Tolerating discomfort, motherhood and suppressed emotions

Hello, I am new to TFC. One of my principal reasons for joining is that I have become aware that I am not very good at tolerating discomfort. So I have signed up in the hope of learning how to ‘sit with my emotions’ and move through them. I current eat/drink/exercise my way away from them. Push them down, distract myself,eat all the sugar in the cupboards. Motherhood has brought up so much stuff I haven’t looked at before and there are times when my kids are the ones I take my anger and frustration out at. It feels so bad when this happens and so I want to learn how to have a healthy relationship with my emotions where I can just be OK with them being there… Rather than suppress them and then see them 10 fold later on in my autumn phase.

I have tried to find some material in TFC that covers top tips on this but haven’t been able to find it yet. I’ve done the harness your hormones and searched on the search box on previous coaching calls. Could you point me in the direction of where I should look? Or if you have any advice?

Many thanks.

 

Answer:

Welcome to TFC, we’re so glad you are ready to jump in and be vulnerable while you learn how to sit with and move through your emotions.

Check out the Creating Safety workshop, and the Buffering coaching calls as you have access to them now, and after your first month here, you’ll get access to the Self-Love and Creating Safety webinars, but for now… consider this:

Do you have any emotions that you think you have a good relationship with already? Which ones and why? Is it possible that you already have some idea of how to ‘just let an emotion be there’ based on this good relationship? If so, how?

What knowledge do you already have about your emotions that can inform the early days of learning how to get comfortable with discomfort?

Come back with your answer and let’s dig deeper!