Feeling guilty for being off sick

Hello,
I am new to FTC and have been trying to use models to unpick and understand unhelpful thoughts.

C: off sick from work for over a week
T: I need to toughen up not to lose more money
F: worthless
Action: sabotaging recovery time by berating myself in my head, making myself activated instead of relaxed and resting
Result: feeling anxious and restless

Versus

C: off sick from work for over a week
T: it is better to take a couple of weeks off and come back stronger than running on empty, causing potentially a longer leave of absence and losing more income as a result
F: hopeful
A: committing to resting and recovering – this is where I am meant to be right now
R: Being kind to myself, looking after myself and relaxing

I would be grateful for any feedback on my process.

Thank you very much for your time.

 

Answer:

What’s so interesting in your first model is that the thought “I need to toughen up” actually leads you to perceiving yourself as weak and worthless. I’d say that’s the true result in your first model.

As for the second model, try to keep your T short and sweet – a statement.
T: It is better to take a couple of weeks off and come back stronger.
F: Hopeful
A: Committing to resting and recovering, choosing to think, “this is where I’m meant to be right now” what else do and don’t you do when you feel hopeful?
R: Have my own back about my decision to take the time I need off and feel strongly about it.
When we keep our T lines simple, it helps simplify the rest of the model. Even if several of our Ts lead to the same Fs, As, and Rs, it’s still helpful to keep it simple and keep one statement in the T line (no ands, becauses, or compound sentences).
What do you think is standing in the way of you being able to lean into your Intentional Model?

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