Time Management/Doing Less

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I’ve just ended another day at a high payed pubic health job, where I am really feeling the pressure. I’m putting in extra hours to try and produce something that I think they want from me, but I’m also not sure what they want from me – and I am very intentional about being direct …

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Exercise

In my last ‘Evaluate & Activate’ review I wrote that I wanted to do more exercise. I thought maybe I’d do a YouTube dance workout or try taking a longer route to work to get more walking in. I put some times in my calendar and then just… didn’t do it. The thing is, I …

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Putting pressure on myself

Hey coaches, I need some direction here 🙂 For the past month, my physical health has not been optimal, I keep catching viruses/bacteria and ending up sick every other week. I went to see my GP and she came to the conclusion that at the moment my immune system is quite weak which makes me …

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Early Pregnancy Nausea Pt 2

Thank you so much for the coaching. I realised that in fact both were going – I was simultaneously expecting too much of myself, and also not managing my mind very well because somewhere my brain felt overwhelmed by all the changes in my body and all the plans I had made for this time …

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Feeling stressed

Dear Ask a Coach, I would like to get some coaching on my relationship with stress/feeling stressed. I currently have a period at work that is quite busy, with multiple projects going on at the same time, all of which have similar upcoming deadlines. One project, in particular, is quite time-consuming (and it is my …

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Analyzing my Dream – 2

Yes the feelings in my dream are relaxed, ease, still and contended being alone in a comfortable and beautiful hotel. There’s also the feelings of delight and inspiration from the art works. On the first set of feelings, I think this may be coming from perfectionist tendencies that tend to mean I have high expectations …

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I moved to where I live one year ago, with the idea to stay until 2024, or later. After one year, I am not happy living here. I have loving friends and there’s many positive things about this place, there’s things I could work on improving, but my body simply craves being somewhere else. Where …

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Finding joy

I know that it is normal for human brains to have a negativity bias. And I think years’ of anxiety and depression in adolescence has made my bias quite strong without me recognising things can be any different – thinking of this in a neutral way without passing judgment on myself. I know that there …

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Making Decisions 2

My gut response is approval from others is what is standing in the way and fear that I will make a bad decision. How might I move forward on this ? Thank you     Answer: Great insights! Celebrate your win of recognizing what’s holding you back from making your decision. When you say “others” …

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early pregnancy nausea

I am pregnant for the first time, and really struggling with the first trimester pregnancy nausea. I don’t quite throw up every day, more often I just end up running to the bathroom and retching but then not actually vomiting. I talked to my healthcare provider about this, they didn’t seem concerned and told me …

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Finding joy in my work

Hi, seven years ago, my husband started on a journey to create our own start-up. I joined him in 2018 full time (-ish, as I had to freelance to make a living). We have launched in the mass-market twice, so on paper, we are successful and others envy us. We have a way to go …

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overwhelm at work

I work in a primary school where the children can work individually, which involves much more spontaneity and individual support/help. Today school started again after the holidays. At noon when we’ve eaten all together I’ve got really emotional and asked, if it’s okey, that I take a bit of time for myself and have eaten …

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Time and money

Hello coaches I have realised a lot of my overwhelming feelings recently have come from wanting to make more money but working as little as I possibly can. I think I’m stressing myself out about how I can make this happen. I have tried to plan my time in the week for set admin days …

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Overwhelmed by Thought Work

For the past 6 weeks or so, I have felt quite overwhelmed by the Flow Collective and the process of thought work. I have felt that my capacity is limited, and what time I have to dedicate to my wellbeing needs to be spent doing things that calm and nourish me, like walking or meditating. …

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Recovering from burnout

I’m recovering from a burnout from work . There are many reasons for the burnout , the work environment , my people pleasing tendencies, challenging projects, and tricky individuals and tricky projects. Im much stronger now , and slowly working towards going back to work . However there are certain individuals who were part of …

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facebook group / Buffering

I have been using the FC Facebook group to share wins / selfcare Sunday and also to read other members posts and interact with the others. I use FB specifically for this group only. From using the group I had great insights so far and posting wins etc helped me a lot, however I noticed …

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Underlying model

Hi coaches, I am focusing on resting more and taking life at a slower pace as my body and mind need to heal. I am finding it very difficult not to go at my usual speed and level because both the speed and the level as well as a certain efficiency are very baked into …

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2023 Goal feedback

Hi coaches, I look part in the recalibrate and activate workshop which was so eye opening and helpful. As a new member, I wanted to run through my goal for this year to get your feedback and check I’m on the right path. The 3 results I’d like to create in 2023 are: 1. to …

