Feeling a sense of defeat

Hi coaches,

I have been feeling a bit deflated and defeated, while at the same time feeling accomplished and proud. I’ve started a new job and I’ve now been there for a month—yay! However, on the other hand, while going through this change, I have also struggled through the process. I’ve had sleepless nights but, along the way, taken exceptional care of myself. I called in sick when I didn’t sleep, and I canceled a bridesmaid rehearsal. So I’ve taken very good care of myself, but it’s felt very much like a good day/bad day cycle.

I like to think of life as 50/50, but it’s all felt very exhausting and overwhelming. One day I feel great and everything seems effortless, and it feels so rewarding and good. The next day, I might feel drained, and my mental thoughts become a battle. I feel as though I’m not looking at this in the most kind way, but I’m struggling to understand how to accept and love the 50/50. When I am down, I like to think I’m being kind to myself, yet here I am writing this and second-guessing my decisions and choices. It’s a thought pattern loop I just want to break free from!

 

 

Answer:

As you continue observing yourself, pay attention to the story you are telling about feeling deflated and defeated. Notice the story you are telling about life being 50/50. Many people have thoughts about this concept, you can too! Write them all out.  See if you notice any patterns.  Start some models and see what you are creating.  Try some that are like this-

C: I notice myself feeling deflated today

T: what do you think about that? What do you make it mean?

F: how do you feel when you think this way?

S;

A:

R:

See what you find and bring back anything you want more coaching on.  Make sure to observe yourself compassionately as much as you can.