Annoying patriarchy 😅

Hello hi! I am wondering what is a helpful way to reframe the following feelings? I feel like there is much work that people who were socialised as females have to do to unwind the patriarchy norms that were imposed on us: we need to learn to take up space, set up boundaries, act on self love, etc etc. And while it is work that brings joy and must be done it is still a lot of thought work and somehow I am just angry that some people (men😅, #notallmen) don’t have to do. It feels like on top of our second shift this is the third one (do the worksheets, listen to lectures, pay flow collective memebership, etc etc). I am frustrated by the unfairness of this situation and it somehow takes some joy out of the process.

 

Answer:

Hello and hi to you! You are bringing some great questions to the table.

When you think, “It’s a lot of thought work that men don’t have to do,” and, “We [people who have been socialized as women] have to do the worksheets, listen to lectures, pay Flow Collective membership and it’s unfair,” it makes sense that joy wouldn’t be at the top of your list of feelings. When we think things are obligatory and unfair, it usually leads to feelings of resentment and anger. This is all tracking very normally.

I want to bring you back to this idea that the situation is unfair; why? Get really specific about this as I suspect there’s a treasure chest of thoughts and beliefs to explore which we are up for working through with you.

All humans suffer, we just all have different circumstances and thoughts.

And all humans suffer under patriarchy, including men… especially when they don’t have the tools and support to unwind the impact of it.