30 day challenge- speaking kindly to myself

My 30 day goal is cultivating a kind inner dialogue everyday.

Day 22 – I experienced a really hard day 22. I couldn’t believe anything gentle, neutral or positive.

This is day 22 on HRT so my hormones are adjusting. Prior to HRT my cycle was 19 or 20 days so I’m experiencing a longer autumn.

I tried, “Step outside of yourself and observe.” I wanted to reject the vulnerable person I saw.
And a more positive “What if?” Which did help lift me. What if I can have the life I want?

Day 23 now and I feel anger. I don’t trust myself to be OK, to find and follow my inner intuition.

I wrote in the booklet to do it anyway . . . Find more neutral language

What do you suggest for these difficult moments?

 

Answer:

What is your definition of “kind?” Do a bit of exploring there. Notice any beliefs you are holding on to that might be making it harder to find your own answers.

I would also offer that you look at your goal. When you make a goal that is all or nothing, one bad day means you’ve failed. Of course it feels terrible and you want to give up. Try communicating the same goal without using “everyday.” See what you come up with. A helpful thought can be “I’m becoming a person who…. has a kind inner dialogue.”  How would that feel different?

Perhaps a kind inner dialogue can also be the absence of unkind inner dialogue. What would hard days be like if you just let them be hard?