Childhood money mindset

Hi,
I have been thinking about my relationship with money and the impact of childhood on this, as I think it is affecting how I show up with money as a freelancer.
One part is that money was always a big worry for my parents when we were children. So I internalised this, and I think it explains a strong link between the need for money and financial stability to feel safe or happy or successful. Hence the low earnings in my business in my first year have felt destabilising and emotionally scary…. Like, I can’t talk about it without crying sometimes?!
Also I remember feeling ashamed of our financial situation as a child, especially as we used to bootsale for extra money. And I wonder if this links to the shame I’ve felt around my earnings this year and not being able to open up to friends due to this.
Plus, I have noticed that my parents have this unworthiness around money. I remember a family friend going to give me and my sister money as children and my mum saying no keep it, very vividly. And this sinking feeling of not being worthy of it. There are other instances I can think of around this.
Do you have any ideas about how I can heal these money memories – so that I CAN feel valid about asking for money and more of it, in my business now?
Many thanks

 

Answer:

Money mindset – such a great thing to dive into for coaching! Maisie has a great webinar on this in the membership – have you watched it yet? It will be so helpful for you! There are all kinds of thoughts that you can create about money and hang onto over the course of life. Now is the phase where you examine where your beliefs came from and offer yourself a different path.

What do you think the versions of you that felt ashamed about and unworthy of having money are trying to protect you from right now? What does the version of you who wants to heal this part of you have to learn from them? What do you want to say or offer to those protective parts?

This is a journey – you’re welcome to revisit this over time, ask yourself compassionate questions, and excuse the thoughts that you’re not willing to let dictate your course from the driver’s seat whenever you need to.