fear of the unknown pt. II

Is it true that I couldn’t handle it, if anything went wrong?
Probably it’s not true. No matter what happens, you will always find a solution in the end and ways to cope with it and get better.

For me I guess the thought of potentially not having control over things is the worst and it leaves me spiralling. I usually go into freeze mode. I know that this is technically still a way of “handling” things. But I have a lot of shame about it because there would be “better” ways and it feels unnecessary. I struggle with going into dorsal vagal at all and accepting that. I find it hard to get out of this state, so it makes me feel really stuck.

 

 

Answer:

This is truly a beautiful opportunity to continue working on your relationship with yourself. Notice how you say you fear not having control over things, but what we most fear is feeling uncomfortable feelings. What do you think you would do if you were faced with uncomfortable feelings? In what ways are you judging yourself? Do you notice shame coming up a lot?

The way to stop a spiral is to ground yourself in what you know is true. You know you best. What if you leaned into truly believing that you always find a solution? What tools do you already have available to you? What is awesome about you and how you tackle life? Can you thank and appreciate your nervous system for everything its doing to protect you? When you keep practicing loving and trusting yourself, everything gets clear. What do you think?