Work/Career/Education

Putting pressure on myself

Hey coaches, I need some direction here 🙂 For the past month, my physical health has not been optimal, I keep catching viruses/bacteria and ending up sick every other week. I went to see my GP and she came to the conclusion that at the moment my immune system is quite weak which makes me …

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Struggling with my manager

I have a relatively new manager and I don’t like him. He has a big ego, waffles a lot and doesn’t make sense. He seems fake, hiding behind a suit and buzz words. He’s not interested in/doesn’t grasp the depth of the work we’re doing. He micro-manages very simple tasks but provides no guidance on …

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Imposter syndrome follow up

Thanks, that is really useful. Are there any tips to helping me get out of my head and into my body before seeing a client? I guess I could work on the thought that I’m pushing through a new level in my professional and personal life it’s a sign of growth rather than imposter syndrome …

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Feeling stressed

Dear Ask a Coach, I would like to get some coaching on my relationship with stress/feeling stressed. I currently have a period at work that is quite busy, with multiple projects going on at the same time, all of which have similar upcoming deadlines. One project, in particular, is quite time-consuming (and it is my …

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Imposter syndrome

How can you coach yourself through imposter syndrome? I am self employed and wanting to take my business to the next level charging more money for my service, I lack confidence in myself and doubt that I am good enough, knowledgeable enough to do this. How can I prevent this lack of confidence coming across …

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I moved to where I live one year ago, with the idea to stay until 2024, or later. After one year, I am not happy living here. I have loving friends and there’s many positive things about this place, there’s things I could work on improving, but my body simply craves being somewhere else. Where …

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Finding joy

I know that it is normal for human brains to have a negativity bias. And I think years’ of anxiety and depression in adolescence has made my bias quite strong without me recognising things can be any different – thinking of this in a neutral way without passing judgment on myself. I know that there …

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Craving praise and validation

Hi there, I started working as a photographer end of last year. I am very proud of the progress I have made, my bravery to putting myself out there and asking for money for my services. I enjoy being an artist (and calling myself that) immensely. I recently sent off a couple of galleries to …

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Making Decisions 2

My gut response is approval from others is what is standing in the way and fear that I will make a bad decision. How might I move forward on this ? Thank you     Answer: Great insights! Celebrate your win of recognizing what’s holding you back from making your decision. When you say “others” …

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Making decisions

I have read back my notes from the end of Dec beginning of Jan after listening to Maisie talk about making decisions. I would like some help on making my decision. I want to change my work. I like my workplace (school) but it is 6 days a week , long days and I am …

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early pregnancy nausea

I am pregnant for the first time, and really struggling with the first trimester pregnancy nausea. I don’t quite throw up every day, more often I just end up running to the bathroom and retching but then not actually vomiting. I talked to my healthcare provider about this, they didn’t seem concerned and told me …

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Finding joy in my work

Hi, seven years ago, my husband started on a journey to create our own start-up. I joined him in 2018 full time (-ish, as I had to freelance to make a living). We have launched in the mass-market twice, so on paper, we are successful and others envy us. We have a way to go …

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Management Challenges

This is probably going to need to be a series because there’s a lot to unpack in this one… I hired someone into my team three years ago and have had a lot of challenges with them ever since – they have difficulty meeting deadlines, trouble prioritizing, work needs a lot of revisions when it’s …

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overwhelm at work

I work in a primary school where the children can work individually, which involves much more spontaneity and individual support/help. Today school started again after the holidays. At noon when we’ve eaten all together I’ve got really emotional and asked, if it’s okey, that I take a bit of time for myself and have eaten …

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Getting over imposter syndrome.