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Goal setting

I’m getting stuck on which goal I should choose. I got to a place last year where I began to make decisions more clearly and knew what I wanted. But after having some time away from TFC I now feel like I’ve gone back to square one and feel scattered again. I don’t know whether …

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Help with Goal and Rocks

My winter goal is connection and lightness. Over Christmas I felt that concentrating on connection gave my days a lovely focus and much reward and I wanted to continue this. I had self love as a goal in the autumn and connection with myself can be wound in. Lightness is something I am aspiring to …

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Where to start Pt. 2

Spending time to answer the questions from the response, I am able to get deeper into the underlying overwhelm. I am resisting the reality of my life with unrealistic expectations, and ‘shoulding’ on myself. I have a lot of free time and sometimes think I’m taking it for granted. Then, I believe I should fill …

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Feeling unlucky

My partner whenever something bad happens to her has a tendency to say they’re unlucky. Doing work in this collective I feel like I can see there is thought work to be done here for her but I’m also wondering about my tendency to want to advise or help people fix their unhappiness. Is it …

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Work boundaries

Talking to my manager at the start of this year we discussed how we both (female) were stressed thinking about the year ahead being a repeat of the year before. My job has a lot of last minute new business pitches where people expect everyone to work overtime if the deadline comes in, even if …

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Big ideas

Hi coaches, Your post in the facebook page got me thinking. The recalibrate workshops and the winter workshop made me feel SO inspired. I have a lot of big ideas. And the winter workshop put me into a model that made me think okay what if this were possible, what if this were simple, what …

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Having faith in myself

Hi – I have been working on my first book illustration commission, after finishing an MA, and am really struggling with self confidence, I feel like I am being too tight and rigid in my work, that they won’t like it… I keep catching myself saying “I can’t do it”, “it’s too much”. Actually, as …

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Quality of downtime

I haven’t used this resource before! Exciting! I am struggling with the notion of downtime, worrying if I am enjoying it ‘properly’, getting defensive about it being my “sacred” time and making sure I don’t waste it doing things I don’t enjoy. For example, I don’t like making too many plans on Sundays as I …

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Privilege and self-care

I’ve learned that I need to take care of myself and should fully give myself permission to do so. I feel increasingly confident in this belief – outside of my work environment. I work in a non-profit collective (with an open ended workload. Overwork is common and some colleagues express that we are too generous …

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Resting Vs lack of consistency

I often blame myself for resting and taking it easy. I see it as detrimental to being consistent in what I do. How would you recommend I build a healthier relationship between resting which sometimes doesn’t have a palpable result and consistency which usually beings visible outcomes. Thank you     Answer: It would help …

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feeling ungrounded

Hello, I have a list of work related tasks that I’m having issues getting done. For example I need to write a list of topics for my business’ newsletter but I can’t focus and when I try to write a newsletter I don’t know what to write. I feel ungrounded and unfocused. Any suggestions would …

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Criticism at work

Hey coaches! Today was a pretty difficult day – emotionally. I’ve just finished watching the episode on Criticism in the Flow Collective and it has helped me to bring some issues here for more coaching. The situation that I am dealing is dealing with criticism from a colleague who happens to be my friend as …

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Plans for New Year’s Eve

Hello, some old school friends asked me if I wanted to do something with them on New Year’s Eve. I immediately agreed thinking that we would go to a party as we had done in previous years. However, it turns out they want to spend a cozy evening at home and chose the house of …

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Freelance burnout pt. 2

“feelings that bring you a sense of calm and joy” What a beautiful notion! This sparked something inside of me and made me realise that while I have always been striving towards joy, I am missing the calm. The sense of urgency was and is still very present. I have been trying to be very …

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Morning Routines

Hi coaches! I would like to have a consistent morning routine. I think that it would serve me well. Right now, I wake up most days with a vague (and long) list of things I’d like to do every morning. Inevitably, I sleep in later than I planned, I drop the “nice to have” items …

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Frictions in Friendship pt 3

Thanks again for your feedback, and I went back and relistened to the whole 3 part series of responsibility on the podcast. I have been thinking about this, and whilst I do find the metaphor helpful, I still feel a bit stuck on this. I don’t actually feel like I’ve been ‘dragging my friend over …

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Anxiety spiral pt. 3

Hi again, following up on anxiety spiral pt. 1 and 2 to say that my fourteen-year old is now with me a lot of the time. Whenever I feel anxious, I check in with her, ask her how she’s doing, hug her, make her a hot chocolate. There is a lot of grieving involved as …

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