Fear of perimenopause

Hi
I’ve started to experience brain fog and fatigue and am perimenopausal age. I feel overwhelmed and scared by it – because I wanted to become a mum and haven’t been able to and because I had long covid for 2 years and was seriously unwell and I lost of lot of life due to fatigue. I’ve just ordered Maise’s book and booked a GP appointment to try and get some support and knowledge so I can approach it a bit differently.
I can’t see any good coming from this stage, just loss and I know that is very black and white thinking and unhelpful. Can you help me make a start in softening around this? I am compassionate with myself in taking the magnitude my lack of children seriously but I don’t want to conflate this with my symptoms and how I feel.
Thanks

Answer:

I can also see the black-and-white thinking about what this next phase of life can mean for you in this submission – good self-awareness there. That being said, you’re also correct that perimenopause is a period of loss – all change involves loss. If you consider allowing yourself to grieve what has and will change for you through this time, even though you logically know that’s not all that’s in store for you, what comes up? Notice any thoughts and feelings or sensations that emerge.

What if it’s totally legitimate to feel scared of and overwhelmed by these changes? Can you see those feelings through a lens of love, compassion and understanding?