fear of the unknown pt. III

Hi Coaches!
Yay me for coming back to this topic and answering your questions!

What do you think you would do if you were faced with uncomfortable feelings?
I avoid them at any cost, I ignore them, I buffer, I run from them. I try to control the situation by overthinking? It really is exhausting.

In what ways are you judging yourself?
I tell myself that I should be better at dealing with uncertainty and that it’s not that bad. I know rationally that its not the end of the world but emotionally it just feels huge. I tell myself that I should just face it and somehow that I also have to do good to prove myself?
Everyone else seems to be handling this stuff so much better. And yes, there is A LOT of shame.

The way to stop a spiral is to ground yourself in what you know is true. You know you best. What if you leaned into truly believing that you always find a solution?
I find it really hard to believe that, but on the other hand, I probably have always found a solution in the end. I’m still here.

What tools do I have available:
Asking for help, (Self)coaching, therapy, also just myself? I am good at creating ideas and ways to figure things out. So I guess I AM able to find a solution for stuff.

What is awesome about you and how you tackle life? Everything is awesome about me! I’m a wonderful human being. ❤️‍🔥..and about how I tackle life? I keep trying and I have never given up, I always come back to things, even if it takes time/I need time. What If that’s ok?

Can you thank and appreciate your nervous system for everything its doing to protect you?
That’s something I really struggle with. It’s like I am at war with it.
I was just thinking if me and my nervous system were both people, we would probably both feel really misunderstood and hurt. One yelling “just stop, you are always overreacting” the other one yelling: “I am just trying to help you”, both exhausted, neither of them loosening the grip on the other. So I guess I am just as “annoying” as my nervous system feels to me.
I am not sure though how we can work better together?

 

 

Answer:

 

Okay, the visual of you fighting with your nervous system is SO GOOD! Let’s run with it! If you were to, say, loosen the grip on your nervous system and you thinking that you’re over reacting, what would that mean? What are a few alternatives to being at war with your nervous system that you could invite in? Are there any that seem interesting, possible, or even exciting? Which ones?