Hi,
I’m considering freezing my eggs, but something is holding me back. I’m 31, single & in a unique situation where I might be able to do it for free (in return for writing about the process).
One level that is stopping me is needle phobia and not being sure if i could handle that… although I do have flatmates (plus local friends who are doctors) who might be able to help. But it still scares me all of the medical procedure stuff!
Also, I’m nervous about the hormonal impact on me – especially while I’m going through a time of intense moves in my business, trying to get that back on track after a period of struggling. So there is a fear of it derailing that.
But also, I’m worried that it will result in me finding out that I have a low fertility — I’m not even sure if you get told this as part of the tests — but I fear this will make it harder with dating as feeling more pressure on things.
Btw, I’m not even sure if I want children, but it’s not a definite no — and I would like to keep my options open.
I’m not in the mood for dating right now and happy with taking a break (it feels much needed) while I focus on my career goals. But this feels like an action I could take that would empower me when I do go back into dating, because I’d maybe feel less pressure on it having done what I can in this area to future proof my fertility.
Essentially I’d like to be operating in a model of power, where I see this as taking control of my options — but I think I’m in a fear-based one, which is resulting in me not taking action at all. And not even finding out the practical info on it to answer those qus.
Do you have any tips on reframing this?
Many thanks
Answer:
How can you shift “something is holding me back” into a more powerful statement? Keep everything the same. Tell a different story.
What is your compelling reason to freeze your eggs? Is getting it for free enough to overcome the obstacles? What is your inner wisdom telling you?
If this was going to be perfect either way, what would you decide?