Autumn goal : inviting balance

Good morning,

After doing the emotion call with Maisie, my gut found a new autumn goal : to invite balance into my life

I have recently recovered from an eating disorder and worked a lot on rest, eating more and doing less sport. I went to therapy and sat with a lot of emotions. I feel proud of myself and feel ready to move forward gently.

I think I am now ready to meet myself in the middle and find my own balance in daily life.

I would like to work towards creating a daily life where joy is compatible with gentle sport and nutrition. I let go of a lot for a long time and am now ready to invite a gentle routine back into my life.

Things that need to be released for this are:
– 1 indecision around food. I feel very unsafe often from indecision around food. To give an example, I will be indecisive around what to eat and this will lead to a feeling of lack of control and make me feel panicked and result in unmindful eating or calculating calories or other bad habits. This then makes me feel like I have failed or guilt. And the cycle goes on! After the decision workshop I feel like having a flexible « plan » helps me. So making a bit of time in my days to stop and simply think about what would I like to eat. This is obviously flexible and does not need to be stuck to in a rigid way!

2 – During the emotion workshop: thoughts of beating myself up around my body, feeling ugly or too heavy, came up. And these thoughts felt safe. I have been used to them for a very long time. They now feel like a bad habit that just has become used to hanging around. I feel like they no longer serve me. I would like to start letting them go. I don’t want to attach an expectation to letting them go like loving myself overnight, but simply to startle releasing them gently.
I would love help to set a model that I could do when thoughts of hating my body become overwhelming…?

Soooo! My goal would be : inviting balance into my daily life

My rocks would be:
– bringing movement back into my life with joy
– making time for decisions in my day around food – and then moving on.
– thought work around bad body image

I would love your thoughts about this. These goals feel very new and feel right. At the same time I think I need reassuring. Thank you!

Answer:

Your best feedback for whether your goal is right is how your body responds when it thinks of inviting balance into your daily life – our guts are our second brains! You know better than anyone what is right for you. The wonderful thing about your rocks is that they are simply hypotheses about what might be most important for you to focus on in order to achieve your goal. If you notice that they start to impede your progress, you can examine why, and try something new from a place of love and curiosity – no shame in this game!
Think of how you’d like to feel when you notice your brain offering you thoughts about hating your body and feeling overwhelmed by it. What would you have to think to create this feeling? What actions would you take? What would you not do? What result would you create by doing and not doing these things? Come back to us when you’re ready for more coaching on this with a submission titled, “Inner Balance Goal, pt. 2”