developing a helpful relationship with my cycle

Hey AAC,
I´m working on improving my relationship with my cycle and I want to try new things to improve symptoms. I´ve been struggling with my cycle since my mid 30s and this became rather restricting and painful. Since some years, the luteal phase of my cycle can feel like such a drag. I´ve become more insecure regarding which goals to go for in my life because I feel quite limited by the experience of my cycle.
I´d like to improve my relationship with my cycle from the currently negative opposition to it. Would love your coaching on this.

UM:
C: I am a woman with a cycle
T: This is such a pain in the ass and it regularly holds me back on all levels, I hate it
F: anger, exhaustion
S: tension or pain in my ovaries and uterus
A: I deliberately ignore my needs which change across the cycle. I expect myself to be consistently well and energized. I don´t try new things and supplements that have helped other women. I don´t care for the changing needs and I don´t want them to be real.
R: I am annoyed by my cycle and it is creating all sorts of problems for me, such as an unpleasant autum and intense PMS.

IM
C: I am a woman with a cycle
T: It´s possible to have a healthy, joyful, fun, productive life when having a cycle
F: hope
S: relief, relaxation
A: I test new strategies and stick to what works for me. I accept the autumn phase of the cycle as an experience that is equally valuable in my life. I expect myself to move though very different experiences throughout my cycle and am prepared to tend to very different needs at different times. I deliberately uncover things I like about each phase and enjoy them.
R: I move though the phases of my cycle without resistance and grace and enjoy my life.

 

Answer:

I want to offer something that might sound odd, but my question to you is: Do you want to have a cycle? If no, what are you willing to do to accomplish that goal?

If yes, how can it be very powerful to acknowledge that you CHOOSE this? What are the benefits of having a cycle for you?

Your models look good. Just be sure to keep them simple. One thought, one emotion word and then follow it through. You will always have many models on the same issue. Your intentional model looks good. You will probably need some ladder thoughts and goals to get you from where you are to where you want to be. What do you think would be your best next step?