Collaboration with colleagues

Hello, I think I’ve just had a breakthrough with a model concerning the collaboration with some colleagues and I would love some feedback. A few weeks ago, I submitted a question about how to deal with family members when then say something I disagree with. A coach suggested that I put “unconditional love” in the F line. I find it quite difficult to interact with some colleagues because I experience the interactions as quite draining and exhausting. Based on the model with regard to my family members, I also created an intentional model concerning my colleagues where I put “unconditional love” in the F line and I’m quite pleased with the outcome of this model.

C: collaboration / interactions with x and y
T: I can lovingly set boundaries and decide how I want to interact / collaborate with them
F: unconditional love for myself and others
A: I lovingly set boundaries
A: I focus on my goals
A: I focus on working together in a constructive and cooperative way
R: peace
R: calm
R: capacity to focus on my goals + help others

I’m quite amazed by this because I have a tendency to withdraw in case of conflict and this model allows me keep interacting with certain people in a way that feels good to me and respects my boundaries. I’m curious what you think about this model. Thank you!

 

 

Answer:

Isn’t it fun when your brain starts making connections like this? Great work noticing how to apply unconditional love in a work setting so you get to enjoy that feeling.

In our models, thoughts create feelings. Your thought may bring up multiple feelings but we still just pick one per model as you have done. Our actions create our results. In this case the result I would offer is R: I take care of me at work.  This changes everything because we take our power back and decide on purpose how we want to feel and how we want to show up instead of expecting our job/coworkers to do it for us.  In this way you increase your capacity to focus on your goals and help others. This is a cycle that will serve you so well as you implement it. The more you practice, the more you will see the results you want, which will increase your self confidence.

If you did have the result of taking care of yourself at work while feeling the unconditional love, is there anything else you want to put in the A line to help you accomplish this? Things you will do or not do?  Keep celebrating and use that breakthrough energy to take your model and put it into practice. We’d love to hear how your “experiment” goes here or in the community.