Terrified of putting myself in uncomfortable situations

Hello, I am in autumn

I used to be younger and braver, now I terrified of putting myself in any uncomfortable situation

Unintentional model
C Job openings at work
T I want to apply but I am not qualified
F not enough, judged, being looked down at
A not speaking to the current person holding the job to find out more
R staying in the dark, feeling resentful and not valued

Intentional
C Job opening at work
T I want to find out more
F candid, detached
A meet the current job holder to understand the scope, challenges, opportunities
Get more information
R better view to see if I want to apply
Putting myself out there despite fear of being seen/exposed

Answer:

Nicely done with your models, especially the intentional model (IM). One quick observation: in your UM, your F line doesn’t seem to be a solid match with your T line. I wonder if, based on your feelings, your T line has more to do with what you think others think of you? If not, and our Ts create our Rs, I’d wager that your R line in this model actually looks more like this: “I don’t apply because I don’t think I’m qualified.” What do you think? How can you rework this to connect your T and R?

I’d like to propose that there may be a third model that could be interjected inbetween your UM and your IM. It’s the one that might help you build a bridge between where you are and where you want to be. 

What are some thoughts that you could create and practice to help you honor where you are in your cycle and the experiences that come with it, and move closer towards towards your vision?

Notice how this helps breaks up the one big step between your UM and your IM and gives you time and space to be compassionate with yourself.

Try this exercise out and let us know what you discover!