End of friendship processing – PART 2

Whoa. Thank you for your coaching.
Something surprising came up when I stood back from it all. It hit me that I have stood up for myself, honoured my wants and needs, and walked away from a relationship in my life that was no longer serving me: that was making me unhappy and actively causing harm in my life.
This is part of wider shift that has happened in the last few years for me, where I have found the courage to stop accepting mistreatment and crumbs from people from a place of low self-worth – starting with relationships with family but also in romantic relationships too – after putting up with being treated like shit and not standing up for myself for years, always de-valuing myself.
Through this lens I can see that this ending of a friendship is a brave and successful outcome. There is no problem with how things are: I’m happier without them in my life, and I’m still able to maintain our mutual friendships, albeit in different types of group settings. I have not lost anything I was not ready to lose.
I think I have a tendency to pressure myself to do ‘the right thing’ from a perfectionist standpoint, but actually, this person hasn’t initiated a ‘breakup chat’. Why do I need to?
I am open to having it in future if I change my mind, or if it comes up organically, but right now, this is enough for me.
This feels kind of radical?!

Answer:

So fun! How does radical feel in your body? What do you notice that shifted when this “hit you?” What have you created all along the way that is allowing you to be this version of you today? Thank your past self!