children age gap pt2

I think being close in age means to me is that they will be close in relationship, they will see life together and do similar things at similar time and they would want to play together and not have a relationship where one takes care of the other.
The funny things is that me and my sis are close in age and there is still a big sister taking care of little sister element.

I feel sad that they arent likely to have games to play together with the eldest likely to think youngest games are boring.
I feel sad when I watch my daughter interacting with her baby nephew and knowing that she could of been like that with our baby.

To me a bigger age gap means less closeness, not playing together in a mutual way and them always wanting different things. So there would be less of a unified family group.

I can see in here there is a lot of thought errors, there is not way of know what there relationship will be like nor how it would of been if I hadn’t had miscarriage.

 

Answer:

Great work looking at what you are making this mean. Give yourself a lot of compassion. Losing a baby is losing a dream and a vision you had of the future. It’s ok if it takes some time to adjust to something different.

As you look at what you’ve written here, and you notice these sentences running through your brain, what’s the most loving thing you can do for yourself?

You’re absolutely right, we can’t know. We never know, but our brain thinks it does. How could being wrong be the best thing for you? What would be different if you allowed your imagination to start making small shifts to seeing a future where your family is beautiful, no matter what all the details are?