Feeling overwhelmed with big things in my life

Wow, what a great resource, so I’m giving a moment to celebrate this feature, I think I even put it on the feedback form of wanting more opportunity to get individual coaching, but I caveated it with, this will never be possible, and here it is, being possible!

So here is a thing, there are some ‘big things’ going on in my life, I am working on a big work project, making changes at home, recently relocating, building a physical community here, trying to build an online community , working on my relationship with my husband, working on my health and my relationship with myself, it all seems like a lot of ‘work’ and I woke up with so much overwhelm. I felt it in my chest.

I tried ‘I am not available for overwhelm’ on my thought line, but part of me feels like I am denying my emotions in this situation.

I am trying to focus on the results I need to create, to see how I can get there, with least amount of effort. All of the above results are things I wanted for myself, so I feel like i’ve bought this on myself. I am also incredible proud of the results I have created for myself.

I don’t want to burn out, I am recovering as someone who used to over work to compensate for my lack of enough ness, how can I do all these things, whilst taking care of myself, so many days I catch myself saying, ‘I never get an opportunity to catch up’, what an unhelpful thought.

Here are my models

C- Edits, writing, house renovations, air b n b, health, relationship , radical rest
T- There is so much good stuff, but I can’t do it all
F- Overwhelm
A-Hide away, literally in the attic
A-Focus on the wrong things
A-Buffer
R-It doesn’t get done

Intentional, but it doesn’t feel ‘right’

C- Edits, writing, house renovations, air b n b, health, relationship, radical rest
T-I’m not available for overwhelm
F- In control
A- Make a plan, focusing on results, work backwards and stick to it
A-Rest hard
A- Don’t remunicate
R- It gets done

it’s the F line ‘of feeling in control’ that doesn’t sit well with me, I know control is such a false friend because we can’t control everything, I’d like to be be able to get to ‘trust’ in myself and from a place of safety, but I’m not sure how to create that for myself. Thank you!

Answer:

First of all, we are celebrating with you! Everyone behind the scenes at TFC is very excited about the new features and opportunities for all of our members too. And in that spirit, let’s jump in…

Despite the fact that you don’t want to be available to overwhelm, it is an emotion that you are experiencing and it is as valid as any other feeling you experience. Emotions don’t go away just because we tell them we don’t have time for them. In fact, they tend to do just the opposite (but I think I’m preaching to the choir here…).

What might happen if you listen to the intuitive voice whispering that you might be denying this emotion and allow yourself to experience feeling overwhelmed without judgment or creating a story about what it means about how you’re doing your work? 

Think about tough emotions like dinner guests. What would you say to Overwhelm if it sat at your kitchen table and had an honest conversation with you? What would you have to learn from it? What advice would it offer? What would change if you looked Overwhelm square in the eyes with compassion?

Do a thought download by answering those questions and then bring back what you discover and we can take it from there!