2024 Intention: Get Playful With It – Part 8

Hiya Coach

“What was it like for you when you asked the questions of your siblings?” – Self assured, confident like taking control of my childhood a bit more, also a bit nervous of the result either way being ‘yes i had the same experience’ or ‘no i didn’t at all’, excitement at the solidarity of this discussion i’ve created, proud of the questions i chose cause it shows what i understand of myself and my experience in childhood (and how they link)

“You did accomplish the result, that’s a win, now you just get to decide what you want it to feel like before, during and after.” – Again, i think i am not understanding the coaching here. It’s not really a big deal to me these sibling conversations, so the feelings aren’t/weren’t a big deal. So i don’t see that there is anything to decide on how to feel. Can you elaborate?

“You also get to create care, protection and empathy for yourself (from part 5). If that’s what you want, what’s the next step you want to take to create it?” …. When in doom spiral, I think :
– initiate a pause, have a calming down mechanism.
– completely changing things up. E.G. if i’m inside, on a computer, i just get up and go outside for a couple minutes. To reset the mind.
– then inject a bit of fake it till make it playfulness/ lightness/ curiosity
– imagining doom-spiral Me, and how it is not something i want for myself in the near future (which helps bring out care, protection, empathy.)

…And out of the doom-spiral situation, I can:
– work on deeper self compassion and self trust (big ongoing job)
– work on respecting my need and calls for pause, instead of ignoring them and pushing through ‘just a bit more’ (also big ongoing job)

Thanks coach, back over to you 🙂

 

 

Answer:

Perfect. If the sibling conversation isn’t somewhere you need more coaching, celebrate yourself! The absence of brain drama is a win that can be easy to overlook.

For the doom spirals, this looks great. Check in with how your self-coaching feels to you. Try out your strategies. Experiment and adjust all the way to your goal!