Hello, 🙂 I’m struggling a little (sometimes a lot) with imposter syndrome. I think I’ve always had this. I’ve been private chef for many years then opened up a salad bar business. I’ve always had this slight feeling I’m not respected or considered a real ‘chef’. (By who, I don’t know!) I’m not classically trained, …

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In an Indecisive Model

I am in a transition where I am starting two businesses, have just moved back to the United States, am living with my parents, and do not have a stable income or specific direction. When I think about my bigger dream and vision it is very clear. I see myself as an entrepreneur or business …

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Envy and Scarcity Mindset

Lately, I’ve been noticing a pattern that I’m trying to make sense of. when I hear about other peoples’ accomplishments or major life milestones, it brings up a lot of thoughts related to envy or resentment. The severity of the envy and whether resentment is included or not has to do with the stories I’ve …

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Job now that kids are in school

Hi coaches, I’m at a junction in my life and unsure about my next steps or what my real motivations are. I stopped working when I had children and now that my youngest has just started school, I’m wondering what my next move should be. My husband works very long hours and it’s important for …

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Noticing old patterns

A design freelance job has come up with an old boss. Since leaving that job, over a year ago, I’ve been transitioning to a holistic career. Big transition, very uncomfortable at times, but I love it. I want to do the freelance job, it’s well paid, the money would give me a cushion. Also creatively …

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Grief and work

Hello team, I recently lost my dad very unexpectedly and it’s been rough. At the same time, I’m at the end of a trial period of my new job. This job currently seems rather unimportant to me, but I think that is the grief speaking. It is also very turbulent right now since there a …

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Time and money

Hello coaches I have realised a lot of my overwhelming feelings recently have come from wanting to make more money but working as little as I possibly can. I think I’m stressing myself out about how I can make this happen. I have tried to plan my time in the week for set admin days …

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Compartmentalisation

Dear Coach, I’ve come across the term compartmentalisation lately a lot and it seems to have either a negative or positive connotation depending on which angle you look at it from. It is usually seen as a mechanism to avoid cognitive dissonance. A friend of mine said to me the other day that she started …

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Goals for 2023 and Winter Part 2

Thanks for your response. Here are my thoughts on your questions. On reflection, the first goal and set of rocks works for me. It’s the second goal in particular that is causing my squirmishness. What do I see – too much; complicating things What do I think is lacking – specific actionables and outcomes (especially …

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Recovering from burnout

I’m recovering from a burnout from work . There are many reasons for the burnout , the work environment , my people pleasing tendencies, challenging projects, and tricky individuals and tricky projects. Im much stronger now , and slowly working towards going back to work . However there are certain individuals who were part of …

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Goals for 2023 and Winter

I’ve been really struggling with setting goals for myself for this year. There’s a lot of perfectionism coming up for me as I have a general sense of what this year is about and have done for some time, but I can’t seem to nail it into specific goals and rocks. I intentionally allowed myself …

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Creating Safety vs Buffering

The previous week, I took several massive, imperfect actions to get closer toward my goal for 2023 – to move to a new country and to find a job in a new industry. This is a special goal for me because the reason behind it is simply that I want to do this. It’s entirely …

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asking for a promotion

Last summer, after ruminating about this for quite a while, I asked my boss for more responsibilities in order to use my full potential and to keep growing. And I also asked for a promotion. My boss was very surprised by me requesting a promotion as before I had just quietly been doing my thing …

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Recognition

Hello again, I am working towards my goals that I set in January- I chose the word “Shine”. So far I’ve been really pleased with all the progress I have made regarding my goals. However, I have noticed that lots of the professional aims I have relate to being recognised- winning awards, getting featured etc …

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Goal setting

I’m getting stuck on which goal I should choose. I got to a place last year where I began to make decisions more clearly and knew what I wanted. But after having some time away from TFC I now feel like I’ve gone back to square one and feel scattered again. I don’t know whether …

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Possible neurodivergence Pt 3

Wow, well the coaching felt very eye-opening when you asked which part of me I am believing is real – the part with stage fright or the part that is delivering the class. It really got me thinking about what ‘real’ actually is. Objectively the more ‘real’ me is the one teaching. After all that’s …

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Struggling to be myself

Hello! New joiner to TFC here. I’ve just changed career. I worked hard to retrain over the past 18 months and I’m 2 weeks into my first full time job in the new industry. I’m enjoying the work and I’m proud of the steps I’ve taken to get to this point. But I’ve noticed that …

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