Decision on when to start IVF

I’m trying to decide whether to go ahead with my first round of IVF, which is booked in for January, or delay it by a month. I already have one child but we have struggled to conceive a second. I am about to turn 42, and given my age feel like I need to get on with it as soon as possible. But I am in a really difficult patch stress-wise for a whole load of reasons (work and life). My period came 10 days early this month, which gave me quite a shock, and my doctor thinks it is likely due to all the stress. So I’m thinking about delaying the IVF by a month to give me time to reduce my stress levels and feel better mentally and physically first. I know logically that a month’s delay isn’t a big deal. But I feel this internal pressure to get on with it, as it’s taken a long time already to get to this point. I feel guilt already about being an older mum, without delaying things further. And I had wanted to have a second child closer in age to my first than would be possible now even if the IVF works, so as each month has ticked past with no luck I have had to let go of that vision for my life. I’d love some coaching on letting that go and looking forward.

 

Answer:

When you have a decision to face where there doesn’t seem to be a best answer, a wonderful question to ask yourself is, “If there was no possible way that I could make the wrong choice for myself in this situation, what would I do?” The thing that is standing in between you and that decision are your thoughts.
Knowing what you’d do if you couldn’t make the wrong choice, and that the thing that is between that choice and where you are now are your thoughts, what would happen if you lead with a feeling of love or respect for your needs and desires? What actions would you take from that place? What thoughts would fuel one or both of those feelings? What would your result be?
C: Decision about IVF date
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F: Love or Respect
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