Being kinder without shoulding myself – part 2

Thank you for the coaching.

In terms of my motivation for being kinder, I think part of this has come from my seasonal goal to explore what it means to me to be a women. I’ve been thinking about traits that can be considered more feminine, such as being nurturing and kind, and how sometimes they can be undervalued compared to other traits. So in a way it must have been that thinking that led me to being so open to and inspired by the person who was kind to me, when previously I may not have noticed to the same extent. I think my motivation is also coming from a desire for more meaningful connections with others, which seems kind of selfish in a way,as opposed to being kind for altruistic reasons.
I’ve come up with the below intentional model:

C: Interaction with another human
T: This is a person with thoughts, feelings and all their own stuff going on
F: Compassionate
S: Softening, aware of my heart in my chest
A: Slow down, smile and make eye contact as I greet them, don’t be purely transactional in interaction, notice their body language, respond to them rather than following a script in my own head
R: show up with kindness

I will put this into practice

 

 

Answer:

 

I wonder if the result is that yes, you show up with kindness, but you also give yourself the opportunity to see the people around you in the most human light and respond in a way that honors that. What do you think? It is interesting to note that you want to show up with kindness, and the way that goal comes out is about seeing the people around as very human. I wonder if it gives you permission to explore your own humanness in this process as well.

Let us know how it all goes! We’re rooting for you (and for kindness)!