Recap from pt. 1: So, my next questions are: how I want to celebrate this high jump? What is my unique way of honouring this experience? And what do I need to integrate this remarkable experience fully? It is important to me to make its something empowering because it has been so ambivalent – lots of good but also lots of bad. I feel like it has cost me a lot and I don´t feel like I fully integrated this expericene.
Answer:
Love that this concept has resonated with you and given you a powerful way to look at what’s happening. As with any new idea, there is lots to learn as we apply it. How can you set yourself up to explore how you want to celebrate it? What feeling would you choose to drive you to continue integrating fully? How will you know when that has happened?
I would gently offer that you notice this pattern of getting excited, going for something, and then feeling a bit stuck may be coming up in your final questions as well.
As Maisie said: “When you bring all these phases together, you create a sustainable rhythm. It’s not about getting stuck in one phase or certainly not forcing yourself to move through them faster. It’s just about knowing how to cycle through them again and again in a way that works for you.”
How can you give yourself space to learn and apply this in your own way?
I´ve been contemplating this topic and here is what I got:
The feeling I want to drive to fully integrate is a mix of pride of going for it and going all in (because I wanted to) and a deeply respectful acknowledgement of what my system is capable of giving as well as what it needs to recharge fully. Because these are two sides of the same coin – which is so obvious, yet this was a major revelation to me now.
I have the tendency to do a solid prep, then go all in on the jump and clear it well, and then I ran into issues.
However, my natural inclination after a high jump is to rest deeply and intentionally. If I don´t allow for any external distractions and expectations, that is what my whole system naturally does. It´s amazing to me how deep I can rest and how braindead and sluggish I can become. I´ve been testing this a bit, and my conclusion is that the best thing I can do for my self is to create and fiercly protect sufficient space for my system to swing into the opposite extreme for a certain time, in fact for as long as it needs to. If I do a high jump, then completely dropp into my natural need for rest fully and withdraw from the world completely, this actually feels really nice, peaceful, loving. It feels like sleeping when tired or eating when hungry, drinking fresh water when thursty.
Also, I noticed that most people around me operate in a rather continuous way and seldomly do high-jump-things. This might explain the lack of understanding of my recovery-needs. This is also an important revelation, because this means that I have to be very clear on my boundaries and fiercly protect them. The riding away phase seems like things are becoming more level again, as opposed to the one or the other extreme.
That´s what I found. Any ideas and insights on that?
Answer:
This seems like such a good thread to tug on and untangle! Look at that self-awareness blooming!
“The best thing I can do for myself is to create and fiercely protect sufficient space for my system to swing into the opposite extreme for…as long as it needs to.” You already have a hunch about what will work for you. Now it’s time to practice your landing.
As with any athletic endeavor, we can practice each component of a move by isolating it and doing drills. If you had to guess, how could you, figuratively speaking, isolate ‘the landing’ and start practicing how you protect sufficient space for your system so when it’s time for the real deal, you have the moves down and what you have to do is what you’ve been practicing in the days and months leading up to it?
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