Desire Pt II

Thank you for your answer. It’s interesting what a story can bring up. 🙂

I have this very dominant thought that the best time to find a partner has passed. At the same time I think that it’s now going to be really difficult / awkward to meet someone. (For example, I tell myself that I won’t be able to meet someone “on the street” because it’s difficult to tell my age whereas in school / uni we were all approximately the same age range… Or I tell myself that it’s now too late to really get to know someone because everyone has had so many life experiences…)

I also wish that I would have had a partner during some difficult periods I was going through when I was younger because I wish my partner would have noticed earlier and helped me. I think that’s a big one for me: I wish I had someone by my side who really knows me since childhood / adolescence.

I’ve dwelled on these thoughts for a while now, but I know they are not going to help me.

So maybe it’s time to find some other thoughts:

– I can still find my person.
– I wish I had met someone earlier and I can still find my person.
– I always had different people who supported me during different periods and I’m very grateful for them.
– I’m curious about what will come next.
– I can take the blessings that are in front of me AND give space to the desire for a romantic partner.

You asked what I could use my desire for if it wasn’t a problem: I would use it to be open for the opportunities that might come up now. I would allow myself to see opportunities. I wouldn’t make my desire mean that I’ve failed previously but simply that there is something I want now and that’s available for me.

I would really appreciate your feedback. Thank you!

Answer:

Love this exploration. So powerful. Something that stood out to me to continue looking at is this statement:

I wish I had someone by my side who really knows me since childhood / adolescence.

Why?

What would you get to feel if you had a relationship with someone who has known you for a long time?

What thoughts would you have about someone who knew you for a long time?

What story do you have about length of time known vs quality of the relationship?

Is there someone in your life that you look up to who has a relationship with someone they’ve known a long time?

See what you find!