misaligned column I wrote “Ongoing perfectionism, hyperfocus and anxiety”, as well as “time anxiety and the …

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Massive action

When I listen to massive action and honouring your yeses, and goals podcasts I keep replaying a current idea of setting up a small business venture to take me away from my 9-5. What stops me is spending money to set it up (as well as fear of failure, other people’s opinions,time etc). Am I …

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Pressure

Hello coaches, I have a question for you around pressure. I am working on a number of goals that are really important to me- one is a work goal and the other a personal goal. I feel like I want to achieve them so bad that I put a lot of pressure on myself to …

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Physical things around me

Dear coaches, thanks for taking time to read this. It’s something that has felt heavy for a long time. Last night I had a dream: I was on a ship with my partner. The ship had arrived on our destination and we were suppossed to come to exit the ship. However, we had so much …

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Struggling with Whatsapp Part 3

I think my standards of social media are actually pretty high and that I feel like I can’t live up to that standards I have. The standards are: – Reply within maximum 1 day – Reply as soon as possible at important messages (other people sharings their emotions with me or invitations) – Sending birtday …

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