2025 Vision and Goal & Rocks – moving house

I want some coaching on my 2025 vision and specifically my goal from now until spring. By end 2025 I want my family to be settled in our new home, my oldest to have settled into school and my youngest to have settled into a new nursery after six months somewhere else. I want to have cultivated rootedness in our new home and life. I want to have achieved a work life balance which favours and prioritises family during this year of big transitions.
Both the year vision and the spring goal are a blend of practical things – moving house – and the way I want to feel and how I want to show up for myself and my family during the process. During the visualisation part of Maisie’s ‘Cast your Vision for 2025’ the message from my future self was that the means and journey are as important as the end or, to put it another way, the way I reach my goal conditions the outcome. As in I need to stay connected and calm and manage anxiety and provide safety and security for family throughout the transitions to ensure we can all settle as quickly and deeply as possible.
Up until Spring:
Goal: We did it! (Moved house, kids in new nursery, back at work and I managed my anxiety during the transition, remained connected and provided safety and security for family throughout)
Rocks: each day, early in the day, take any action needed to progress move and then set aside
Rocks: focus on being present and this precious time with my baby
Rocks: Experiment with what works with helping manage anxiety and reduce angry outbursts building on existing non-negotiables (runs, yoga etc) and through identifying triggers for overwhelm and seeing if these can be avoided (for instance trigger can be trying to cook new recipe whilst looking after both kids when could just simplify what I’m cooking and make it all more manageable)
Any thoughts on this would be appreciated. It feels right in terms of the focus but also messy somehow (perhaps that’s okay?!)

 

 

Answer:

Messy is always ok.  Especially if having things laid out perfectly only keeps you stuck. What I notice in what you’ve written here is that you say “I need to stay connected and calm and manage anxiety and provide safety and security for family throughout the transitions to ensure we can all settle as quickly and deeply as possible.”
That word NEED sets off a red flag for me. What energy do you feel in this sentence? How is “need” really similar to having “shoulds” for yourself? What kind of pressure are you putting on yourself to create and manage this experience and a lot of emotions for your family?
It’s totally understandable to have this goal. It’s beautiful. Love the rocks as well. Just watch for underlying places where you are wanting to control things that may not be in your control. Watch for any resistance to reality and resistance to emotions. What emotions are you most afraid of during this time? What emotions do you not want your family to feel? What behaviour that may come from these emotions do you not want your family to act out?