Can’t Get Excited About Things When There A No/Vague Plans – Part 2

The reasons I gave myself for not booking the ferry myself are:
– There are two ferry companies, and one is more convenient for the other side than the other but I’m not sure which is the one we needed to book with.
– My partner knows somebody that can get us better prices, but I do not know them so can’t contact them.

I went along with my partner saying that it would be fine and there would be lots of spaces. He has been to the IoW at Christmas before so although I didn’t believe that there would be space, I trusted his comments and didn’t trust my gut feeling and previous experience with being relaxed about plans and it not going to plan.

It didn’t serve me to not book the ferry, although I believe that I did have some good reasons for wanting my partner to do it (knowledge of where we are going and financial) but yes I still CHOSE not to book it myself.

I do feel like I was waiting to be able to say I told you so, even though I never actually said those words to him. I was waiting to be proven right, whatever that meant. I think I wanted to be proven right that planning in advance is better and less stressful. And I WAS right, but it doesn’t feel good for me, as I now have to deal with some of the stress of having to find a plan B. Is this a form of self sabotage?

 

 

Answer:

It sounds like being a human. Give yourself lots of compassion. Love the part of you that wanted to say “I told you so.” And the part that didn’t follow your gut for all the reasons.

What if figuring out Plan B didn’t have to be stressful? What if it was fun and you believed everything would fall into place as it’s supposed to?

What could you learn about your ability to make up plans at the last minute that could serve you in the future?

What can you learn about following your gut in the future?

What if you’re right on track for a little Holiday magic to come your way?