Becoming someone who raises money

I’m leaving the realm of raising money through friends and family and entering into the raising money from strangers and investment companies. I am thinking about this with drive but absolute terror and feelings of impending doom. With friends and family it was so vomity. After every no I had to go to bed and there were a lot of nos. With every yes there is this extra mix of dread/shame/pressure with the ‘yay my business can keep growing’ feeling. I hate raising money it makes me depressed and miserable, no one would know that other than my husband who sees the toll it takes. I love my business. I want to think about this differently. My model attempt is:
C: my business needs money to expand
T: I don’t know what to do
F: fear
A: I go into meetings with dread or I put it off for as long as possible

Intentional:
C: my business needs money to expand
T: I’ve raised over 75k on my own
F: proud
A: I find investors, I set up meetings as soon as possible, I walk in knowing I can do it.
Writing these things out it looks right but I still hate the idea, I feel cold and sick and sad and I want to feel the opposite.

 

Answer:

First of all, I’d like to say that it’s totally okay to need to go to bed after getting a no. If bed is a safe place for you and you’re drained from feeling vulnerable, it makes sense that that’s where you’d go for comfort and rest. No shame in that game, though I wonder why hearing “No” sends you to this place, and where the feelings of dread, shame and pressure come from when you get a “Yes”. Both words are small words, but hearing them is having a significant impact. It also makes me wonder what your thoughts about money are. Take some time to inspect what each of these words mean to/for/about you or your business by doing a thought download for each word (C1: Hearing a No when I ask for money for my business, C2: Hearing a Yes when I ask for money for my business). What do your answers reveal to you? Come back for more coaching when you’re ready with a follow up submission titled, “Raising Money pt. 2”