Egg freezing dilemma – part 2

Thank you for your coaching on this! It was very interesting to remove the concept of money out of the equation. And I have rebranded this for myself as ‘right now, I’m gathering the information that I need to make a decision’.
My most compelling reason for egg freezing is that I’m single, choosing to prioritise building my business – and would like to extend the time window where I could decide about having a family and this be an option for me. It would be a gift of more choice for my future self, if I met someone I could see myself having a family with in the future. (And even though I’m fully aware of the low success rate, it is still increasing the options more than doing nothing.)
My inner wisdom is telling me to do it… But the timing is a question for me – from just doing some quick research, I can see that for some women it can be a painful process, and it sounds like it’s at least for a month, with one cycle of the freezing. So I’m not sure right now is the best time, when I’m kickstarting a new business tax year for myself!
My instinct is this:
– I want to do it, as a powerful gift for my future self.
– But right now, it’s not a good time for me – I would like the space to start this new business year without the extra stress of it. (As income generation has become more of an immediate priority for me, after a period of earning less and struggling).
– However, I would like to explore this more soon – and maybe re-assess next season or in 6 months.
– That next step would be to book a discovery call with a clinic to gather more info on the qus I have (I have made a list). – although I’m torn about whether I should do that sooner!
– And that this is something I’d like to do this year, having recently turned 31. Just not quite yet! Once I’m feeling more stable and resourced in my work.

This sits well with me. But the main fear I have is still, what if I find out I have low fertility and the impact that could have on me – from research this seems to be part of the process, and needed to make it most effective….. Because this could make me freak out about dating, and i’m not feeling ready to date right now, so it could cause unnecessary panic and pressure going into it.

Essentially, my instinct is park this for now and come back to – maybe that is enough?!

Any tips on unravelling this?
Many thanks

Answer:

It sounds like you’ve done some great exploring and you have some good direction here. What if you leaned in to trusting yourself? How is this an opportunity to build that muscle that you’ll definitely need as you continue on with your personal and family goals?

Freezing your eggs is a circumstance. Any information you get about your fertility will also be a circumstance. None of it makes you freak out, feel panic or feel pressure.  What does?