A strange naivety – Part 2

About the healthy balance…

“What kind of change do you want to see within yourself when it comes to trusting or not trusting other people’s words?” —- i want to have a mental distance when i am hearing/reading the persons words so that i may analyse it. Far enough distance that i am not envelloped by the words – i can see my own perspective, and the context, and recollect important related information. And close enough distance that i am still present, empathetic, listening and connecting woth the person and their communication.

“What would tell you that you’ve struck the healthy balance you’re looking for?” —– increased certainty in relating to people that is closer to the truth, less ending up confused and blindsided by the outcomes of a situation, healthy distance in place as mentioned above, still able to be close and open with people, being guarded without it detrimental to who i am or my health, more confidence in being my open loving empathetic fun silly self.

That last answer feel messy. It is hard to answer.

My membership is ending on the 5th so i think i will only be able to read your reply and not answer. I know it is early days in this coaching. But anything on you think you can impart my to work on this issue will be much apprecisted!

 

Answer:

 

I wonder if you think you have to do this alone? Could one way to create that closeness and maintain your distance by asking questions? What are some go-to questions you could ask in your conversations where you notice yourself moving into the state where you sense a lack of clarity and closure? For example…

• Could you tell me more about…?

• Can I share what I’m hearing you say? Is that correct?

• What do you mean when you say _____?

If you think this would be helpful, what model would you have to be in to be able to ask those kinds of questions? Come back for more coaching before your membership lapses if it feels right for you at this time. Best wishes for your next chapter!