Coaching out of coaching pt. 2

Thanks for the follow up question of why might I choose to submit a question even when I don’t ‘need’ to.

I touched on this previously, that outside perspective is useful no matter how confident I am in doing models. To expand on that, there will always be things that others can see more clearly/ quickly than me because I can only see through my experience by definition. I can’t completely step away and look back at myself; my models might give me a new perspective but they are still seen through the same lens (so interesting, my photography final project is on perspective).

Another reason to submit anyway is because it helps me build the habit. Although I’ve built up the ability to do the model, I don’t always do it. Building this habit is a goal I have set for the next couple of month and I’ve set a target of once a week to start with. I can use ask a coach and the visibility/ accountability of the community to help me with this. I’m not surprised this goal came up after letting this topic percolate for a few cycles.

I can also see that I might not always feel the way I do now about being good at models. Like the way I find a new song which I flash out on, and can’t image at the time that I won’t be listening to it as much/ at all in the months and years to come. There migth be areas of my life/ new things that come up that might bring me to the model with a beginners mind set, and support could help me through that and back to feeling confident again.

And, the value I get is linked to what I want from ‘the thing’. What I’ve identified is that what was valuable to me 2 years ago is differrent to is valuable to me now, and that what ever the frequency or level of interaction, I get to decide if the thing is still serving me based on me now, not me of the past.

Will follow up on the why I’m going to disappointment about not submitting coaching questions in a separate submission 🙂

Answer:

It sounds like you have very clear reasons for wanting to continue to build this habit and skill. What are the predominant feelings that you feel as you go through each thought or reason you might ‘submit anyway’ that you have listed here? How can you hang on to or remember those feelings and reasons when you find that you are not submitting coaching questions and feeling disappointed (and do it without, or with minimal self-judgment)?