Thank you so much for your answer. I think you’re right in pointing out that I might feel overwhelmed. It was actually a relief to hear that I don’t have to rush this process. Maybe because it’s my birthday in a couple of weeks, I’ve been putting a lot of pressure on myself to make huge steps. So thank you for your considerate answer. I’ve been thinking a lot about what grounded means to me. When I go for a walk in the park or during/after yoga, I usually feel very grounded. I’m in my body, I can see things clearly, I know what I want and I feel calm and content. I also manage to connect with strangers in small ways (smiling at them, laughing about a funny situation etc.). I guess if I could feel like this when interacting with men, this would be great. For now, I would like to practice feeling like this when I interact with other people in general. I’m a recovering people-pleaser so I think if I practice to be more myself (and less influenced by others) when interacting with colleagues, friends, etc. this could help me when I decide to date men. I don’t have a particular question, but if you notice anything, I would be grateful for your feedback. Thank you!
Answer:
Great awareness, curiosity and openness. This is what it’s all about. Celebrate you for dropping judgement!
It might be helpful for you to keep this momentum going at a really comfortable pace by picking a few ladder thoughts between
I’m very reserved around men and I feel totally calm and content around men
Try on some of these and see how they resonate:
I’m becoming a person who…
It’s possible I could feel as grounded around men as I do after yoga
Every interaction is an opportunity to become more me.
I notice myself thinking I am reserved around men and I love me anyway
I notice myself thinking I am reserved around men and…
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