Struggling with my relationship in my Autumn

Help! My autumns are so emotionally intense when I’m in a relationship that I scare my partners away. I’ve been with this new partner nearly one year and everything was flowing the first 6 months but I was making sure to stay by myself for the entire week before my period.

The last 6 months he convinced me to still see each other during my Autumns, which I agreed on but every month the mental stress got bigger and bigger. Anyone who is next to me during my Autumn, I turn it into a monster in my head, making me feel unsafe and wanting to run away.

My partner recognizes the cycle now and the effects it has on our mental health. We are exhausted from rebuilding our trust and love for each other every month and have it destroyed when I’m about to bleed.

We came to a point now where we are questioning the future of our entire relationship. I feel that my autumns are so emotionally intense that I will never be able to keep a long lasting peaceful and balanced relationship.

Answer:

Hey Flow-er,

I’m SO glad you brought this to AAC!

Did you know that you can change your mind? Whilst we always want to look at our thoughts, I want to remind you that it’s okay to change the circumstances – if it’s going to make things easier for you then why not give yourself that?

Let’s take a look at WHY you started seeing your partner the week before your period, because your partner didn’t convince you. He said some words and you convinced yourself.

What were the thoughts and feelings you had when he suggested that you spend that time together?

C: Partner says [insert the words he said to you]
T:
F:
A: Convince myself that we should see each other the week before my period
R:

I’d also encourage you to look at if it’s true that your trust and love is destroyed every month when you’re about to bleed, because that sounds like an exhausting thought to have.

Write back in with what comes up for additional coaching!