Accepting that some results take time – part 2

Thanks so much for your coaching on this!

With some time and space, I have realised that a part of me was operating from a place of urgency post-book rejection – this sense that I had to grow my following immediately, otherwise the time and money I invested in putting the proposal together last year would have been wasted… I think this was fuelling an impatient and negative urgency of it having to happen now now now, rather than giving myself space to enjoy the process of building an audience for my work online, which could actually be fun… and have a whole purpose to it in itself, even if I never pursued the book again.

I can also see how I was very much operating from a ‘threatened’ nervous system response. And I feel compassionately towards my self from that!

But when I tried those qus, I realised: I’m willing to take as long as it takes until I get the results! And I’m willing to do it because of my core why: which is that I believe in my work, and know that it can help people, so I want to keep putting it out there until it sticks and finds the right people.

I also love the idea of creating a process I LIKE for sharing my social posts and newsletter online…. thank you! Some initial thoughts on this include:
– Doing it on my terms – which means, not being ‘on’ all the time, or having to post at certain times of day and regularly on certain days, even though I’ve heard this can help you grow. I think this will just put me off at this point from doing anything, because it’s not perfect. And I don’t want social media to be my whole life. So I’d like to give myself that flexibility to post when and how much it suits me, while knowing the regular things I’d like to share (eg my published writing, a weekly roundup, monthly roundups etc).
– This also includes being able to take breaks from it without judging myself, on holidays and also when needed in my day to day life.
– Making it a fun date with myself – eg doing it in a coffee shop, or on the sofa with tv, or in the garden.
– Centring my why – where I don’t need likes to validate that, and trolls or lack of engagement therefore doesn’t mean anything about what I’m doing.
– Managing my mind when I post: that I’m excited to share this with my audience, I trust that if they don’t like it they’re not my audience and it’s good to weed them out, trusting my gut instinct about what I want to share, and making it fun! Trying to enjoy the process more. Enjoy taking up space and feel worthy of that. Do it messily and imperfectly. Then celebrate myself for doing it.
– A ritual that I do with something inward, after doing something external (esp if it is expanding my comfort zone) – like taking a break, watching tv, having a walk, having a meal or snack, a bath, talking to a friend = something nourishing to instantly top up my armour / fill up my cup….
– A celebration act, especially if it’s something comfort zone expanding or personally vulnerable.

Do you have any other insights about how I could optimise this process?
Many thanks

 

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What do you think about how this approach might optimize your process? What are you willing to try, review and revise and how often? We are not content experts, so can’t provide guidance when it comes to social media optimization, but we can help you find the way forward for you. One question to consider is, “What does the bare minimum for success look like to me when it comes to social media?” Bring back what comes up.

It sounds like you’ve outlined an exciting new way to approach your relationship to being visible on social media.