Desire Pt 4

Thank you so much for your answer. It really resonated with me. I’ve been in a (mental) rut lately. I’ve been ill and exhausted and felt lonely. And then I read this story of a group of friends at a college and felt nostalgic and had this idea in mind of how relationships should look like. I’ve made the fact that I have this desire mean that I failed previously. But you’re absolutely right, it doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with me.

I’ve used my desire to connect with two of my closest friends who I’ve known for a really long time and this has really warmed my heart. We don’t see each other every day but I’ve realized that they “see” and support me (and, hopefully, vice versa) and I’m just really, really grateful to have them. They mean a lot to me. So I noticed my desire wasn’t just about a romantic partner, but about more connection in general.

With regard to a romantic partner, I will try to keep my heart and eyes open. I used this mantra in another context and it was really helpful. At the moment, I’m feeling really good because I had some really fulfilling interactions (and my period arrived a few days ago so some of my PMS symptoms have lifted). Now I want to use this momentum and strengthen this light-hearted approach so that my old thought patterns don’t come back so easily.

Thank you so much for helping to shift my perspective!

Answer:

Wonderful news on all fronts – seeking out and feeding fulfilling connections, mantras, and using natural energy shifts to fuel your movement. So good!

It might be worthwhile to note what about the interactions were fulfilling. Did they have anything in common? What made them special? And, how can you easily remember or call in your mantra? I’m a big fan of post it notes in places you frequent (the front door, the bathroom mirror, a laptop, etc). Keep up the great work and come back to us for more coaching on this when your need arises.