Defining success

I am trying to define what feeling successful would look like for me. What does it mean for me to be a success?

I did a thought download on “Success” and got heterosexual white man, finance, money, yacht, sport, big house.

Obviously external and nonsense for me, but quite amusing.

Could you recommend any workshops on this that I can watch in the replay?

I honestly don’t know what success would look like for me. I’ve listened to the podcast, practicing wanting and the things I want are so nebulous, they’re impossible to pin down into actions!

R: I feel secure, financially and emotionally

That’s the whole flow collective training!?

 

Answer:

 

It’s so interesting to start to explore new things for ourselves isn’t it? Defining what success might look like from the outside, even if it seems like amusing nonsense, is a place to start. It can help you understand where your ideas of success align with you and what you value versus what aligns with what you’ve been socially moulded to idealize as markers of success.

With the R that you created, feeling secure, financially and emotionally, is a great place to start to get curious about what that actually means. What does financial security mean to you? Get specific. What number do you want to see in your bank account? What assets does that mean you might have? What does your paycheck look like and how often? What can you pay for comfortably in this secure place? Similarly, what does emotional security mean to you? What would be different for you if you were emotionally secure? How would you engage with the world, yourself, and others? How would you handle hard emotions? Who would choose to surround yourself with?

Getting curious and doing thought downloads on these two things can reveal helpful guideposts on your path to defining what success means to you. In the meantime, I’d recommend looking into the call replays and searching the word, “success”. There is a lot of coaching within the workshops (like the Get It Done Workshop, and Shatter Your Limiting Beliefs Workshop) that address defining success and what might help you achieve that. Mars led a Success Intolerance Workshop that might helpful for you as well. You can also go to the community to share what you’ve brought here and glean some insights about how other people have defined success! Keep digging into this. You’re on a fun path.