Embracing ADHD chaos

Hi,
As mentioned in a recent ask a coach, I have been wondering if I have adhd – or rather, i am sooo sure I have it and it’s like so much is slotting into place and makes total sense…
Whether or not I get a diagnosis formally, i would like to embrace this self-knowledge in a powerful way… and use it to make positive changes in my life.
One thing is taking steps to find practical systems that can support me and researching this.
But another is the mindset aspect, which is maybe about accepting myself for the things I find hard and the things that are my gifts… Specifically, the more chaotic sides of myself!
Eg: what if it ok that my to do lists are a crazy out of control wild west…… or that I have ideas all the time…. and don’t always remember to do xyz….
These are things I’ve beat myself up for, for a long time. And it’s also been sources of friction with other people, parents, friends etc. I feel like i’m seeing it all with a new perspective and it is radical….
I would like to remove the beating myself up aspect to this, and replace with radical self-acceptance – and practical support. As well as accepting the way I do things and that they are valid and ok as they are, instead of trying to fit myself in specific boxes.
Do you have any wisdom that I can take as I embark on this reframing journey?
Many thanks

 

Answer:

Sometimes when a radical change or new understanding comes into our lives, it’s tempting to revamp EVERYTHING ALL AT ONCE. What if you were to start with examining how you could do one thing differently? If it didn’t matter what you focused on first (because it will inevitably ripple out to other parts of your life), where would you begin?