Career concerns p1

Hi, back in October me and my partner started having issues in the London flat we were renting and decided to temporarily move to a flat we own 4 hours north while trying to sell it. It seemed like a good idea at the time as we’d save money, and our work normally wind down around Xmas anyway and we’d spend time with family. Cut to present time we’re still living there though we only thought we’d be there a few months. As the flat hasn’t sold we’re now decided to rent it out, so we can move back to London asap. I’m writing cause I’m really struggling and have been for a long time since we moved back. I’m the creative industry so it’s very much up to me to drive progress and success, and I feel my career has taken a hit from not being in London. Yesterday I had a meeting with my management which said “it’s important we don’t lose momentum”- which crushed me cause that’s exactly what I’ve been feeling- that I, my career, my life has LOST momentum. Also driving up and down to London with my partner 2-3 days every week, staying in expensive hotels in different locations, being exhausted, not really having a solid base is causing arguments and stress between me and my partner. And I’ve also experienced that my confidence and sense of safety is pretty low. I don’t know where to start- but I want some help/ a way of working with this. I know we’re making moves, trying to rent out the flat and talking to estate agents etc, but it feels like my world is moving in slow motion while the rest of the world is in full speed. I feel hopeless, slightly depressed and have this thought that I’ve really damaged my career and that it’s all downhill from now/ beyond repair…

 

Answer:

 

Let’s look at this thought, “I’ve damaged my career beyond repair.”

C: Traveling to and from London since October, career, call with management, said, “It’s important we don’t lose momentum.”
T: I’ve damaged my career beyond repair
F: Hopeless
S: Where does this show up in your body?
A: What do you do when you feel this way and think this thought?
R: What result do you create in this model?

Let’s start here, gather some data, and see if we can shine some more light on the situation. What do you notice about yourself in this model? What do you think about the thought in this model and is it 100% true? Why or why not?

It’s important (albeit sometimes painful) to remember that life is 50/50 when it comes to having positive and difficult experiences of life. This does not mean that all is lost, or irreparable – it means you are a human learning about what works for you, and how to navigate a challenging circumstance. You are in the right place, and we are here to help you uncover your path through it.